to not want to name new baby after dh's grandad who has just died?

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i feel cruel, but i just can't do it. dh has just lost his grandad, whom he was very close to. he desperately wants to use his name as a middle name if this baby - due end of march, turns out to be a boy. i feel emotionally blackmailed and that its not fair to impose a name on someone for the rest of their lives for the sake of the memory of someone else, if the name isn't.....nice. its not like we are going to ever forget him. i want my only son to have a name i am actually proud of and wont be totally embarrassed of forever. i'd feel i'd have to tell everyone who asked his name WHY we'd called him that. ok, so its a middle name, but ....am i being unreasonable?

...the name is .... Maurice

My kids don't even know their own middle names, they're never used. YABU

I wouldn't get too worked up. Middle names are rarely spoken about or used except when filling in some forms.
You have a 50/50 chance it won't be used anyway if you have a girl.

It’s his baby too. Let him choose the second name, you choose the first name.. and Maurice isn’t too unbearable.

The baby in question is now 15 years old. I doubt the OP still needs advice regarding their middle name

I wonder what 15yo Maurice is up to now…

I love the name!

Have two middle names so Maurice can get ‘lost’ amongst the names. At least he’s not demanding it be their first name. Lots of people have a middle name after an elderly relative that jars with their more modern first name. I would do it.

Bloody hell! Note to self: check the date of posts grrr 😡

How did this thread resurrect after such a long time? I don’t understand how that happens especially if the new poster themselves don’t realise it’s an old thread?

Remember name fashions change. By the time the child is grown-up Maurice might be "unusual/trendy".
I know a child who was given her beloved great-grandmother's name as a 3rd name. Gertrude! She is now 10 and quite proud of it.

I understand why you wouldn't want to use it as a first name but middle names really are barely used. I would agree to it as a middle name.

Just choose two middle names (we did) - middle names are rarely used.

Ha ha I nearly answered and then I squinted at the original date WTF ??

DS has the middle name fucking Alan!! Wish I’d put my foot down, he already has DH’s surname. So I chucked my dad’s name in as another middle name and DS now has a weird combination of names. He doesn’t seem too bothered by this!

No one ever uses middle names but if anyone asks why ‘Maurice’? you can give the reason. Which is a lovely reason. I would absolutely do it as it means a lot to your DH and might, in future, mean a lot to you child (if it turns out to be a boy). Congrats btw!

Oops this is old! DS still called fucking Alan though!

Just saw how old it was too 🤣
I wonder if 15yr old Maurice exists or was he a girl?!

Honestly I have a middle name much worse and it's never bothered me. I get a good laugh out of it sometimes. Just pick a strong first name ❤️

Zombie thread. Kid is now 15 years old!

My grandad was Maurice but was always referred to as Marc.

We gave my son my deceased FIL’s name as a middle name. I don’t particularly like the name but it was a nice thing to do in his memory and I actually suggested it. My son likes having that connection to him.

I’ve been caught out by zombie threads before, but ‘baby due in March’ made me instantly look at the date as May/March doesn’t compute! I’m still here though 😊

I'd use it for a middle name but not a first name because I don't like it. When my mil passed away, I had a girl. My husband wanted to name her after mil Joan! Fuck that. I'm not lumbering my child with a gross name, to make him feel better!

Argh. Zombie thread.