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Original poster

To think they could have had more imagination (baby name related)

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freemanbatch · 10/10/2016 21:37

Millions of names to choose from, nine months to think about it. baby is born and initially has no name. Hours later we're finally told the name and it turns out that first and second names are both middle names of cousins of the child.

After all that time and with all the options in the world could they not have managed something more imaginative? More new? More totally awesome and special for the new little person?

I know people can call their kids whatever they want but not giving the child any names of its own just feels really sad when it's really a very cute new person.

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HereIAm20 · 10/10/2016 21:43

They are that child's own name though so yabu

blueskyinmarch · 10/10/2016 21:43

I am not seeing the issue. My DD2 has the same name as her cousins middle name but spelled differently. We chose it because we liked it. I am assuming they are solid names like George William or something?

Queenbean · 10/10/2016 21:45

It doesn't really matter though does it? It doesn't have anything to do with you. Unless you are the eighth in line to have the same name as everyone else

NerrSnerr · 10/10/2016 21:45

YABU they're the names they liked and chose. I assume the cousins you talk about are your children?

LadyofDispleasure · 10/10/2016 21:46

My son has his cousin's middle name, therefore I (obviously) don't think there's anything wrong with it Grin

MistressPage · 10/10/2016 21:46

You know no one has a unique name, right? Unless you go with Princess Consuela Banana-Hammock....

kelper · 10/10/2016 21:48

One of my cousins first name is my middle name, however theres 22 years between us and I assume her father (my uncle) forgot or didn't know what my middle name was (more likely!)
My DS has the same name, spelt differently, as one of his cousins middle names, but they are both named for someone in the family who passed around the time they were born, and no-one minds at all. Think of it as flattery rather than copy-catting.

PinkyOfPie · 10/10/2016 21:50

YABU and precious. No one owns a name, you simply just got there first

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freemanbatch · 10/10/2016 21:51

I know it's the child's name now and they are lovely names and suite the cute little thing very much and I've no issue with the actual names it's just part of the excitement (for me) when waiting for news of new babies is the new names that arrive with them.

Totally unreasonable I know really but I LOVE new baby names and finding out about meanings and such and I can't do that this time because I did it all a few years ago when they were used before.

It should be noted I would never say this to the parents, the names are lovely and a great choice just missing my normal after birth announcement ritual I guess :-)

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ilikepinacoladas · 10/10/2016 21:52

I am with you. I don't mind so much if the 'solid' name is announced straight away with no fan fair. However we were once made to wait the full 2 weeks for George! I am not a fan of yoonique names but I really wish the UK had a wider range of names, I am so bored of the top 10s!

Original poster
freemanbatch · 10/10/2016 21:52

Also should say they aren't my kids names they've used.

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midgwit · 10/10/2016 21:55

I wouldn't even know my cousins' middle names. I do have about 50 first cousins though... It was always an unspoken rule in our family that you don't repeat names, although that only stretched to first names (probably due to the aforementioned amount of cousins) but I don't really think it's that big a deal. Like someone else said I'm guessing the cousin is your child?

midgwit · 10/10/2016 21:57

Oh, crosspost, not your kid then.

SansasEscape · 10/10/2016 22:03

Yeah, I have no idea what my cousin's middle names are either.

I really do think its only people of a baby-naming-age (or rather, baby-naming-recently-or-soon) that notice shit like this.

The sentiment you express in your OP wouldn't have crossed my mind.

flightywoman · 10/10/2016 22:06

Meh, I have half siblings and one has a name that is another one's middle name as in James and Alfred James (not the real names). I have the same mother as one and the same father as the other, they're aren't related themselves.

It's no big deal.

NeedABanner · 10/10/2016 22:07

Ummm. You certainly have an unusual interest in what someone else calls their child, especially when they haven't even used your child names. I think you're a little over invested and need a new hobby!

strawberrypenguin · 10/10/2016 22:08

I get you OP. I was a little miffed when my nephew was named one of my son's middle names. I thought 'of all the names out there they had to use one of his' Still bothers me a little bit doesn't worry DS to him that's just his cousins name

PatriciaHolm · 10/10/2016 22:08

I have no idea what the middle names of my children's cousins are.

This is far more about you than them - but I think you know that!

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 10/10/2016 22:11

Names don't belong to anyone.
However, I do share your love of them, and would also have been looking forward to something, hopefully new and exciting.
I'm sure you'll find the baby, more joyful, than the name.😄

AyeAmarok · 10/10/2016 22:14

What a strange thing to get so worked up about.

There are only so many names.

SatsukiKusakabe · 10/10/2016 22:21

I love hearing what names people choose for their babies, but I don't have a hierarchy of the type of names I enjoy hearing - I've been pleased to hear about a Sophies and Joshuas despite already being familiar with those names.

They are not naming their child for your benefit Grin

And cousins middle names, who cares? Maybe the reason they took so long was because they lived those names but were agonising over whether they could use them as they had already been used as middle names. They obviously decided sod it, that's what we want and quite rightly too.

ALemonyPea · 10/10/2016 22:25

I have two nephews who have the same names as my cats. How's that for imagination.

Are they family names Op?

Wheelerdeeler · 10/10/2016 22:31

Most bizaare post ever.

I'm very close to my cousins but have no idea of their middle names nor their children's middle names

A few of my 1st cousins have the same name - after our grandfather. My child has same name as one of my 1st cousins. My nephew has same name as one of my 1st cousins children.

None of these children feel upset or slighted. Their name is their name. So what if someone else has same name?

CalmYaTits · 10/10/2016 22:31

Unless you call your baby theodorasaurus, there's not really any such thing as a 'new name' .

FrancisCrawford · 10/10/2016 22:31

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