Not Wanting To Leave

[ArmyMumToBabyGirl]

I will try and keep this long winded story as short as poss as to not bore everyone to death!
Me and my partner have known eachother for 11 years, been together for 2, he joined the army the second week we got together.
We have a 1 year old daughter too now.
I live with my parents (I'm 24 and have chronic back pain due to curvature of the spine from a car accident 5 years ago)!
My partner is now calling me "less committed" because I won't get married quarters with him, which is 2 hours away from my friends and family.
I also won't get a house around where I live, because I don't want to live by myself for 5 nights a week until he's back at the weekend - to pay bills and mortgage on a house that's slept in 2 nights a week.
He's informed me he has no plans to propose until we live together... so is calling me less committed because of this.

Can anyone understand my side?

[JudyCoolibar]

So what is it that you want, OP? You want to be married to him, you don't want him to leave the army, you know that buying a house near where you live now isn't an option, you know that the norm in married life is for people to live together, not for one of them to live with their parents. It seems to me you have to accept that this relationship is going nowhere, or start to contemplate moving into married quarters if or when you are married, and explore what help there might be available to you through the army and social services.

What do your parents think about this? You have imposed quite a burden on them by deciding to have a baby in circumstances where you are dependent on them for help. Do they want to have to continue housing you and your child and looking after you indefinitely? What would happen if one or both of them became ill and unable to help?

[StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes]

if you loved him and had a good relationship and wanted to be with him then you would have no issue with moving to married quarters to be with him, he would presumably be home most evenings so you would not be on your own, and you would be in a community where you could forge a new life for yourself with new friends and support. it does however sound as if you don't actually want to be with him so probably best you end the relationship and stay with your mum and dad forever.