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To Start *A* FOURTEENTH Thread That No One Responds To?

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carbcraver · 05/09/2016 21:22

Welcome to 14.....

We got spooky 13 out the way. Now business as usual.

Don't worry about making sense, we rarely do!!

A poem from Portia

Mother Nature don't build straight lines
We're broken moulds in a grand design
We look a mess but we're doing fine
We're card carrying lifelong members
Of the Union of different kinds

Crack on and enjoy!!

To Start *A* FOURTEENTH Thread That No One Responds To?
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HelenaDove · 07/09/2016 23:24

Being that is so wrong. Them looking after their granchild shouldnt give them carte blanche to think they can interfere.

VanillaSugar · 07/09/2016 23:28

That's classic AGL - why did they delete your posts?

Being - now i know where you're coming from. When I divorced ExFBH I moved up to be closer to my mother so that she could help me out with childcare (DD was 2). I worked full time so my DM picked up my DD and took her home until I arrived. Everytime my DD said "Mummy", my own DM would answer "Yes?" - my DM loved it and still thinks that my DD is HER OWN DAUGHTER.

It still irritates the shit out of me.

So, deep breath. It will pass. Your daughter knows that you're her mum (something to do with that special "Mum" smell, apparently).

Oh, I call my DH by my DS's name all the time, especially when i'm telling him off. It's just a name. It doesn't mean anything.

Can you look at buying a smaller house so that you don't have to save up so much for the deposit? Even a flat might be better ....

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 07/09/2016 23:30

They are interferers by nature and it has always caused conflict between me and my mum. It's at least another year until we move out though. Sad

Blue, he's on his 3rd night of 4. Then he will be on an even worse one. 5pm till 3am. So he gets in all knackered and sleeps through till late so I don't see him before I leave and he leaves before I get home.

MyDressIsInferiorBlue · 07/09/2016 23:31

Portia I'm 5'10 now. Its the fact, that right at the beginning of year 7 I was 5'8 - I was the tallest girl in the school at that point and was taller than most boys at the school. In yr 9 a new girl joined who was 5'10 (whilst I was still 5'8 at that point), the flack moved on to her and I faded into the background, where I preferred to be. By yr11 i was 5'10 but there were a few girls around that height in my yr group by then.

HelenaDove · 07/09/2016 23:32

Dress i know how you feel. When i was 14 the kids at school would call me fat. Back then i was 5 foot 3 and 9 stone.

Its not as bad as having a partner do it though . The person who is supposed to love and respect you.

DH has never mentioned my weight apart from once when he said he was worried about my health. But he never called me a name not once. Or brought it up when having a disagreement. Not even when i was a size 28.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 07/09/2016 23:32

Vanilla, that's awful! Shock

VanillaSugar · 07/09/2016 23:33

Oh dear. Playing devils advocate, my DD is now 18. If she had a baby and her boyfriend moved in with us, I'd still be bossing her around as a) it's my house, b) she will always be the little girl who fell down the loo when she was 6 and we had to fish her out.

It's a mum thing. Sorry, that doesn't help at all.

Can you rent somewhere, or do you desperately need your mum to help with childcare? It must be incredibly hard if your DP is working irregular hours.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 07/09/2016 23:35

We don't want to spend the money on rent when we could be saving it for a deposit.

AverageGayLad · 07/09/2016 23:35

CAuse my first post was in AIBU. Whoops.

jetSTAR · 07/09/2016 23:35

I am still here, lurking around. Flowers to all with sadness

HelenaDove · 07/09/2016 23:36

5pm till 3am are the same hours i was doing 15 years ago. I actually preferred nights but what used to piss me off was things like pneumatic drills angle grinders and wood chippers in the mornings.

VanillaSugar · 07/09/2016 23:37

Oh dear.

I have to go to bed. night. hope everyone has a good day tomorrow xx

HelenaDove · 07/09/2016 23:37

Im now 5 foot 5 and a size 14. But there are some delightful fuckers around who think its obese.

MyDressIsInferiorBlue · 07/09/2016 23:40

o being that's hard on you both.

If it makes you feel any better about your parents, me and my mom had a huge argument a few weeks ago. Mom is usually really good at not interfering. I'm a single mom now and she was being too bossy and trying to take too much charge and when I pulled her up on it, she threw the she helps me so much card at me. I told her I didn't want her help then. So now she's not helping me Sad. Luckily for me it was more just company whilst I sorted some housework out at night or watching the DC for an hour on a weekend so I could do housework without DC interfering.

MyDressIsInferiorBlue · 07/09/2016 23:44

Helena Obese?!?! I've seen your pic for how you are now, you look great. No way in hell could you be described as obese!

MyDressIsInferiorBlue · 07/09/2016 23:45

Night vanilla

I need to get to bed too. Night all.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 07/09/2016 23:45

Seems like it's not just my parents.

Thank you all for your kind words. I'll let you know how my phonecall goes tomorrow. Good night. xx

Bettercallsaul1 · 07/09/2016 23:47

Goodnight all (including you, jet Smile)

AverageGayLad · 07/09/2016 23:48

Night everyone! Flowers

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 07/09/2016 23:48

DPs aunt has just commented on the compulsory first day picture saying:

"Well done Being's Mum. You are a superb Grandmother.👏🏻 GD looks so ready for play group. Lovely to see her place name too. 😘"

Sad
HelenaDove · 07/09/2016 23:49

Dress Some of it is the general comments on the fat shaming threads on here (i should really stay off them) and there is a woman i went to college with in RL who gave my stomach a poke and said " i cant believe you are not getting anything done about this loose skin of yours.

Some people have the tact of an ironing board.

PortiaCastis · 07/09/2016 23:50

My Mum was of the opinion that I. must look after my own child and was working full time when I had dd. Then I inherited from a family member and married bollock chops and put a deposit on this house. One of the only sensible things I ever did. The other thing was leaving him.
My Paternal Grandad was loaded and I inherited from him so I was very lucky money wise.

HelenaDove · 07/09/2016 23:50

Being Thanks

PortiaCastis · 07/09/2016 23:52

Night to those Sleepyheads

Bettercallsaul1 · 08/09/2016 00:22

Then I inherited from a family member and married bollock chops...

Such a way with words! Grin