To think if you're a houseguest you should try to fit in with the family's routines?

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Especially if you're staying longer than a month!

Not sure if I'm BU but it irks me that PILs sleep in until mid morning then take a 3-hour nap every afternoon. Whereas I am up at 1am, 3am, 5am with baby and up for day by 6am.

It also messes up all the family meals (7am-12pm-6pm) and they like to eat at 11am-4pm-9pm.

Trying to keep baby quiet and away from their room while they're napping is a PITA.

AIBU?

No way could I put up with house guests like this - or ever put people up for 8 weeks. Sounds like they are there for a 'respite' session despite being so young!

I have a foreign friend who visits a few times a year and is the most perfect house guest. She's gone when I wake up in the morning, and doesn't get home till 11pm often bearing pizza.

But then some people would expect a house guest to spend a lot of time with them, so I guess it depends on the person.

About sticking to routines, I don't mind what time they go to bed or get up... it's the mealtimes and long siestas I find so irritating.

If I have grandchildren in the future I can't imagine going to stay in their home and keeping a completely different time schedule to the family. I'd get up within a couple of hours of family and if I wanted a long lie-in I wouldn't then have a huge breakfast/lunch. I can't imagine taking a 3-hour afternoon nap when DD/DIL had been up half the night with baby; I'd be offering to watch baby so SHE could nap. And if she got home exhausted from work yet still found the energy to cook a nice meal, I'd be appreciative and eat it, not say 'oh we've just eaten a big lunch' and pick at it.

If I wanted to lie-in/eat late/take long siestas I'd stay in a hotel nearby, and let the family get on with normal life.

I just don't understand their attitude. They're kind, helpful people. They help with DD, shower her with love and attention. They just seem oblivious to how much extra stress they're causing!

Why aren't you talking to them about it then?

My MIL comes in for 2-3 months at a time and whilst she is not the best guest ever (very low energy even though she is not 60, never cleans and tidies, not easy to 'take out', expects to be handed money etc) she is much better than this! She eats most meals with us, tries to tag along with us when we do something, and she cooks v nice food and she is quiet and easy going. She is from a v different culture so I think she's doing v well indeed! Your PIL sound awful (not deliberately but still) but most importantly why are you not talking to them abt it? Or your DH?

I would leave their meals for them to reheat or better still, let them make their own. I would also NEVER keep a baby quiet for their sake and definitely put the hoover and any other loud object on full blast whilst they are napping - bloody cheek of them!