To think the tone of these texts was a bit threatening?

[thedaisymeadow]

I was signed off work before the summer holidays with an injury rather than an illness. I'm starting back on a phased return soon.

I'm still in pain when I sit down for long periods and moving is actually the best thing for me.

So this morning dp and I plus two of our friends (a couple) and their children went to a beautiful country park. I took a couple of photos and uploaded them to facebook.

At midnight last night my phone went and I was still half asleep but looked at it in case it was an emergency. It was an ex-colleague from work telling me 'I don't think you should be doing that' (uploading photos.)

Then, five more texts came through in about a minute saying things like 'do you understand? You must not post on Facebook when signed off'

She then sent me one saying she could tell I was reading them. I then relied and said she'd woken me up.

Would you feel a bit weird about it?

Yes I agree those texts are threatening. They're not advice they are orders.

Some people do just talk like that though. I hate it.

I would be creeped out by that. Ignore and block and get on with getting better - I hope you recover soon.

It sounds like she had been drinking or there was is some other issue going on with her. She was trying to be helpful but getting it wrong. The problem definitely lies with her rather than you.

I wouldn´t give it another moment´s thought if I were you.

If you don't contact her you'll never know where these texts are coming from in her mind. It could well be she knows something the OP doesn't about office gossip on the matter. Unless you work in healthcare colleagues are not going to have the qualifications or experience to understand movement is better than sitting for the OP.

I agree that being signed off from work doesn't necessarily mean stopping all form of fun but there are so many posts on here alone of employers not taking into account that eg standing is easier than sitting or that a walk is good for depression etc and in the end flaunting activities on social media that could be construed as taking the piss out of your work situation is potentially enough to get rid of you. Colleagues and Facebook don't mix. Far too much politicking and backstabbing to be sharing private life with them too.

If someone's been moaning (not saying OP is) about how ill or injured they are on social media and then post pics of activities not generally done by ill or injured people, you'll get judged. Sounds like the texts were a panicked warning perhaps fuelled by alcohol.

Maybe this is a lesson in subtlety?

Don't post pictures of your self on social media when your off sick! Your supposed to be sad and misrable.

That's just ridiculous. The OP is signed off with an injury, not 'off sick'. What if she posted pictures of a gym/physio session doing something to get better?

Ok, fair enough. Do post pictures of yourself enjoying yourself while you're off sick. But don't come on here whinging when you get sacked.

I've been signed of work from the NHS for the last 3 months. I have been in hospital twice in this period.

I have just returned from holiday and posted my holiday pictures on FB. I discussed my concerns with my GP, Manager and Occupational Health about being seen as malingering if I were to go on holiday. They all said it was important for my recovery to partake in normal activities and the notion that when signed off sick I must stay indoors is a very old fashioned attitude towards ill health and recovery. They all mentioned that getting out was important for psychological well-being and staying in would have a negative impact on my physical health. I was surprised and impressed by this attitude shift particularly within the NHS where presenteeism is encouraged (in my experience). The key has been to be open and honest about what I have been doing throughout my sick leave.

OP I would not worry about your posts on FB. You have done nothing wrong and have nothing to hide. I agree that maybe your friend had been on the wine.

It's none of her business. She's not an actual friend, she was dismissed so is not a colleague,mso what she says or thinks is completely irrelevant. Block her on the phone and on FB, then forget it.

I don't think it was bad advice TBH, even if the delivery and timing were a bit odd

I agree

Well, you're determined to see it as a threat even though there's a much more reasonable interpretation (and she's never bothered you before) but you're right.

You ARE the victim. Call women's aid.

Maybe she can be seen in the background of the photos with someone she's not meant to be with, hence her desperation for you to take them down!