just yelled at a school bully outside my house. AIBU?

[MontePulciana]

Bully was on a bike, clearly not hers. Victim was trying to retrieve bike, all I could hear was "you're gonna ruin the handle bars". Another boy joined her pulling bike away from boy. This was right outside my house. I hate school bullies with a passion so decided to go out and "have a word". Admittedly I was a bit confrontational. I asked who the bike belonged to, what was she doing to it and then to get off it. She was pretty taken aback and made off swiftly. DH thinks bullies should be dealt with by the victim only and thinks I've put my foot in it. They were about 14. AIBU?

Well done OP🎖

You did the right thing OP. You DH sounds like a pathetic wet lettuce, sorry! What would he do if one of your kids was being bullied??? Leave them to sort it out themselves then I presume?

monsters presumably you're one of those parents who think children including teenagers should never, ever be pulled up on bad behaviour or hear the word "no". what a prattish thing to say - and yes, "shrieking" is only ever used against women so you lose troll points for that too.

She wasn't 'shrieking', monsters, she was taking a stand against bullying, and I for one, am all for it. If more people stepped in and intervened in situations like this, the --cowardly little fuckers- children might think twice about intimidating others.

Well, done, OP. Wish there'd be a few more adults like you about when I was a kid.

Were they in uniform? I might be tempted to tell the school as well

Oh this is nothing. I've been known to discipline kids I teach across a Tesco on a weekend. (And they usually do exactly what I say - does this mean I'm a good teacher?!)

But yeah, you did nothing. I'd have wiped the floor (verbally of course) with the little shit.

Sorry, cross posted with several others on this! Onenerf - completely agree on the term 'shrieking' - bloody misogynistic. I love a good 'taking a stand against bullies' story. I reiterate - good on you, OP.

You did the right thing. More people should be like you.

Well done.

I yelled like a fish wife at 3 kids taking a cat out of our close to "play" with it.

Poor cat shot back down the road.

They were 8-12 & I'm pretty sure they'd never been shouted at like that before going by the look on their faces.

Good for you!

thanks Nishky me too

So shrieking at children is ok on mn now? Who knew.

Yes. It's great. You should try it.

I shrieked - and swore - at some kids throwing apples at an old man the other week. Not proud of my language to be fair, but I was raging. So sue me.

I once lost my shit with a group of kids who were tipping bins over outside some pensioners' flats, took a photo of them on my phone and stood over them while "They picked it all up, or I posted the photo on Facebook".

My DP at the time had a right go at me about it (when he'd finished hiding behind me), probably one of the reasons why he's now my ex, the cowardly arsehole.

Pathetic wet lettuce, I must remember that one!

I think I must have come across very angry today. The girl did look like she was about to cry. Not calling these knob heads out at an early stage just encourages them to become serial adult knob heads in my opinion. Anyway thanks for all the responses, we buried our second child today and I've been a raging lunatic for a few weeks now. Beating that bully today gave me some encouragement the world still needs me.

When DS was 10 he was tackled in the school playing field after school one day and the boy started beating the crap out of him. ONE parent intervened, hauling the boy off DS. I was incredibly grateful to that parent, so well done OP.

I always found it mindboggling how normalised fighting seemed to be at that school. I once shouted at two children who had another pinned to the wall while they encouraged a third child to hit the first one. No one else seemed to care and when I told DH about it that night, he just shrugged and said, "That's what it was like at my school."

Oh Monte I'm so sorry

op

Monte

I've done the same - yelled at a group of boys (aged about 11) who were thumping another boy. They started whining "he started it" so I said very firmly that didn't matter: there were more of them so it was bullying.

You did the right thing. Too many people do sod all these days and just let this type of behavior go.

Thank you for doing that. I wish more people would stand up to bullies.

Well done, OP.
When my brother was 12 he had almost this exact situation - a girl tried to take his bike and wind him up, except she had 4/5 older boys wth her too, who pushed Dbro to the ground and started kicking him. Luckily a passing driver stopped to intervene, them gave him a lift to our house. We were very grateful he decided to intervene shriek at the children, and lucky he didn't see it as Dbro's problem to sort out.

You did a good thing.

Oh this brings back awful memories for me.. The summer before I started secondary school, I was outside my house. A girl and two boys I vaguely recognised were trying to rob a bike outside a neighbours garden. I had my one year old niece with me, she was in her buggy. I told them to stop and they decided to follow me shouting and cursing at me. They caught up with me and one of the boys punched me right in the face. I was screaming, I was so worried they'd do something to my baby niece. I wish an adult had been there to defend me

My friend found her sons bully, followed him into corner shop and frightened the life out of him (fiery red head). Son never had a moment trouble from bully again (they were all 13). Could have massively backfired but I was impressed!