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Tell me some juicy gossip

358 replies

OhhBetty · 27/09/2016 19:41

I'm bored and ds is in bed. Since an anonymous forum Wink

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x2boys · 28/09/2016 22:42

Beatrice?

EverySongbirdSays · 28/09/2016 22:44

I thought Beatrice was single now

Other possibilities

Harry

A Fergie and Andrew remarriage

x2boys · 28/09/2016 22:46

Harry might be intetsting but if it was one of the york girls does anyone really care?Hmm

x2boys · 28/09/2016 22:46

Interesting ffs!

Reindeerlily · 28/09/2016 22:49

I used to know someone who was having a relationship with their half brother. A proper full on relationship. They had the same dad. They both knew they were siblings.

x2boys · 28/09/2016 22:52

Where they open about it?What did people say?

Reindeerlily · 28/09/2016 22:56

X2 they kept it well hidden. Obviously their father could never find out. She told me and another friend. She would just say she was spending time with her brother to the rest of the family. Never told them she was shagging him!! Shock

x2boys · 28/09/2016 22:59

Where they brought up to know each other or had they met as adults ?

Sweetdreamsaremadeofthis · 28/09/2016 23:02

Some of these r shocking Shock

rosecreams · 28/09/2016 23:04

My gossip might be more of a confession / secret.

At uni my then and current closest friend was totally in love with a guy on my course. They dated on and off for 2 years he was very good looking and highly intelligent but emotionally a disaster very avoident-dismissive and generally messed up. When they finally broke up my friend was heart broken about it because she did really love him. She did after a few months and the summer away start to get a little better and she began dating the guy who is now her husband, a kinder, stronger man, much better for her.

However what my friend doesn't know is that not long after her break up with the first guy, he changed his mind and desperately wanted her back and he used me as a go between. I totally manipulated the situation to keep them apart, I destroyed letters he wanted me to pass to her and relayed both of them false information about the other. When he did manage to see her himself I did all I could to run him down in her eyes including lying about seeing him with other girls. In the end when she wouldn't go back to him he had a kind of breakdown and dropped out of uni.

Looking back now I can see that my behaviour was manipulative and wrong and yet I find it very hard to regret. She could have wasted her life with that guy and probably would have if someone hadn't put a spanner in the works. I do still feel bad about it though, I know through another friend that he is only now getting his life back on track in his 40's and that he is still single and asks about her.

She on the other hand has a lovely husband and I belive a happy life, however if she knew what I had done I don't think she would forgive me.

Rrross1ges · 28/09/2016 23:10

My father got the woman he left his first wife for pregnant. The OW left him for someone else before the baby was born.
The 1970s equivalent of the CSA came knocking but he denied all knowledge.

MoonStar07 · 28/09/2016 23:11

I know my cousin has got secretly married to her ex-con boyf. Her parents don't know his family at all she's kept him a secret. In fact I found out from a member of his family (Long story but I don't think she realised my cousin and I were related) that my cousin had told everyone on his side of the family she was an orphan! Except well she has Siblings parents and grandparents!

ragz134 · 28/09/2016 23:11

My husband has a half sibling that neither him nor his siblings know about. I think MIL has forgotten she told me... FIL has had no contact since before birth 40 odd years ago, no name known. It's weird having a secret like that, I forget I know most of the time.

GabsAlot · 28/09/2016 23:27

sorry rose i think thats nasty and down right low

EverySongbirdSays · 28/09/2016 23:32

ragz

I couldn't hold my water with that, I'd have to tell my DH, do you think you ever will?

rosecreams · 28/09/2016 23:34

Gab, I sort of agree with you. When I was younger I could be very controlling. I was just sick of seeing her hurt and I feel sure she had a better life without him one minute chasing her the next pushing her away.
But yes, it wasn't decent behaviour on my part.

EverySongbirdSays · 28/09/2016 23:39

*In the end when she wouldn't go back to him he had a kind of breakdown and dropped out of uni.
I know through another friend that he is only now getting his life back on track in his 40's and that he is still single and asks about her. *

Wow.

Without wanting to be poisonous to a total stranger, that is absolutely utterly appalling and the fact that you still seem to see it as having done the right thing because your friend has a DH you like even more so.

You literally destroyed a life. I appreciate that at the age you were you perhaps didn't comprehend it, and we've all done terrible things in our lives we regret.

I recommend the book A Sense Of An Ending, the protagonist of that also destroys the life of a uni friend - without necessarily intending to.

rosecreams · 28/09/2016 23:59

It was nasty and unkind to him but I don't think I ruined his life. I thwarted one relationship. He was always going to be a disaster. Objectively I can see that I should not have done it but I think he would have ruined her life or at least a good chunk of it. I wasn't trying to please myself I was trying to protect her. I really believe she has a had a better life because of my actions and he most likely had the life he would have had anyway, with maybe just a little extra heartache.

IMissGrannyW · 29/09/2016 00:23

the boss of where I work (who is adored by 100s of people) is planning to leave by Easter.

No one else knows yet.

It's going to knock everyone over sideways!

slithytove · 29/09/2016 00:26

thanks dubious, and in that case, I totally agree with mud. Wish there was somewhere it could be discussed,

slithytove · 29/09/2016 00:29

Ok, I have one.

A school run mum has a lovely boyfriend, takes care of her kids so she can have some time with friends, looks after them all, he is just such a nice guy.

She regularly cheats on him (while he is babysitting her children) with lee from 911, and a local cyclist who was in the tour of Britain. Apparently the cyclist has a whole sex room set up with s&m gear.

Milklollies · 29/09/2016 00:54

Rose- that is heartbreaking. When I was 15- I was in a relationship with a 21 year old. ( I went after him and he was the love of my life) as I started turning 17/18 former mutual friends lied to me about him because they thought I was groomed. I genuinely wasn't and I still love him. He was pure gold and I don't think I will ever have a love like that ever. When I turned 21 a few months after I ran into his sister who told me he passed away! I never even got to say goodbye!!!!! I just stopped talking to those so called friends because I would've been there for him and atleast said goodbye. He was perfect in every way. I kind of feel cheated out of a happy ending. The difference is your friend is happy. The wrong thing done for the right reason is still the wrong thing.

AntheaBelveden · 29/09/2016 07:40

slithy head over to the unsolved mysteries subreddit. Frequently discussed there.

Natsku · 29/09/2016 08:59

Oooh Morris is it for anything exciting?!

I'm going to be on the telly too, maybe BBC if the documentary crew make a deal with them. Should be some lovely footage of me drunk as a skunk, climbing trees in a park Grin

YuckYuckEwwww · 29/09/2016 09:11

I think Rose is getting a hard time, I wouldn't like to see my worst enemy with a man who still can't accept a "no" twenty years later! (just because it wasn't really a "no" doesn't mean his response to it is healthy - for all he knows they were real "no"s)