to think my dd isnt overweight?

[marvelousdcomics]

So, my DD (14) has suffered ED's. Latest one was binge eating which was traumatising for her. Went to GP appointment yesterday (we do monthly just to check how she is), he weighed her. After, when dd wasn't in the room, he told me she is overweight???? She has put a bit of weight on obviously, due to the binging and everything, but she doesn't look overweight at all. Yes, shes gained a bit of fat but not so much that she looks 'fat'. I will not be telling her anything that was said while she wasn't there, I just want her to be happy and healthy. Is weighing yourself even accurate? She was 5'3" and 127lbs by the way. She really doesn't look fat, actually quite slim.

[Lightsoffplease]

Sounds like you're managing it all very well, op. Not sure what the gp was trying to say, maybe he was just implying you need to watch your dd's weight in case she puts on too much.

I was very skinny for most of my teenager years. Ages 14-15 I seemed to put on a bit of weight and then somehow lost it again but I am now just an average size 12. I've never had an ED but I was often teased for being 'stick thin' or told I was anorexic. It was just my natural frame. I realise your dd has had ED but thought it may be something to think about - that your dd is having/has had natural or hormonal weight fluctuations?

[marvelousdcomics]

Lightsoff, yes I suspect some weight gain will be due to natural/hormonal reasons. She is well developed and is still growing so it makes sense. Her periods have only just come back after her anorexia so her hormones will be all over the place anyway. Thank you

[Wallywobbles]

To put the weight in perspective my 11 yo DD is fairly curved but slim and weighs 106lbs at the same height as your daughter.

I'm also the same height but in my late 20s I weighed 133lbs as a seriously fit swimmer.

It really depends on her build and fitness levels.

[Cinnamal]

OP, sorry I haven't read the full thread so apologies if I'm repeating something. Binge eating is extremely common after anorexia, I think the reasoning is that after a prolonged period of starvation the body does all it can to regain what it needs. Overshooting a healthy weight is to be expected as part of the recovery process and can be welcomed as a stage of recovery! As she continues to work on her recovery the need for binge eating should reduce and a normal relationship with food should hopefully develop, chances are her weight will stabilise then at a natural set point for her.

Having been anorexic she is probably acutely aware of the slightest change to her body shape, and any mention of excess weight gain at this point could well lead to a relapse, or bulimia symptoms developing.

It sounds like by not focusing on her weight you are doing everything right, and I really hope your daughter continues to be happy

[Highlandfling80]

Really xfactor I have just gone a calculation and it suggests that BMI is fairly meaningless at this age but states weight isvwithin an average range.

[marvelousdcomics]

Thank you cinnamal

Thank you everyone