To buy DD a whole new wardrobe for a completely ridiculous reason.

[WitchOfEorzea]

Have NC for this as deep down I am aware this is completely batshit.

I went into DD's nursery today. It was for a meeting with dd's senco (asd)

She was a little late so I spent a bit of time in the nursery watching dd.

When I left I was in bits.

When I was at school it was difficult for me to fit in. For a start I have high functioning autism BUT on top of that....

A he-man bobbed lego haircut. Dresses that would have suited a 50's pair of curtains, clumpy practical shoes, nothing girly or sparkly and I was torn to pieces by other girls.

Now fast forward to today and dd was sat on her own, in mismatched clothes because frankly anything she'll actually wear is a win (refuses), hair just brushed and her favourite wellies.

There was a gaggle of girls (yes I know, I know they are 4) making a fuss of this other girl because she had a sparkly hand bag and shoes.

I'm probably not explaining this very well. I just saw dd on her own (I know also asd is a big part of it) and this other group bonding over pretty hair clips and well....stuff I just haven't been doing for dd.

Getting a brush through her hair everyday is done but no fancy plaits or anything because she hates me touching it.

Clothes: I've never really chosen any for her. Older family members have always bought her so many (plus hand me downs from friends) that I've never had to.

I just feel like it may be like a small thing but that I'm setting her up to have a harder time like I did.

Is there a site anywhere for 'toddler fashion', where can I get a spirally handbag?

Have I gone completely insane?

[CheshireDing]

I get a lot of my DC's stuff off ebay, they love it when a parcel comes for them :) (might be worth a look too in the future?)

I usually just look for brands they seem to stand the test of time - Next, Monsoon, Vertbaudet.

You can get some seriously sparkly Next stuff on ebay in perfect condition

Loving the wellies on page 1.

[Cagliostro]

Oh bless you OP. I have Aspergers and I totally get you about the pangs when your child goes through the same things as you :(

I just wanted to say though that long term it is a good thing that your DD is who she is. Mine was always the one in mismatched neon and even at 5 Jeffing years old other school mums were telling us to make her dress in proper coordinated outfits. But I'm really glad we let her be who she is. She is 9 now and is just so delightfully HERSELF. And she has heaps of friends!