WIBU to give our baby the surname Georgeson-Johns?

[AshtonBacks]

Not much else to it!

Oh god, I mean... what if your child doesn't have any children? what if your child decides to take her husband's name, or is a boy who goes on to marry a woman who takes his name? What if your child's child's child ends up with 17 names or none ...What, to quote, Alan Partridge, if your arm bursts? I'm sure the child can work it out when the issues arise! You can only name one generation at a time, and Georgeson-Johns is a perfectly fine and nice surname!

All this endless 'what-iffing' is just a way to make it seem ludicrous for a woman to have a stake in her child's surname, I think.

The solutions suggested above for future generations:
Pick one name from each of the double-barrelled parents;
Choose one parent's name only;
Choose an entirely different name.
Only work if the future generations are more flexible than their parents were.
What happens if Mr Double-barrell and Ms Double-barrell are as inflexible as the OP and her partner and neither will give ground?
Why do people have to make things so complicated??

I like it. A bit alliterative. Go for it.

Seek
"All this endless 'what-iffing' is just a way to make it seem ludicrous for a woman to have a stake in her child's surname, I think."
Indeed

..What, to quote, Alan Partridge, if your arm bursts?

All this endless 'what-iffing' is just a way to make it seem ludicrous for a woman to have a stake in her child's surname, I think

Yes, indeed.

What happens if Mr Double-barrell and Ms Double-barrell are as inflexible as the OP and her partner and neither will give ground?

Well that's their problem isn't it? Weird thing to worry about. As Seek says 'All this endless 'what-iffing' is just a way to make it seem ludicrous for a woman to have a stake in her child's surname'

Exactly, cathf.

Fairly obvious, I'd have thought.

And I'm always in favour of an Alan Patridge quote!

The only thing I won't do is not just forget about my surname... not sure how that's classed as 'inflexible'

No, that is your projection, Bunty.

Who the heck said it should be the mother not having a 'stake' in her surname? Only you.

Ashton Sexist idiots do tend to call women all sorts of names for wanting the same things men want... namely keeping their surname and sharing a surname with their children.

You seem very angry about double barrelled names Koala.

Sorry - can't post for a moment. My brain has fused trying to work out what two people with hyphenated last names will do if they want to make a new family.

Nope. Completely insoluble problem. Sorry.

Incidentally, can I strongly advise not leaving out the hyphen if you want both names to be used. I don't know anyone who has done this where both names had survived to secondary school.

Bertrand I have two surnames, no hyphen, and use both. I like the flexibility of being able to drop one.

How many threads are there on MN about posters' future husbands getting in a strop because she doesn't intend to change her name? Or an unmarried woman wants to give a baby her surname and her partner is aghast at the very idea?

Loads.

Society generally doesn't value a woman's name as being on equal footing as her male partner's. That's why double-barrelling is important to a lot of people.

You're a woman OP, you're supposed to bend (ideally until you're out of sight)

Re preventing mother having a stake in the surname - what rubbish! Why do people have to make everything into a point about perceived sexism?

My friend did not take her husband's name when she married, but has always kept her own.
The children took his name.
Her logic was that no-one would ever question that, as the mother, the children were hers. She gave birth to them.
Therefore giving the children her husband's name put his on 'an equal footing'.
Sexist?

Nope. Completely insoluble problem. Sorry.

Why do people have to make everything into a point about perceived sexism?

Because very often the perceived sexism is real sexism.

Yes, the view that a man's surname is more important than a woman's surname is sexist. The assumption that all women should change their names after marriage, men shouldn't, and children should have their father's surname is.. wait for it.. sexist.

SEXIST SEXIST SEXIST

If my child has a double barrelled name, I won't get Mrs Georgeson at school... if they had just Georgeson, I would, so in reality, you all turn into Georgesons

Did anyone say the man's surname took precedence over the woman's in the context of naming the baby? I can't see anyone who did, but I may have missed something?
There is a difference between tradition and sexism.
Don't sweat the small stuff.

But it's not 'small stuff' for the OP.

"Why do people have to make everything into a point about perceived sexism?"

They don't. Well, not unless it's sexist..........l.l