to not want to name new baby after dh's grandad who has just died?

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i feel cruel, but i just can't do it. dh has just lost his grandad, whom he was very close to. he desperately wants to use his name as a middle name if this baby - due end of march, turns out to be a boy. i feel emotionally blackmailed and that its not fair to impose a name on someone for the rest of their lives for the sake of the memory of someone else, if the name isn't.....nice. its not like we are going to ever forget him. i want my only son to have a name i am actually proud of and wont be totally embarrassed of forever. i'd feel i'd have to tell everyone who asked his name WHY we'd called him that. ok, so its a middle name, but ....am i being unreasonable?

...the name is .... Maurice

@Mamai90 why have you redirected a thread so no old it’s got s as mortgage and s as credit card? Ffs

i'd feel i'd have to tell everyone who asked his name WHY we'd called him that.

Literally no one other than your or your husband gives a toss about your baby’s middle name. If someone asks you WHY you’d called him that, just say ‘In memory of his great-grandfather’. The end.

I pity your poor husband.

middle names really do not matter, they are only tokens. I hated my middle name growing up, named after someone special but a lot of people have said what an old elegant name (Ellen) but I don't know - Dallas ruined it for me 😂 and I have dropped it from my passport. I think you could give him this and add one of your own too, if you can't give it freely.

Seriously the only people whose middle names I know are a couple of family members & a couple of employees who filled them in on their application forms (& I'd have to go look them up because I don't recall them offhand).

Give your child a first name you are happy with, let your husband give him a middle name that has great meaning to him.

My daughter's middle names were my Grandmothers first name, and my maiden name!

My son's middle name is Francis after my Dad who died 10 months before he was born. I don't even think his close friends know because no one ever uses middle names. If it means a lot to him I would agree it as a middle name. It could be worse he could be demanding it as a first name.

If a boy you could have first name, Maurice, George.

My father's name was a bit unfortunate - probably a bit worse than Maurice. My husband told my mother we could give it to our son as a middle name. She said, "Why in God's name would you do that?" That was the end of that. Our son was called after his great-grandfather, grandfather and his great uncle who all had tasteful classic names.

I was called after my grandmother who died when my father was a child - only problem was that he misremembered her name and landed me with a different name - a hideous name. About the only thing I can say about my name is that not many people have it - though why would they, it's hideous. My grandmother's real name was actually very pretty. He also landed me with another awful middle name in the deluded view that my mother liked the name and it would make up for the fact that he'd sneaked out and registered the birth with his "mother's" name first and her mother's name second. Maybe my mother had the last laugh because at least he managed to spell her mother's name right - hard to mess up Ann - so in the end I was named after her mother, not his.

The child is 5 now - why is this thread active ?

feck it is so old, but trending, why oh why. An awful lot of issues for a site upgrade, I wouldn't be using that company again. (cue my banning)

He'll be 15 now. It's a thread from 2007!

Why are all these zombie threads suddenly trending?

Yes, death does have a tendency to be morbid.

Ive heard it all now!

I'd do it.my middle name is after my grandmother, it's never used. I doubt even my dh knows it . It won't affect your baby at all and it's a nice gesture for your dh. Maurice is fine anyway, it's not like its poyndexter or anything like that!

This thread is from 2007, the 'baby' is now 15 years old 🤣

Anybody else just curious if he ended up being called Maurice? 👀

Ds2’s middle name is Garry!
After the only decent member of my mother’s family who died the year he was born.
I think Maurice as a middle name will be fine.

Perhaps the OP could come back and tell us what happened?🤔

unless the middle name is adolf, I dont see a problem

DD has DH's gran's middle name. I hate the name but thankfully few people know its her middle name. (his gran was nice btw)

It’s just a middle name, they mean very little. You could always use two middle names, two of my DC have two.

That baby earlier this morning

I had this a bit with my MIL wanting our son to have her husband's name as his middle name, as he had passed away during my pregnancy. My response was that he already had his surname and that was enough names lol

Can Maurice be shortened or was he known by a nickname you could use instead?
I did similar with my son. My grandad who I adored sadly died a month before my son was born. His name was Arnold but he was always known as Arnie so that's the middle name we gave our son.

I'd use it. Middle names seem so important when you're choosing a name but then never get used again. Hardly anyone knows what my children's middle names are - none of their friends or our friends know. You only ever mention when you announce the name, then never again. It's nothing to do with the name, it's all about his grandfather. It would mean so much to honour him. My DD has my mum's name as her middle name. It's not a great name but like I say - this is about my mum, not the name.

Oh just seen how old this thread is!