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to secretly get rid of our kitten and tell the DC that it ran away?

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SaggyBaggyPuss · 25/09/2016 14:37

Have had kitten for around 6 weeks now. DC have wanted a pet for a long time and I gave in and got one for them. Cats are easier to deal with than dogs right?

Well today, I have had enough. I had have to scoop 3 lots of shit out of the litter box and there was a piece of shit on the floor that must have come off her paws and which means that the whole house, and sofa is now covered in cat shit germs Envy puke!

It also runs up the curtains which are now all pulled. My leather --look- dining chairs have scratch marks where it keeps jumping up the back of them and it has pulled up the carpet on the stairs.

DS (6) is constantly chasing it round the house with an incessant cackle (over excited, not cruelly, the cat loves him) which does my head in and keeps taking it upstairs to lie on his bed.

Last week, it has a runny arse and I still have the wounds where I had to bath it, not before it spread kitty shit germs everywhere again.

As a side note, I also suffer from OCD. Not 'a bit' but actually diagnosed.

I love my DCs to bits but they also love the kitty a lot. I am not sure I can put them first this time!

WIBU to find a good home for it and tell them it ran off into the forest and I couldn't find it

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iMatter · 25/09/2016 19:40

"I myself am a vegetarian"

Laughed my head off at this.

Titsalinabumsquash · 25/09/2016 19:41

I had to re home our cat due to my obsessions around germs and cleanliness, luckily for us and the cat my in laws are cat mad and they jumped at the chance to have him, he gets treated like a king and we happily pay all insurance costs and vet plans to keep him healthy, the kids still get to see him at nanny's house and I don't have to scrub the house clean every time he had visited the litter tray.
Do you have a relative or friend that could come to a similar arrangement?

I thought I could overcome my problems for my children to have a pet but I couldn't and I feel guilty as hell about it but it was getting worse every day.

Now we walk a local dog once a week and our animal buddies are all outside variety.

PacificDogwod · 25/09/2016 19:42

Aw Stratters Sad - hope you're ok Thanks

HerFaceIsAMapOfTheWorld · 25/09/2016 19:42

I got my cat from gumtree had her 7years from 6 weeks, was not a breeder either just a normal family, Gumtree is not that bad as long as you visit the property

StStrattersOfMN · 25/09/2016 19:42

Says in the OP that they've had it 6 weeks - so it was taken away from its mother far too soon.

Bloody ignorant, irresponsible people, stick to fucking pet rocks. Angry

Frazzled2207 · 25/09/2016 19:46

OP
You have obviously ignored the comment which has come up the most here so I shall repeat it again
Why did you get a cat without researching kittens properly -
With your OCD it should have been obvious that you would not get on wit the cat.
Now you need to rehome the creature or let it live happily ever after in your house. But if the kitty goes, YwbVVVu to lie to your kids.

kali110 · 25/09/2016 19:46

Sorry but op is getting hard time because of what she says in her posts.
I have ocd amongst other mh problems.
I still think this is awful.
All the posts that 'get rid of it' 'it's only a cat' 'you made a mistake' are disgusting!
This is why people think animals are disposable and why so many are either stray or pts!
Why can't people either really think before they get a pet or then actually put the effort in and not decide to dump it when it's too hard?
This poor cat isn't doing anything wrong!
It's being a normal kitten!
Please do not get another pet op, ever.
Rabbit, guinea pig, they need care too! They shit and they shouldn't just be dumped in a cage.
You'll be back in this situation.

kali110 · 25/09/2016 19:50

bumsex if that's the case it's probably really struggling with normal kitten food if it's too young.
Applaws or encore (as they're basically same thing) would def be good for it

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PepsiPenguin · 25/09/2016 19:54

Well I have OCD and three indoor cats...

Just because you have a condition it does not excuse you from being a decent human being, if you have OCD you tend to think about things you commit to very very carefully and the follow up posts do not IMO show the OP in a very good light at all.

OP- AIBU
Most posters- yes
OP- gowdy gowdy gowdy

There is also the "he has had a runny arse" in the OP, with follow ups of "it's not got any diarrhoea"

I think the OCD is irrelevant, being a vegetarian is certainly irrelevant, what isn't is the fact that this post is so full of more holes than my colander

PacificDogwod · 25/09/2016 19:55

HerFace, there are breeders that will use 'normal' families as a facade i.e. pretend that the litter of kittens or puppies is from a much loved family pet/you can see the mother/etc but in fact they are from atrocious conditions Sad - not saying that was the case with your kitten, but I would never get a pet from Gumtree. Or indeed advertise one on it tbh.

Honeyandfizz · 25/09/2016 19:57

Ok I'm going to get flamed here but here goes. Last year we got a much longed for puppy. We had waited ages and done lots of research. After a few nights it triggered the most horrific anxiety in me. Looking back it was an irrational worry on my part, I couldn't sleep at all in case he was barking like literally weeks of no sleep. I was put in beta blockers, diazepam & signed off sick from work (never been off sick in nearly 20 years & never had anxiety). It came to the point where I knew I would have to re house him. Luckily my friend was able to give him a loving home & he lives like a king. If a kitten is affecting your metal health then for your own sake rehome it. Your dc will get over it.

SuperFlyHigh · 25/09/2016 19:58

I won't lie - my cat who was 2 In April when I got him as a kitten at 5 months he was quite needy (hid in the spare room under a seat for 2 weeks!) and then at various points when he had a voice would yowl - when he got locked in etc at night etc. he also claws the sides of the spare bed and the seating a bit... (He does use his scratch posts). As a kitten he wasn't too bad, missed his mum and siblings a bit (they'd been taken to new homes before him) and he's half Siamese hence the yowling. He used to howl for ages after I locked him in at night still does sometimes and drives me and my lodger mad!

I won't lie, sometimes when he is howling at night and will not stop (like a small child!) I wonder why I got him, have occasionally raised my voice to him but not much now just tell him to be quiet and calm him down by bringing him to his bed...

But i'd never rehome him and was never cruel to him.

In your case OP I would rehome this poor little kitten.

SuperFlyHigh · 25/09/2016 20:00

Pacific my cat as a kitten I think was crated and rarely handled... He and his siblings were a mistake as the owner's boyfriend's moggy cat mated to her Siamese who she wanted to breed from.

He certainly doesn't like being handled much if at all but getting slightly better and was very nervous of people.

Blueskyrain · 25/09/2016 20:00

'it' seems to be just an object to you. Given you mentioned 'it' is going in for a spay, I assume its a girl cat. Your posts are so cold, it doesn't sound like you are talking about a living, breathing creature.

RortyCrankle · 25/09/2016 20:01

Costacoffeeplease
Rehome the kitten responsibly
Tell your kids the truth
Never get another living, breathing animal, that acts like a perfectly normal living, breathing animal
Grow up

This!

You are massively unreasonable and OCD or not should never have got a kitten just because your children wanted one. Surely it's obvious to anyone with half a brain cell that despite what they say, young children will never clean up after an animal. Find it a good home and do not replace it with another living creature.

YeOldMa · 25/09/2016 20:01

By all mean rehome the kitten if you can't cope with it but maybe tell your children the truth. Yes, they will be upset but in time they will get over it. Maybe it will help them understand your condition better but, also realise when they make a commitment to help, that is what they have to do.

ghostyslovesheep · 25/09/2016 20:03

Super my 2 year old brothers where like that - semi feral having been dumped in a car park

still can't pick one up - although he will sit next to me now but he's terrified of people - the other is lovely but very outdoors and again not cuddly unless it's on his terms - so sad the damage that gets done so early on

Itchyclit · 25/09/2016 20:13

Don't lie to your kids.

Ringadingdingdong22 · 25/09/2016 20:13

This gives me the rage. WTF did you think it would actually be like having a baby animal in the house? They piss, they shit, they puke, they need attention, food etc etc not that disimilar to a human baby. No wonder there are so many unwanted pets with morons like you around. If your OCD is that bad why did you even think about it let alone do it!

Gabilan · 25/09/2016 20:21

Ghosty my two are feral, or were until they were 8 months old. One of them took a year to sit on my lap. They're both pretty tame with me now but very wary with anyone else. I doubt they'll ever be as tame as a fully domestic cat. I love them to bits though.

Doggity · 25/09/2016 20:21

Slightly off topic but what's with the new craze of "I myself"? It doesn't make sense! I don't profess to be grammatically perfect nor do I care that much but "I myself" irks me because it's just so wrong.

fastdaytears · 25/09/2016 20:22

Doggity it's hideous. I blame the Apprentice.

PacificDogwod · 25/09/2016 20:23

Doggity, I am so glad you brought that up!
I just asked DH about the 'I myself' - English is not my first language, but then again he could not explain it to me either Grin
Emphasis? Self-righteous indignation? Ignorance? Grin

freshstart22 · 25/09/2016 20:26

I hate cats