To Start *A* FOURTEENTH Thread That No One Responds To?

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Welcome to 14.....

We got spooky 13 out the way. Now business as usual.

Don't worry about making sense, we rarely do!!

A poem from Portia

Mother Nature don't build straight lines
We're broken moulds in a grand design
We look a mess but we're doing fine
We're card carrying lifelong members
Of the Union of different kinds

Crack on and enjoy!!

Vanilla - The moment I won't forget easily is merrily going down a slide in a crowded playground with my three-year-old and getting completely stuck half-way down. OH was at the other side of the playground with our son and I had to wait until he was alerted by my cackling evil sister-in-law to come and prise me out. Before he extricated me, a long queue of children and parents had formed in a line to laugh wait for a turn.

Vanilla what is it of? Aidey baby?

Indeed, Blue!

Oh no! When my DS was 3 years old, he came into bed one morning and said "Oh Mummy, you're so squishy. You're just like a giant bouncy castle."

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I'm not really that angry about it. More quite upset to be honest. It's just put all of my insecurities about being a working parent into writing. I desperately didn't want to go back to uni because I was worried DD would start to think of my mum as her mum. Turns out its other people who think my parents are more parents for DD than I am.

sidles in

Excuse me. Shouldn't the asterisks in the title be around the "fourteenth", not the "a"?!

sidles out

Yes Portia - AT is looking at YOU and saying WHERE ARE YOU TONIGHT? I'LL SEE YOU LATER

And I thought you'd like it.

NO.

I also have a uni induction thing tomorrow.

Blue you always have been a pretty lady. Someone with an ugly heart said otherwise no doubt

Portia I think my problem started with the bitchy girls at school. I stood out in year 7 as I was already 5'8. It made a target for comments about being a giant, huge, etc, which made me feel fat. Then yes ex was always critical of my weight, yet also always encouraging me to eat crappy food with him - he stuffs his face with chocolate, cookies, cake and pizza. My weight went up but I suppose because I already thought I was fat, the rise somehow just made me want to eat more. My body weight is actually double what it was back then. When I left ex I initially lost 1 stone, in the first two months, without even trying. Then I had to start on long term steroids (which generally cause weight gain) and my weight plateaued.

Oh, do stay and join in, scarednoob! I need another pedant to keep me company!

Being I'm putting my own mum hat on now.

No one thinks anyone else is your DD's parent. Lots of mums work. You are doing two brilliant jobs.

Hello scarednoob!

Freudian typo there, portia.

My diet is awful. Some days I just eat cakes and sweets, then zilch. When I started the MyFitnessPal thing, I made more effort but kept 'cheating the system'. I'd like to feel healthier.

Id love it Vanilla

Sorry for typo Jess

AGL. I read that as "I have an induction tommorrow" and was all "What the huh? He's pregnant?"

being less than 10% of moms don't work. That's a serious minority. The other 90% go out to work. You are not less of a parent. You are mom, and your parents are her grandparents. Its lovely that she gets to have a good relationship with them as well as having a lovely mom like you.

Thank you Vanilla. It's just a lot of things all building up at once. I can't wait until DP and I have our own house. Everything my parents say about DD is what WE need to do, including them. They involve themselves in our decisions about her and I get so frustrated. When I try to talk to them about it, they say we don't mind them getting involved when it comes to childcare. They treat us like children. I can't cope anymore.

Thank you Blue, that's made me feel a lot better.

It's all feeling so much worse as well because DP is on his night shift right now so I can't even talk to him about it. We literally pass each other on the drive in the morning.

vanilla I wanted to go on a canal boat holiday. I think it'll have to wait until I'm narrow enough not to struggle in the narrow boat. I hadn't even though about that. I'm glad you've mentioned it before I booked a holiday and then realised I was too wide.

Blue I'm 5ft8ins also and I didn't have many probs at school. It was just him the bastard. I had quite big arms and thighs as I played girls rugby. He decided I was too muscular. Really I had more muscle than him, he was just lazy and played hide the sausage

Jess

AAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

Children always know who their parents are, Being and nobody thinks your parents are your DD's mum and dad. This was just a mistake on the part of the nursery which you have to correct. Although you are working during the week, you have all weekend to spend individual time with your daughter (and fiancé) and keep your bond strong. This week you'll be feeling emotional and tired with returning to work and your daughter taking the new step of starting nursery. Once you're used to your new routine, you'll be much happier and have a different perspective!

being your DP being on night shift whilst you're working daytime must be so hard on you both. How long does he stay on night shifts?

The situation with your parents must be extremely difficult. You needing their help with childcare, doesn't give them the right to make parental decisions about her. But obviously you're stuck between a rock and a hard place because you need them for the childcare but they then feel that gives them a right to butt in.