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Things I have discovered in my late thirties.

49 replies

FlapsTie · 22/10/2016 18:58

That I am happier and healthier at 12st than at 8st, I'd rather have boobs and a waist rather than hip bones and a thigh gap.

That my hair is actually curly, and there is no point fighting that, and that actually it looks nice when left mostly to its own devices.

That not everyone will like me, and that that's ok.

That it's not realistic or healthy to aspire to live in a show home all the time.

That duvet days occasionally are entirely essential.

That I'd rather have a solid ten hour's sleep than stay up to watch the end of a film.

Anyone else have any prime of life wisdom they've discovered?

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MLGs · 22/10/2016 19:00

Sex is what I've discovered late thirties. As something serioisly worth staying in for.

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FlapsTie · 22/10/2016 19:12

Oh that's true too. Although I've been with DH for ten years now so that happened in my Kate twenties really. But yes.

There's nothing so overrated as a bad shag, and nothing so underrated as a good shit. Wise words.

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SmellySphinx · 22/10/2016 19:15

Peoples opinions mean less and less. What would have bothered me for days only bothers me for a short while

Bluebolt · 22/10/2016 19:30

Friendships should not be hard work.

crayfish · 22/10/2016 19:33

That nobody really is interested in what I'm doing so not to feel so self conscious and worry what people think all the time.

That it's really ok to choose not to have certain people in your life, even if you are related to them.

That divorce will not ruin your life.

Dozyoldtwonk · 22/10/2016 19:35

That I don't have to say yes to every invite; it's ok to say no. And I do, often Grin

That one way relationships rarely work - if friends can't be bothered to keep in touch, I will do the same.

That quality over quantity usually wins, every time (no matter what the context).

GiveMyHeadPeaceffs · 22/10/2016 19:39

That I'm happy with my own company... and it's important to find a partner that understands that.

That it's never too late for most things. I had ds at 42 ( very late '30's Wink)

That I'm happy with my body; it's not perfect but it's good enough for me and my dp seems to like it too!

Oh and quality is always better than quantity in almost every aspect of life (other than peanut popcorn when quantity is always important!)

RainbowBriteRules · 22/10/2016 19:42

Sex for me too. Definitely sex.

Normandy144 · 22/10/2016 19:49

That I like Radio 2 and I don't care!

Meadows76 · 22/10/2016 19:51

That sex with a woman is very very nice.

Meadows76 · 22/10/2016 19:52

Yes and also radio 2

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FlapsTie · 22/10/2016 19:56

Tbf Meadows I discovered that in my twenties. And radio 2.

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deathandtaxes123 · 22/10/2016 20:00

Early 30s - if you try to include people, get them involved and they don't bother ther arse that it's ok to walk away and let them come to you (inevitably pissed off that they're not getting your attention)

JenniferYellowHat1980 · 22/10/2016 20:02

That actually my parents won't be around forever. My DM died recently aged 60 and I'd never have believed that it would happen to her.

JenniferYellowHat1980 · 22/10/2016 20:04

And that wider family are irrelevant unless you actually like them and want to spend time with them. Even grandparents.

Meadows76 · 22/10/2016 20:06

Tbf Meadows I discovered that in my twenties. And radio 2.. Is that why you asked the question? So you could tell people you did it sooner? Cheers. I'm glad I took the time to answer your post Hmm

DamnSkippy · 22/10/2016 20:07

That other people don't really notice or care how bad your hair looks.

HelsBels3000 · 22/10/2016 20:08

Confidence. In myself. In my opinions. In what I look like. Its a revelation!

bummyknocker · 22/10/2016 20:09

Yes Jennifer I don't even like/enjoy seeing some of my siblings!

Listen to your parents life stories now - before you know it they will be losing their memories or be dead and you won't have got their life story as there is plenty of time. There isn't.

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FlapsTie · 22/10/2016 20:10

Meadows, I was trying to be lighthearted. Sorry if I offended you, that completely wasn't my intention.

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hollieberrie · 22/10/2016 20:10

Oh mine have been said already but:

  • Sex with women is amazing so much better than men
  • Parents not being around forever (I'm late 30's and they are both dead - I still cant get my head round it at all and my heart breaks every day)
  • OF COURSE God doesn't exist. Cant believe all those years i believed in religion. What a mug I was. (Note - this is personal to me and not in any way a dig at those who do believe).
Original poster
FlapsTie · 22/10/2016 20:11

I probably should have put a smiley at the end of my radio 2 post. Reading back it looks different to how I intended it.

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hollieberrie · 22/10/2016 20:12

Jennifer Flowers for you. Sorry for your loss. Losing my mum is the worst thing that has ever happened to me.

Meadows76 · 22/10/2016 20:14

I wasn't offended as such but it did read as a bit of a 'i did it before you haha' post. TBH I slept with women in my 20's before but it wasn't anywhere near as good as it is now. I think perhaps that's general sex though regardless of gender, others seem to be enjoying the sex more too lol

mumofthemonsters808 · 22/10/2016 20:14

That the only person you can rely on in this life is yourself, it was not until I reached my forties that this became clear.

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