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AIBU to take 6 children into a doctors appointment with me today rather than wait until tomorrow?

119 replies

felloveraplastictrain · 27/10/2016 09:31

I have had a sore throats and temp for a week. I know it's normally just leave it see if it gets better but although the temp is better the throat is so much worse. My tonsils join together in the middle in a sort of giant monotonsil.

Last year I had the same and ended up in hospital with I've antibiotics etc. Drinking and even swallowing. My own spit is hard now. BUT I don't see any pus etc which makes me think it's prob only a virus.

Anyway I have 6 children and no one to look after them after a night of gagging on my own tonsils I called the gp (feeing guilty about "just a sore throat"). And she told me to come in today.

I feel terribly bad that I am going to fill the tiny doctors with 6 young children. Last time I did that a lot of the other patients gave me daggers even though I had them standing against a wall rather than taking up the seats.

If I wait until tomorrow dh can take he day off and I can go alone.

I just keep having. Flashbacks to a and e oxygen and drips from last year!

Aibu to fill the surgery with children for the sake of a non pus filled just swollen throat?

OP posts:
crashdoll · 27/10/2016 09:56

Fuck judgy people. You're ill and you need to be seen. Wish you better!

Dawndonnaagain · 27/10/2016 09:57

Go, get better, your children don't need you in hospital they need you at home. Ignore judgemental its!

Hope you feel better soon.
Flowers

Popskipiekin · 27/10/2016 09:57

I totally came over all Sound of Music when you mentioned the 5 little girls in plaits! and see dingdong was similarly affected Grin.
I'm sure if I saw you come in with 6 children by yourself I would just think "wow" and be in awe of you coping, sick, with that many children. And if they are as well behaved as you say - what on earth is the problem? Get thee to the GP and hope they can sort you out asap.

Didiplanthis · 27/10/2016 10:02

Go. I work in a gp's. Before I had kids I always said can you get someone else to look after your children. I had no idea ! I now have 3 and know this is frequently impossible. You sound a brilliant mum. Let people judge. I have well behaved identical twin small boys. From most looks I get you would think I had had taken out pack of wild dogs even when they are sitting quietly chatting. You need to be seen today.

Maraschinocherry · 27/10/2016 10:03

YANBU of course

What else are you supposed to do? leave them in the car? (please don't do that). If you need to take bribes to keep them still, then so be it. Mine would stay still, but not for an hour.

I wouldn't judge you. The only parents I judge are the one who wait for ages in the waiting rooms, hot and stuffy rooms without taking the coats or all in one from their young children! If it's too hot for you, it's too hot for them! No wonder the babies get cranky.

CheerfulYank · 27/10/2016 10:04

Even if they burn the place to the ground and dance giggling on the ashes, what are you meant to do? When you're ill, you're ill.

I get strep throat in a horrible way every few years and it's the absolute worst. When it comes there is nothing for it but bed rest and antibiotics.

CheerfulYank · 27/10/2016 10:05

And feel better soon!

NovemberInDailyFailLand · 27/10/2016 10:06

I'm imagining you as Mrs Weasley now :)

Nothing wrong with taking your children. Nobody's business how many you have.

pinkyredrose · 27/10/2016 10:08

If you were that ill last time you should definitely go in! Your DC sound lovely, it would probably cheer my heart to see them!

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felloveraplastictrain · 27/10/2016 10:11

Dingdong- if you could see my house and my kids right now I think "taking care of" is being generousGrin.

They are alive and half of them are dressed - one is dressed as a zombie and the 12 year old made the peanut butter wraps for breakfast (she doesn't normally look after them and so to her peanut butter wraps seemed a reasonable thing for them).

My children are wonderful but even the oldest are not great with self care. Hence me being described as soft on them!

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EveOnline2016 · 27/10/2016 10:11

Please go, I need to go but no child care and my 2 are not so good at waiting rooms.

Original poster
felloveraplastictrain · 27/10/2016 10:12

Maras if only the car were an option Grin I don't drive so we have to walk there luckily it's only about a mile so I should make it !

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DelphiniumBlue · 27/10/2016 10:14

Go to the doctor today, but gargle with salt straight away, it works on infected tonsils quickly.

shinynewusername · 27/10/2016 10:17

I'm a GP - it's fine - yours will have undoubtedly coped with worse Wink

ItShouldHaveBeenJess · 27/10/2016 10:17

The others in the waiting room will probably assume it's Zombie Kid who's ill! Grin Seriously, I think you're awesome - I struggle with one DS when I'm ill! Good luck and feel better soon! Flowers

hungrywalrus · 27/10/2016 10:20

If people judge you then that's their problem, not yours. Don't let their silliness get in the way of getting the care that you need!

DiegeticMuch · 27/10/2016 10:22

Go! You could perhaps take the baby and the second youngest into the consulting room, and ask the 12 year old to keep an eye on the other 3 in the waiting room, as a compromise?

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felloveraplastictrain · 27/10/2016 10:22

Thanks everyone I am trying to have a drink now and then start slowly getting readySmile

To add to my morning I just went in the kitchen to find that the cat had pooed UP the back door (why??!!)

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Maryann1975 · 27/10/2016 10:25

I'm a childminder. I have often taken 6 children to the doctors in school holidays and in term time would take three little ones plus if its one of mine that has the appointment them too. I don't let them run round in the waiting room and they know not to mess around in the surgery so we don't have any problems. If anyone complained I would be giving them 'the look' that would indicate my displeasure at them for sticking their noses in.

taybert · 27/10/2016 10:29

Oh dear, not easy but you should go. I'm a GP. Someone coming with six red head children would brighten up my day. I'd let them all sit on the examination couch and use my sticker rewards (bribes). I'd rather you were seen if you needed seeing.

a7mints · 27/10/2016 10:29

12 is not a 'young child' If one of them is 12 surely she can stay at home with any that are say 7 +

Floggingmolly · 27/10/2016 10:33

Indeed... Surely the 12 year old can help a bit? She's not a young child Hmm. Couldn't she at the very least take the baby for a walk while you're in there?

megletthesecond · 27/10/2016 10:36

Yanbu. Look after yourself.

yoowhoo · 27/10/2016 10:38

Can your 12 year old stay at home? That's not young. At 12 I was walking to school and back by myself every day and certainly stayed home alone plenty of times. How old are the others op? I'm still impressed BTW that you're managing to care for them all while being ill but I agree 12 is not a young child. I was thinking all under 5!! (With maybe twins !!)

PollyPickets · 27/10/2016 10:41

Surely the 12yo can look after themselves for an hour or so without having to be dragged along to the doctors?

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