To ask a very personal question?

[Mrsemcgregor]

I am talking pubic hair. What does everyone do with it? I hate mine (especially as I get older it's getting wilder!) but what I hate more is bumpy itchy red skin whenever I try to tackle it. However I seem to be under the impression that most women are smooth and basically hairless down there and I must seem like some sort of cave woman or 70s porn star in comparison.

My husband hasn't mentioned that he minds at all...but maybe he does?

And if everyone is hairless and neat down there please please tell me how to do it without hideous rashes!!!

Sparechange

Do you think the same about flat chests?
Are men with AA cup partners sexual deviants as well?

Oddly enough, no - possibly because I was a AA cup myself until after I had kids and fed them etc. I don't claim to be logical. This is just the way I feel about shaved fannies.

Some people like them, some people don't. I come into the "don't" category.

But as I have already stated in another post - what makes you happy with yourself is fine by me. Just be sure it's yourself you are doing it for.

Though in a way I don't have much choice either, I have so much hair and removing it has never been a great experience that being hairy is my only real option. But at 45 I can give zero fucks what anyone else thinks. Harder at 18.

Auser
My poor dad has and always had had one lonely hair in his chest. Clearly even at his advanced age he's not a grown up

Now you're just being silly. I said I couldn't understand men waxing their chests - not that men with no chest hair weren't grown up. But it's obviously not worth trying to discuss anything when people are obviously determined to misinterpret what I am saying soothes can have a little rant.

Rant away, dear, rant away.

As in most things, people have preferences and logical and illogical preferences.

You enjoy yours, I'll enjoy mine.

Agree, River

Honestly I think it's my generation that tend to be leading the charge of the no hair brigade. I'm 25... it is the norm amongst those that I know to be completely bare. It's a bloody pain on the arse though and thoroughly unpleasant and I'm pretty lax about it since being married and a mum and what not.

I like mine. It's comforting. I like to think that it protects my bits. Keeps them warm!

Plucking? That would be a full day long task if I did that

I have a tedious routine involving a comb and a pair of small scissors. I hate trimming down there but I do it fairly regularly as I hate being too hot and sweaty much much more.

Would love one of these electric trimmers people have mentioned. What a loser not to have thought of this before!

I trim with nail scissors when I can be bothered. completely bald with waxing is not for me and DH really doesn't care

porridge see, to me that's rather depressing that you've felt obliged to do something that's been a pain in the arse and unpleasant because it's the done thing. Do you know or have any idea what the reasoning behind it is? Is it hygiene? Is it because boys/men expect it? Do you think your friends do it because they really want to or because it's expected off them?

I have a wilkinson sword razor with a trimmer on one end. It does a good job. I think it's Quattro?

I CBA . Maybe a quick Veet round the edges before a beach holiday but it usually leaves a rash. I'm hoping that like a hipster's beard , my bush will come back into vogue

I am mostly full bush (DH refers to this as The Mighty Boosh). And I go through phases where I have regular salon waxing - either Brazilian or all off.
Just about to start IPL in salon. When I am not doing the regular waxing I tend to shave sporadically and ALWAYS end up with the most horrendous rash.

I'm a shaver! Get rid of the whole lot every couple of days in the shower, I actually find it gets irritating if I leave it to long, bit itchy! I'v been doing it for about ten years now an don't get shaving rash or ingrowing hairs! I did stop for a while, while I was massively pregnant and for a while after having my daughter and actually loved having a big old bush lol its just the growing out process I would struggle with

River, the problem, to my mind, with the people who say it's hygienic, is that implicitly they're creating a dichotomy with themselves on the 'cleaner' side and those who don't remove their pubes on the 'dirty' side. Even if they don't mean it to sound like that. And factually it's not really correct - I'd say that shaving and waxing, since they're more likely to lead to infections from ingrown hairs and nicks etc, isn't more hygienic at all.

It troubles me that young girls are being pressured to do something they may not wish to do, something which may even be harmful to their genital health, with the rhetoric of it being cleaner, fresher, and more hygienic.

I have incredibly thick hair that appears to be rooted into my skeletal system. Shaving=stubble within hours. Immac =my hair laughing heartily and zero effect. Waxing=blood everywhere and regrowth in days. Yes, even professional waxing. With hard wax. My hair is like Kevlar wire.

So frankly fuck it. The Urwald stays as it is. Or a light trim if I'll be in swimmers a lot.

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RiverTam I obviously am intelligent to know that it is more hygienic to have hair, I've rea about it, I know the facts. Perhaps I'm just a sheep. It is the done thing to be bare. I remember being in sixth form and it being talked about of people had got together and the girl was particularly hairy, nicknames would follow her round for years. It IS depressing, yes. That being said, I do feel cleaner and nicer when it's fully shaved. But i also find it such an effort to go to and within 24 hours it is uncomfortable.

Excuse my typos. I blame baileys, fat fingers and being distracted by bake off.

Yes, that's true. But I don't know if that is the prevailing rhetoric. I'm afraid I do mainly think it's to do with porn, and is simply one of various things that girls are simply expected to do as the norm.

I'm inclined to agree with you. I don't personally watch porn but I'm guessing the expectation is coming from men who do watch it.

Thanks for replying porridge. I think lots of us when we're younger are sheep, it's very hard to be the one person to stand against the tide, especially about something so personal that's now so public.

RiverTam my DD definitely doesn't wax. She tidies. But only round rhe edges and top of her legs.

She thinks I'm weird.

I know there was one of those classroom documentary shows on recently where boys were saying loud and clear that they'd never go with a girl with pubes and the girls were just silent on the subject. Makes me simultaneously angry and want to cry and really depressed and so frustrated. I don't want DD to live in that world.

I think "cleaner, fresher, more hygienic" is seen as a more acceptable reason for pube-removal, as opposed to peer/male pressure or porn.