To think some commenters on the AIBU threads are just bitchy

[Wittowoo]

Some posters really are just plain nasty. Bitchy keyboard warriors. I'm actually gobsmacked by the level of vitriol in some of them. Why do people do it?

Agree with Crunchy that it is a really bad idea to teach your child to be as kind and honest online as in RL. Very bad advice. Please don't do this.

ingenious that's a great example

Why thank you oh wise insightful one

I am not some sort of Pollyanna but I do generally try to abide by the "is it kind, is it true, is it necessary" philosophy.

^Oh whatever, fastday.

This thread is doomed, I'm afraid, because there are some who will go to the ends of the earth to defend their right to be objectionable. And yes, it is your right. Enjoy.^

Right, but all I did was say that I didn't think your definition of bullying was right. Which I don't. In fact you had asked whether you were right and I answered you. Not that objectionable.

wasonthelist I think you have summed it up well. Its a real benefit to see such a wide range of opinions, bitchy or supportive. If I discuss issues with friends Inknow more or less what their responses will be. It's so refreshing to get feedback from a whole range of people I'll never come across in real life. It's true diversity in action , some you'll like &'some you won't. It's educational & reminds you that the wider world is not just a pleasant reflection of yourself, of people who share you background or values. I thought that getting a wide range of views was the purpose of posting on here, otherwise just ask people you know.

What if it's just true or just necessary.

There are lots of women here who have left abusive partners and say that the nest of vipers helped them. They admit that their initial threads were full of them denying and thinking MN is full of 'bitches' (horrible misogynist word BTW).

I like this place and a few wankers don't put me off. Because it's worth it.

MrsTerry has a point- the term bitchy is pretty specifically misogynistic

www.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/english/bitchy

Rubbish. Plenty of blokes can be bitchy.

Bullying is when one or more posters hound another poster from thread to thread. It's sustained and targeted to exclude or belittle.

And people have been banned for it. MNHQ are really supportive if you think it is happening to you, so report it.

A few nasty posts contained within one thread doesn't even come close.

I think the watering down of the term 'bullying' to cover anything someone sees as unpleasant is a great shame.

They can exhibit the same behaviour of course but they don't get called "bitchy" for it

I think the watering down of the term 'bullying' to cover anything someone sees as unpleasant is a great shame.

This times a million

I like this

sententious guff

So very apt.

I always think these whiny 'you're all so nasty' threads are rather . Yeah. We know. Some dill pops up almost every day to tell us so. So thanks OP - but your shock and outrage is hardly ground-breaking.

Maliciously and spitefully critical actually says it better than bitchy.

I do feel there are double standards because we are women. Do you think people go on mainly male dominated forums and tell them they're rude and sweary?

Maliciously and spitefully critical actually says it better than bitchy

Agreed. Less of a snappy title I guess but definitely better from a feminism p.o.v.

Stick around, when there's nothing on tv or you're a bit bored aibu is great. I especially like the threads where two posters start arguing about something completely different.

Look out for parking threads, bus seats, breast v bottle and anyone who dares to buy their kids anything brand new.

Oh and if you really want to see some fireworks start a thread stating penis beaker was hilarious.

Look out for parking threads, bus seats, breast v bottle and anyone who dares to buy their kids anything brand new

Or airline seats and whether parents should have to pay to reserve. Or you can just mention social housing and then sit back...

Spiky for someone who believes in peace and love, aren't you OP?

Give you six months and you'll be just as awful as the rest of them. I'm lovely, me...

I call men bitchy.

Good! The more people do the better. But it doesn't seem to be catching on with people I know sadly. See also "bossy".

'Bitch' when used for men tends to mean subordinate or whiney. Like a woman

When used for women it tend to mean something different. Not fragrantly delightful enough.

Seriously, I understand it's entertainment for most. Just don't understand the mean spirit behind some posts. Is it really that difficult fpr people to be kind? Since misogyny has been mentioned it's made me realise there's actually an inherent misogyny in the way some women respond to each other.

Is it really that difficult fpr people to be kind

That's like asking why people on the Bake Off aren't playing more hockey.

AIBU is to get a robust answer on whether or not you're being unreasonable from a wide range of people who will tell you exactly what they think. It's not for support or hugs or sisterhood. Relationships, for example, is totally different.