They don't want to reply and its going to cause a shit storm

[stripesstpots]

Dc have a difficult relationship with exh. Broken promises, let downs, no money for visits, birthdays or maintainence but plenty for nights out with mates and stuff for him (all over Facebook).

Eventually visits stopped altogether, no calls either and a yearly text usually about him.

Fast forward to Saturday a decade on and a sudden message wanting to know them, expecting the kids to pick up where he left off all those years ago. The kids don't even want to reply and he's going to go bonkers because its his RIGHT and he's their Dad and he doesn't see he has done anything wrong.

But I feel the youngest being 14 who doesn't even remember him is old enough to decide right?

Exactly Stripes ds write a letter to him, then delete him from your life.

OP, I will be in a situation like this in a few years (I just know I will)
This may have been said (I haven't read the thread!) BUT men like this have a habit of making it all the mothers fault, so whatever you do, there is going to be a shit storm.

I personally would do exactly as your kids want. I wouldn't even give him the explanation, they have been given the message, their answer is silence.

Try not to work yourself up, or upset yourself with him. Your children know him to be exactly what he is, you have brought them up to know the truth. X