to not want to name new baby after dh's grandad who has just died?

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i feel cruel, but i just can't do it. dh has just lost his grandad, whom he was very close to. he desperately wants to use his name as a middle name if this baby - due end of march, turns out to be a boy. i feel emotionally blackmailed and that its not fair to impose a name on someone for the rest of their lives for the sake of the memory of someone else, if the name isn't.....nice. its not like we are going to ever forget him. i want my only son to have a name i am actually proud of and wont be totally embarrassed of forever. i'd feel i'd have to tell everyone who asked his name WHY we'd called him that. ok, so its a middle name, but ....am i being unreasonable?

...the name is .... Maurice

It's what middle names are for. No one is ever called by their middle name. DS2 has a middle name he absolutely loathes. He has never once been called by it by anyone.

I thought this thread was a few months old and came on to see if baby was named Maurice

15 years though! Bloody hell

The idea of making used to be all about family. My 3 brothers and I ask have family surnames as middle names and they are allowed but I am into family history and I know I would be located immediately in future if anyone searched for me because of unusual surname.
In my DH family the makes all have same first name so we continued that tradition. We did not have to but it felt an important link to history.
I think for a middle name it does not need to sound cool and is a perfect opportunity to honour a missed relative

I know you've remembered that Grandpa wanted you to use Stephen - but Maurice is a cool name (Ravel). My DC all have three middle names; could you do that and have Maurice (not Stephen, which is dull) as the third one?

I was in a similar position - not quite as much pressure - but my DH grandad passed away and it was actually my MIL who kept suggesting we call the baby "Ernie" after him. I just flat out refused - I don't like the name and I'm not really keen on naming children after people anyway. Luckily I had my DH support because he didn't like the name either. Sorry not really helpful I know :( nothing wrong with saying No though and don't let people make you feel bad for it xx

I don’t think it’s that bad at all really.

The OP is from 2007, Maurice is probably doing his GCSEs this year.

Maurice is a fine name and it’s only a middle name anyway. You are being absurd. Imagine a beloved grandmother of yours had died and you wanted to middle name your baby daughter after her and your husband just put his foot down on it like your doing.

Frankly if I were your husband I would be massively pissed of at you for this. Think of how it seems to everyone whose not you - husband wants to give his son his beloved just passed grandfathers name as a middle name and his wife refuses. Pretty bitchy, petty and controlling no?

I would say yes as a middle name. I dont really like it but I think it is nice to remember your DP grandad.

This thread is from 2007 so the kid must be 15 now. Please op tell us what you decided!

Fwiw I think Maurice is fine as a middle name and vastly prefer it to Stephen!

Oh fgs these stupid zombie threads

As a middle name, I wouldn't stress it.
As a first name I would stand my ground and argue.

@MNHQ if you don’t do something about the zombie threads (how hard is it to create a banner or tag?) then I’m flouncing.

Cancel the cheque...

This thread is from 2007!

That's a good idea. My DH has two middle names and he never uses the 2nd one as he doesn't like it.

Good luck with your GCSEs Maurice!

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Maurice was a really popular name back in the day, so o reckon there are probably lots of men with that as a middle name, after their grandfathers. DS2 is one of them.. not my favourite name but it made my grandma very happy to have a baby named after her beloved husband.
DS is happy enough with it, although doesn't really use it (who does use their middle name?)

My DC have middle names linked to their grandparents and they love them. My middle name is just a name (standard 70s girls name) and it feels pointless to me. I don't really see the need for a middle name so I wouldn't bother if it didn't mean anything.

I sometimes think people should have a "different" middle name that they can either switch to or be embarrassed by as teenagers depending on whether they like their first name of not. Mine was like that and I'm fine with it now.

I actually think Maurice is a cool name though! It fits with the naming trend of old names coming back with slightly alternative spellings. Morris wouldn't be as good.

My DD has a middle name I didn't like but DH really did. It does give her a better middle initial than my choice which would have made her initials close to a word (not a rude one but not a lovely word either). I still don't like the name but she does! I can live with it as it's only a middle name. She may get embarrassed about it when she is older as it is a character in a kids' book.

This is a zombie thread, not a lot of point adding to it if said baby is now 15!

Hi all - this is a zombie thread and little Maurice would be 15 by now. We're closing it to new posts.