To tell my mum she's taking the piss?

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I'm a hairdresser who is currently on Mat leave. My mum meets up with her old university friends a couple of times a year and makes a night of it. She asked at the weekend could I do her hair and four of her friends hair for Tonight. I told her no problem but I will charge her friends but not salon price ( I always do my mums for free) she asked me do I know how much it would cost. I told her without exactly knowing what they want doing I wouldn't be able to give a price. She said she thinks majority will have a wash,cut and blow and maybe an updo. I told her call it £15.00 each then if they don't have updo £10. She said that's brilliant.
Now ive just recieved a text off my mum saying how excited her and her girls are to have a "pampering" with me and such a bargain for only £30.
I am so annoyed that my mums pulled this stunt. But now she's told her friends it's £30 collectively so I'm going to look a massive twat saying no it's £15 each if you have an updo!
Would IBU to tell her to piss off
She's due at 3 o'clock and I'm half tempted not too answer the door!!

Wow! I pay £70 for a cut and blow dry and I think it's worth it because my hairdresser does a great job. Your mum and friends were offered an extremely generous deal. Well done for stopping this unfair behaviour

I'm just at the outcome of this really as I genuinely thought they would pay what you requested - to save face if nothing else.
Huffing and puffing? Did your DM put her up to that?

The 'quiet word' afterwards was totally out of line. You weren't kidding when you said your DM has form.

Like pp have mentioned, I would have been very grateful for the special rate and in these cases I usually follow up the favour with a bottle of or a box of chocs.

Well done for standing your ground. I often read AIBU's and wonder if the poster will stick up for themselves or succumb to pressure.
Good on your DH as well...popping in and out with baby. Love that! Too bloody right!

My mum still thinks I was being unreasonable ,she thinks my emotions and hormones since having baby have just exploded - thats the only reason she can think of as to why I was being difficult and I came off as money grabbing Yes mother, that's exactly why I refused to do my job.

it's like a lot of you said, for the prices I gave them you'd be well happy with. I refuse to be told I was being unreasonable or money grabbing.

Don't back down, on anything!
If you give an inch she'll take a mile

Does she have a skill you can use?

If you feel like responding to her latest comments about you being 'hormonal' and 'emotional' since your baby arrived you could reply with "Actually Mum, after having the baby I have realised just how much I value my time with X (the name of your baby) and don't want to waste any of it unnecessarily or by doing jobs I could be paid for for free. If that makes me in your eyes hormonal or emotional, then so be it."

Or you could deafen her with your silence on the matter and take the high ground on this.

Tell her that your hormones/emotions have made you realise that she has been taking the piss for all these years.

Not only freebies for her, but expecting them for her friends to the point that she deliberately lies about/does not pass on the prices that you say.

Well done, OP.

Well done for valuing your skills and your time. Stick to it!

Just RTFT and I'm horrified by your mum's behaviour.

Well done for standing your ground! You were being more than generous in the first place. They should have been delighted at £10-£15 AND given you a tip.

It wasn't until I became a mother myself that I slowly began to realise my own mother's shortcomings. Up until recently I just went along with whatever she wanted. It's been tricky navigating our relationship.

Having a baby has made you learn to value a child for who they are and to refuse, ever again, to be put out by a selfish mother who puts the unreasonable expectations of her friends before the needs of her own daughter.

Wow - just wow. Your mother thinks your emotions and hormones are the reason you don't want to do work for free for HER friends (not yours)? What exactly are you getting out of this arrangement, if you don't get paid fairly? Maybe you could ask her that?

You were doing her a massive favour in the first place and instead of saying 'thank you very much, you're so kind' she changed the price without asking you, messed you around on when they were coming, and told you you were being unreasonable not to let some of her friends have the haircuts for free.

That is just completely ridiculous, selfish and rude. Good for you for standing up for yourself. Just tell her no next time. No exceptions.

Alternatively get a price list from the local salon and present it to her and say 'these are the prices I'll be charging your friends from now on, as you can see it's the market rate'.

Ah yes, the good old hormonal and emotional excuse. When I had DD that was apparently to blame for my finally telling my horrible sister where to go. Unfortunately nearly 6 years down the line my family wont accept that having DD made me realise I don't need to put up with her crap. Its just that I'm stubborn apparently. In fairness I am stubborn but I refuse to engage until she apologises for her behaviour.

Stick to your guns, your DM is a massive piss taker.

OMG, she's a joke!!

Well done indeed for saying what you said, and for sticking to your guns. I'm absolutely horrified that she had a go at you for it, she's a monumental pisstaker and I'm really pleased for you that you've told her basically to fuck off and you'll not be doing her hair again for free.

Best of luck to you - you've done brilliantly.

And Rosie - what a that hairdresser was, what a beautiful thing she did for your DH

I would be telling her that until she apologises and sees that she is being bang out of order that you need a break from her shit.

Well done, OP, and tell her your hormones are still making you tell her to fuck off.

Good for your DH too.

Well done you for standing up to her/them ....... my sons are not old enough yet to leave home, have families and earn money, but if they did, I'd make sure they got paid the correct amount for whatever was being offered as a service or more because I want them to do well - she is very rude and you are brilliant for standing up to her ....... don't be a doormat and realise that when your little one is your age, how you'd treat your own child and see that your mum is so very wrong - bloody cheek!

maxington, come again?

Haven't you, Maxington?

Blimey just read the full thread! YANBU at ALL!

I don't understand why she would lie to her friends about your baby being sick?! Who does that?
Didn't the subject get brought up whilst they were there?

Woah! As if your mum hadn't behaved badly enough with the whole situation she then says you've embarrassed her?! Priceless.

Her huffy mate can naff off as well, cheeky mare.

'She said I embarrassed her by not doing Mrs excessive rates hair, she couldn't understand why I just couldn't do her four friends hair for £30, it wasn't as if I was doing colour on their hair. So I technically wouldn't be down any money hmm
I told her if that's how she feels, try and go to a salon as a party of five and expect the same treatment that I was offering for £30 and watch yourself get laughed out of the salon. I also told her I won't be doing her hair for free anymore if that's how she feels.
I've never felt so insulted in my bloody life angry'

Jesus wept! She's awful and so are her friends! Start refusing her. Get your DH behind you. She's a tight, pisstaking, manipulative COW.

I actually don't think she told her friends baby was poorly - think that's what she told me. She more than likely told them it was my emotions and hormones!
I have received a Thankyou text off the friend who's hair I did, think she senses the situation my mum had put us all in. Ive also had a text off my father apologising for the situation and he knows my hormones or being a money grabbing mare has nothing to do with it, so he obviously realises my mum acted like a twat. (Which is a first, my dad always defends my mum) She won't apologise though, never does!