Boyfriends Tattoo of ex name

[shrunkinthewash]

Aibu to be annoyed that my bf of a year won't make the steps into getting his tattoos of his ex wife's name removed or covered up?

He says he has no money and he will get round to it some day but doesn't seem that bothered that it really bothers me having to see her name all over him. I've offered to pay but he declined and says he will look into it but never does.

Aibu to keep on at him?

I wouldn't care, but i genuinely think i'm a bit weird and missing any kind of jealousy gene. And it doesn't always do me any favours (i've had people cheat on me right under my nose, because it doesn't occur to me they might be doing anything wrong!).

However, I am at the idea that getting a tattoo that is perhaps not the best idea makes you an irresponsible human being in other walks of life. I wasn't aware that drunken tattoos (I have more than one) rendered me incapable of taking responsibility for anything .

My DF still has my DM's name tattood on his forearm. DSM has never had an issue with it and now DM is gone it's a nice reminder of the past.

DP and I have a number of tattoo disasters between us, all from before we met.....somehow we've managed to be responsible adults, have very successful careers, raised children, integrated fully into society, etc... well done us!!

Would it be easier thinking of it as the name of his children's mother? As in significant because of his children rather than for a romantic reason.

It wouldn't be the tattoo that bothers be as much as the fact that this guy must be a few bricks short to think tat this was ever a good idea. I'm a few bricks short. I have a big fuck off tattoo of hubby's name across my arm. If I ever end up with someone else I will ensure it serves to hell me choose someone who has no jealousy or control issues. Accept me, accept my slag tag :)

MrsRaymondReddington Have you considered being the subject of some kind of Channel 4 documentary?

shrunkinthewash. How old are you? It would be interesting to know how old others are too, to see if how I feel is a general 'getting older' thing, or just me.

When I was younger it would have bothered me. Now, I don't think it would, as long as it wasn't very recent. Current bloke has a couple of tattoos from when he was younger, he'd never get another one now though. I can't even remember exactly how many, where they are or what they are (not a name though). I have friends of both sexes who have had a tattoo in recent years - cheaper mid life crisis than an affair or a sports car 😂

He has a few tattoos... His kids names, football team name/logo, ex wives name twice, his mums name, his star sign symbol, his nickname (he sounds so classy doesn't he!)

It's just I still get a heavy heat when I see " his name loves her name forever" and her name in a big stupid heart everyday.

I tend to like tattoos in general, but honestly, OP, he sounds like a graffitti-tagged wall or tube carriage, or something. Is this actually as deep as he gets in terms of registering his loves and commitments?

I like nice body art but names etc are a NO to me. Having said that I would not talk anyone in to getting rid of a tattoo. I have seen a few people who had laser and although the tattoo had faded nicely it did not dissapear completely and those which went away damaged the skin to the extend where it looked worse than the tattoo in the first place. I'm sure there are some excellent laser treatments out there but be aware.
I had a small tattoo on my bum when I was younger. Regretted it almost as soon as it was done, but it was all the fashion back then (France). I had it covered a few months ago after I was inspired by "Tattoo fixers" on the telly and really pleased with it. Thing is that it takes time to find a good artist and a design one both likes AND will work as a cover up. It is not as simple as painting over a wall!! The original design I had chosen did not work although a high street tattoo studio was more than happy to try it. Lucky I found a lady who designed something for me. The reason I'm saying this is because it is not as simple as it sounds... and if my DP wanted to cover up a tattoo I would stay well out of it. Let him decide IF, when, where, what and who does it. You don't want to have a hand in it if something does not go to plan and end up with cover up after cover up...
Walking around with a tattoo that is no longer appropriate or in vogue is a lot worse than looking at one... and I have the tee shirt!