To ask if any of you regret being a SAHM

[callycat1]

I feel like working (even part time) just isn't working. I'm a bad mum and a bad employee if that makes sense.

Financially childcare takes my salary so no better off. But what about the future?

So I am wondering about your experiences ?

I was a SAHM for a bit. Partner buggered off. I went back to work when they were old enough doing minimum wage work minimum hours you know, tax credits to top up etc etc n all that..
My children I've got 8 years to try and find a job that pays enough for me to support myself because I'm way past it to re enter my old profession.
Yes. I regret it 100% I never thought my partner would let me down. Hindsight and all that

He thinks life would be easier with one of us at home, yeah, I'm starting to agree!

His life would be easier.

Yours probably will be for a few months because he will have got what he wants.
Then, once the cage is firmly shut, it'll start going downhill again, faster than before because he's got you where he wants you.

No one ,no one feels like they're acing work and parenthood. We just muddle through the best we can and it's tough.
Do not give your job up.

Oh my love I have been exactly ywhere you are. Except I wasn't a teacher, I worked in an office.

Even down to the pregnant bit.

Please please for the love of everything that matters to you keep your job.

I went on to have more kids. Many more. Because he wanted them. When I did leave I had nothing. Literally the clothes we stood up in. It will get worse not better.

Not only that but I lost myself somewhere in the big mess and it has taken me years and years to get that back.

Please keep your job. Pm me if you want to talk.

Please don't have another child when you've said you feel you're not coping with your existing child - I'm speaking from experience here as my mum struggled to cope with us, and I strongly feel she had more children than was right for her (I'm the youngest so I'm aware this is wishing myself out of existence).

I can't comment on being a SAHM, as I've gone back to work. It is busy and tiring, but it's manageable as my husband does his share. I know you're reluctant to label your husband as abusive, but can you accept that he is making your life more difficult by refusing to help you eg: when he refuses to take your son to the childminders on the Thursdays he's not at work?