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AIBU to feel a little suspicious , FB related .

147 replies

Penvelopesnightie · 12/10/2016 13:17

On my FB I have seen a distant relative of mine and he's in photos taken by he's female partner at a children's party . Him and partner have no children of their own .He is pictured on he's own with the children in every photo . I wonder if I'm being unreasonable to think he's actually quite creepy and why is he in a room without any adults present , just him and he's partner taking photos . Obviously the children's parents have seen these photos on FB and there are no comments made .

OP posts:
FasterThanASnakeAndAMongoose · 12/10/2016 13:56

mycatstares Grin

OP, when you've finished calling 101 you'd better get straight on to cancelling the cheque.

BitOutOfPractice · 12/10/2016 13:59

"Fix your autocorrect, it keeps typing "he's" instead of "his"

That is the most brillianty PA grammar sideswipe I've ever seen Grin

I will join the biscuit chorus though OP. YABVU

Original poster
Penvelopesnightie · 12/10/2016 13:59

I'm not going to drip feed or give out any other information about this guy so I probably have over reacted and been overly suspicious . This thread needs more information really that I'm not going to give .

OP posts:
user1474627704 · 12/10/2016 14:01

I've been mulling it over all day

You need a hobby OP. Maybe read a book.

Ausernotanumber · 12/10/2016 14:01

Weird. You. Not him.

My best friend is a single man aged 57. He often collects my DD from activities and drops her home for me. There's photos of her hanging off His neck on my Facebook.

Also photos of her with her dads girlfriend.

Non issue.

Ausernotanumber · 12/10/2016 14:01

Of course it needs more info. Let's see paedo? On the sex offenders register? What?

RortyCrankle · 12/10/2016 14:02

That's me stuffed then - there are lots of pics around of me and my sister's children when they were young with no-one else in the shot. I can see the headline now: Shock! Horror! photos discovered of aunt alone with nieces/nephew!

Penvelopesnightie
Yes you are probably right , it's not really any of my business but because it's on FB i saw pics and didn't know what to think.

Well it's patently obvious that thinking isn't one of your strong points is it OP? And you are quite right, it's none of your business.

RebeccaCloud9 · 12/10/2016 14:03

It is my daughter's 2nd birthday party at the end of month. Several of my childless friends are coming, as they are very close to her and she adores them. We are going to have a few rooms used for the party so it may well happen that one or two of them may be alone with the kids at some point. I would expect them to take photos throughout the day, and they may well put some on their social media. I don't think anyone would find that in the least suspicious?? But, would that be because they are women and would it be different if they were men? If so, how sad.

Ausernotanumber · 12/10/2016 14:04

There are also pics of DD with a male relative in his mid twenties. She also often stays at his house alone. She's 18.

It's her brother, though, so that's ok, or do I need to log that with 101 ?

ItShouldHaveBeenJess · 12/10/2016 14:06

Would it be highly inappropriate to start chanting "Photo! Photo!"?

yes, Jess, it bloody would

SuperFlyHigh · 12/10/2016 14:08

YABU and unhinged

SarcasmMode · 12/10/2016 14:08

Well if you're not going to mention the details then why the fuck would you start a thread about it?

Without knowing I'd think you have some psychological issues related to this to have this mindset as the average person wouldn't bat an eyelid.

Ausernotanumber · 12/10/2016 14:09

You know the thought that some busy body could see pics of DD with DS and make something sordid out of it makes me sick.

I have big gap. Ds Is years and years older than DD. because we had to move and he was at secondary school / moved away loads of my friends don't know what he looks like. I'm not sure that some mere acquaintances from the school run even know he exists.

And the thought that they could look and make something sordid out of a big brother who adores his wee sister is just awful.

Sparklesilverglitter · 12/10/2016 14:10

This thread needs more information really that I'm not going to give well then why the fuck did you bother starting such a stupid thread

Ausernotanumber · 12/10/2016 14:10

I've let DD and her mates go and stay at his for years. God help him he does it to give me a break and he's utterly fantastic with them. DD best mate fancies him rotten. It's just something sweet and I never thought anyone would see it any other way.

Have I been doing the wrong thing?

Cheesecakeiloveyou45 · 12/10/2016 14:12

This thread needs more information really that I'm not going to give So why did you start the thread?

Have you never had a photo taken with a child that isn't yours? Did that make you an abuser?

If this is the way you think of men with children that aren't these I think you need some kind of help

LuckySantangelo1 · 12/10/2016 14:13

Op you sound absolutely bonkers. Child free people aren't allowed to be in pictures with kids? What a fucked up attitude that is.

FairNotFair · 12/10/2016 14:14
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TriniRedVelvet · 12/10/2016 14:14

You've been mulling it over all day?? Really?? Maybe you need to go for a walk and evaluate what you're doing with your life.

NerrSnerr · 12/10/2016 14:15

Of course there's more info OP, because you wouldn't have thought to tell us that in the first post. Did you really expect people to say that's he's creepy from the information you gave?

Alabastard · 12/10/2016 14:16

Come to think of it there used to be a picture in my mom's house of me sat on some childless man's lap. I suppose that was a bit weird. He had a disguise on, what was he hiding?

Oh wait. My mistake. I'm thinking of Father Christmas.

PrivatePike · 12/10/2016 14:17

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bloodyteenagers · 12/10/2016 14:19

Thinking about pictures that have been taken over the years..
I have childless friends in several pictures with children. No other adults on the pictures.
I have parents in several pictures with children that are not their own. No other adults in view.
I have several pictures of a child in a room with several adults. Quiet a few of these pictures, the adults at the time childless.
Should I be concerned about something? Should I be still be mulling these over years later?

starsorwater · 12/10/2016 14:20

It's so hard not to be judgemental

about grammar.

Purpleprickles · 12/10/2016 14:21

How do you know he isn't related to the children? I have two childless db but they come to my ds parties to help out and to celebrate his birthday.... and shock horror there are photos of them and children.

But then as your last post suggests there is going to be some massive reveal which will of course make your ridiculousness make sense and give all of us even more reason to disbelieve that any of this is real.