To not want dc to stay in a strange house on school trip?

[franincisco]

Can't work out if IABU or not, so wanting opinions here really.

Dc (14) plays a school sport, lots of weekend matches. Came home today, saying he has been asked to go to play in a city 7 hours away. The plan is an overnight trip, staying in a hosts house. We know nothing about the host and that is what concerns me. I am not the "paedophile around every corner" type but I just don't feel comfortable with this, for various reasons. The boys would be staying in pairs. I haven't even received a consent form from the school!

I was very sporty as a kid and I did this twice a year every year through secondary, so 10 times in all, sometimes alone, sometimes there'd be 2 of us. I was fine and would let my DC do it.

I agree with the majority on here that YABU. What exactly are your fears? Why wouldn't his mobile work? I can't think of anywhere it wouldn't. He's 14 and should be having a sense by now of situations. Also, if he's going to a family, the DC in that family will be doing the same - staying with a host family. Boost his self-confidence, let him go and tell him exactly what to do if he feels uncomfortable. He's not on his own.

I agree that communication sounds poor, and that they should let you know what's happening with as much notice as possible.
Doesn't stop me thinking the actual concerns about him staying - with a friend - in the home of a family with similar age dc are over egged.

no contact details you say? Fuck no. Absolutely no chance.

Why won't his phone work?

GnomeDePlume

No I didn't miss the point.

People on here seem to think DBS = safe with children, it doesn't. For certain jobs you need to have a DBS, but it is up to individual institutions what they consider when they DBS someone.

Eg I know a teacher with an assault conviction on their DBS.