'Having reached a "mature" age I can say that I have never asked before sex any question remotely like "is it ok if I stick..." or " can i put" or "do you want to have like...penetrative.." Although being a sensible young man I did find on the occasion that my partner didn't want to have "full" sex that using condoms provides the perfect opportunity to establish this really. Does it not ? I've had a few one night stands and I think the women i was with seemed to enjoy it, i certainly hope that they would, that was of course my intention smile I have never believed that verbal consent needs to be obtained before each "escalation" and I just can't understand a sexual situation where it would be.'
This is exactly the sort of bullshit I'm talking about. Women say men should establish consent and you have (apparently) normal men homing in one detail, such as verbal consent, and making out like it's some sort of burdensome requirement that they can't possibly fulfil.
Growapear, it's normal for two people who are touching and kissing each other to talk, make sounds, smile, laugh, etc. All of those things establish consent, either verbally or nonverbally. It's not at all complicated. A woman who is actively participating, smiling, kissing back, clearly enjoying herself, is consenting. A woman who doesn't smile, doesn't make eye contact, isn't really kissing back, seems uncomfortable, doesn't initiate any of the activity herself, is likely not to be consenting. It's very very straightforward. And yet men for some reason like to make out it's very complicated and women are asking for too much. Why on earth is that the case?