I don't think I should cook every night

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I'm on maternity leave at the moment with 8 month DS. DH works full time and is out of the house 8am-6pm. Our evening routine is pretty set, he gets in and takes DS, I get food ready for DS. He'll then sit with DS while he eats. He then does books/bath and I do final feed and settle. I then come down and cook
Every. Fucking. Night
Last night I'd had enough and cooked for myself and left him to it. He's been sulking since.
AIBU to think this should be a shared job?

This used to drive me insane ! I'd def cook like a steak or something easy but under 1's are non bloody stop. I'd say spend 30 minutes on it and I more. Tell him to ruddy cook one night or bring home takeaway. I do love a fuck it Friday or sod it Saturday and all go out for a family roast on Sunday. Blooming men !!!

Well 53rd I doubt a woman would be allowed out unaccompanied, let alone with a £10 note.

Surely whilst you doing the settle he should cook!

I may have missed this, but who cooked before your baby was born? If you did it every night, it's not that much of a surprise that the cooking is deemed 'your job'.

WTF is 'Every Good Wish'?

Perpendicular it would have to be a king size one. I assum

My pants could be described as king size, so I need a Snickers to match, Chipped

Sorry I think you are being unreasonable. I work 24 hours a week in a stressful job, my husband works full time and I prepare all meals and do all of the housework and deal with the children, thats the trade off for working less hours Im afraid!

It actually works really well and we are both happy as it seems fair. I could go to work full time and earn much more than my husband does but I want to be a mum too and part of that is doing the chores, cooking etc, I see that as my role, maybe its just me xx

If part of being a mum is doing chores then I am a bloody crap mother.

Well Perpendicula in that case, I think you should run an experiment to test what his reaction is to varying amounts of money and different size pants

Let me know what you get for a thong and £3.78.

I'm a bit confused about the problem. When I was up to my eyes with two tiny children dinner went like this: Sat. Waitrose mussels in a bag with French bread. Sun: lunch out at a local restaurant Mon: sausage egg&chips Tues:. pasta. Wed: Salmon parcels Thurs: chicken risotto Fri:. Steak.

A nice large glass of red most nights. Why make a fuss? Keep it simple for a while. You are both busy and tired. Try to be kind to each other

Probably nowt at the moment Chipped, he has A Cold and it's Very Bad, apparently

I hear Liev Schreiber is single though...

Me too Mother

Clairedingle, netmums is that way >>>>>

Bet he cooks Perpendicular ...

YABU to expect your husband to make tea after he has been at work all day! You are very lucky he helps out so much after a full day at work, he does more than enough and more than some men do! I know being at home with a baby is difficult and resentment towards your husband can build up but cut him some slack. Freezing some batches or getting a take away once a week might ease the burden.

Agree with other posters. Find a place in the day where it would be convenient for you to make a cottage pie or similar of pop something in slow cooker. If you haven't been able to sort something in the day for whatever reason you could just poach a couple of eggs whilst your hub is spending some time with your son and then eat together when kids settled.
When both back at work, weekend batch cooking or quick stir fries work really well and you can both oversee that whilst sorting kids.

'Lucky that he helps out'
Christ on a bike

Thank god I met and married a man who loves cooking.....we met in freshers week 34 yrs ago and married 29 yrs now... he worked horribly long hrs ( in excess of 90 hrs when we first qualified) but he finds cooking a way of relaxing after work, so I was happy to take on the majority of the childcare when the dcs were young...( funnily he couldn't breastfeed!)
I know everyone doesn't like cooking but I do think you need to sort out what's going to happen when you do go back to work ( what did you do before ds was born?)....otherwise resentment will grow

Only men helping out by looking after their own children, is up there with the sort of men who babysit their own kids, when the woman is allowed out once in a while.

YABU to expect your husband to make tea after he has been at work all day! You are very lucky he helps out so much after a full day at work, he does more than enough and more than some men do!

I've been at work all day. Are you going to come round and cook for me?

'Freezing some batches'
Answer to everything for some folk along with 'batch cooking'
Op ask your DH if he fancies this on a Sunday? He can 'batch bollox' and you can have a break

Chipped quite
Never fails to shock me

I haven't read all replies but what I have, I'm surprised how many offer solutions to OP continuing to be sole cook? Surely in this day and age it is 100% a shared task. Defo not being unreasonable in my opinion.

OP: I don't want to cook every night.

1950s: Hun, you have to! De menz just can't, with one helpful poster reminding us how much harder womenz had it in the real 1950s.