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Original poster

To think that 14 year olds in a relationship should not be classed as 'couples'.

183 replies

Elendon · 19/10/2016 17:08

It just beggars belief that this should be the case. They are not in a relationship, nor are they couples. Nor should they be seen as being so. How can two 14/15 year old children be seen as being in adult enough to do the things 'couples' do?

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milkyface · 20/10/2016 15:06

Ok then elonden because you've had three teenagers you must know best.

Your point is stupid. You just keep saying the same thing, we disagree, you say it again, someone else disagrees, your repeat.

What's the big fucking deal? If they think they're a couple they're a couple, whoever they are.

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Elendon · 20/10/2016 15:07

Especially when that relationship happened at 13. How hard is this to understand?

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Elendon · 20/10/2016 15:09

So a 12 year old having sex with a twenty year old is a couple? Cause they say it's so.

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milkyface · 20/10/2016 15:09

Ok ok so why exactly do you think they're not couples? Explain properly... Why?

Not 'I just don't think they should' we know that but why don't you think they should?

Quietwhenreading · 20/10/2016 15:10

That's a change of position. It fair enough.

Can you please define what you think constitutes "a couple" because I'm struggling to follow your logic a bit.

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Elendon · 20/10/2016 15:10

Murkyface You really are deliberately missing the point.

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Quietwhenreading · 20/10/2016 15:11

A 12 yo having sex with a 20 yo is child abuse.

milkyface · 20/10/2016 15:11

you're clutching at straws now - no that's child's abuse and if the12yo said they were in a couple I'd assume they had been groomed. If the 20yo said it, they'd get arrested.

We're talking about teenagers not completely age in appropriate relationships and grooming.

milkyface · 20/10/2016 15:12

No I'm not.

You don't think teenagers in a relationship are a couple. I get that.

I want you to explain why

MrsHam13 · 20/10/2016 15:12

I was with my husband at 14..17 years on still together. I most definitely was and still am in love with him.

Yabu, there's no set rule of age where you suddenly become a couple. It's two people who are together, regardless of age.

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Elendon · 20/10/2016 15:13

Teenagers have relationships, but it doesn't mean they are a couple.

Now if you disagree then you explain to me what constitutes a couple.

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HarleyQuinzel · 20/10/2016 15:13

You're obviously insistent that teenagers are incapable of having a meaningful relationship. 18 is your cut off point for being a couple... Hmm.

Lots of teenagers have friends that last a month too, does that mean they're incapable of having a true friend? Me and my DP have been together since we were 14, we were just as much a couple then as we are now. Sorry.

HarleyQuinzel · 20/10/2016 15:13

A couple simply means two people in a relationship. That's it.

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Elendon · 20/10/2016 15:15

This thread feels like I'm 19 again. I'm in a pub in the arse end of Belfast and some 20 something men are trying to justify having sex with a 15 year old.

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HarleyQuinzel · 20/10/2016 15:16

No because a grown man having sex with a child isn't a relationship, is it?

Mozfan1 · 20/10/2016 15:16

You're talking bollocks

Why do you get to decide who is s couple and who isn't?

You're sounding very OTT.

milkyface · 20/10/2016 15:16

Teenagers have relationships, but it doesn't mean they are a couple

Yes. For the third time - WHY?????

a couple is a few things.

You can have a couple of something eg 2

A couple of socks, a couple of ducks, and couple of pizzas

You can be In a couple romantically - ie boyfriend and girlfriend, husband and wife, dating..

You can a couple non romantically eg when a teacher says 'couple up" as in get into pairs, or you could say oh there's a couple of ladies over there. Or look there's a couple of men.,, etc etc etc

I think a romantic couple imo is anyone dating or serious or married whatever really!

milkyface · 20/10/2016 15:17

. I'm in a pub in the arse end of Belfast and some 20 something men are trying to justify having sex with a 15 year old.

NO. NOBODY on this thread is trying to justify child abuse or under age sex.

Sorry op you're talking shit now because you can't explain your point.

tabulahrasa · 20/10/2016 15:18

"My point is that teenagers have relationships but this should not be classed as being a couple."

FFS, really?

It's one word that instantly describes them as being in a romantic relationship - it's just easier and shorter than anything else the press or official reports could use.

That's why they're being called a couple, not because it's some sort of official relationship status.

Who calls anyone a couple except in papers or reports?

milkyface · 20/10/2016 15:19

Anyone who isn't married or civil partnered has to fill in forms as single anyway!

Does that help op? IHmm

Soubriquet · 20/10/2016 15:21

OP
You have not made sense through this entire thread

First you say they can't be a couple because they are under 18.

People say yes they can so you start using young people don't know who Bonnie and Clyde are. (Why?!)

Now it's back onto under 18's can't be a couple and you're saying we are excusing a older man having sex with a 15 year old. THAT DOESNT WORK!!!

Couple means two!!! Two people in a relationship ARE a couple!!

What part of that don't you understand?

Mozfan1 · 20/10/2016 15:23

well said

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Elendon · 20/10/2016 15:25

Murkyface, no you explain why they are seen as a couple!

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Maudlinmaud · 20/10/2016 15:26

I have read the whole thread.
Im lost. Totally fucking lost.

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Elendon · 20/10/2016 15:26

soubriquiet You know perfectly well the nuances regarding call a teenage relationship as a couple.

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