To think the tone of these texts was a bit threatening?

[thedaisymeadow]

I was signed off work before the summer holidays with an injury rather than an illness. I'm starting back on a phased return soon.

I'm still in pain when I sit down for long periods and moving is actually the best thing for me.

So this morning dp and I plus two of our friends (a couple) and their children went to a beautiful country park. I took a couple of photos and uploaded them to facebook.

At midnight last night my phone went and I was still half asleep but looked at it in case it was an emergency. It was an ex-colleague from work telling me 'I don't think you should be doing that' (uploading photos.)

Then, five more texts came through in about a minute saying things like 'do you understand? You must not post on Facebook when signed off'

She then sent me one saying she could tell I was reading them. I then relied and said she'd woken me up.

Would you feel a bit weird about it?

I hate when people say to me "I know you've read my message why aren't you replying", it is a gross invasion of privacy. I would consider changing your messenger settings

I don't think it was bad advice TBH, even if the delivery and timing were a bit odd.

I'd be the first to agree that life has to go on when you're on sick leave, and that you were totally entitled to go to the park while signed off for all the reasons you've desrcibed.

However I still wouldn't post it on FB, even with the highest security settings and with no colleagues as friends. It's just not worth the potential hassle. Yes you had good reason, but in the hands of someone who doesn't have the whole story it could cause a whole world of drama, which you just don't need when you're already struggling with your health and the impact of that on your job.

But yes, the ex-colleague was acting a bit strange.

People go to the park all the time when ill or injured. It's not house arrest. And quite a different situation from skydiving or humping a boatful of IKEA furniture out of the back of the car or whatever.

I think anyone who uploads photos to Facebook when they are off sick, regardless of why they are off sick, are basically stupid.

What? You're stupid.

She just sounds very bored. Ignore and carry on, you've done nothing wrong. I'd be tempted to post a few more lovely pics to piss her off more if I knew I could get away with it

Preface any picture of you out and about with "Following Doctor's Orders!"

Text 1 said - i've just seen you've been uploading photos to Facebook, i don't think you should do this

text 2 - you should not be putting photos up when you're signed off

Text 3 - there are two photos on there which could make you look bad, don't do this

text 4 - do not put any pictures up, do you understand?

Text 5 - daisy, do you understand you must not put pictures up

Text 6 - ok, well I can see you're reading these messages if you choose to ignore me fine

She might just be paranoid that you're going to get dismissed, and thinks she's doing you a favour.

But she'd definitely be getting de-friended. Weird and overinvested.

Pseudonym

I haven't misinterpreted your message.
You stated: " I think anyone who uploads photos to Facebook when they are off sick, regardless of why they are off sick, are basically stupid. Facebook and work do not mix. Do not friend people who you work with - you are asking for trouble."

I stated I totally disagreed with that.
IME there's never been an issue with posting what I'm doing whilst signed off sick.

Any GP will tell you that fresh air is good for you. Exercise is good for you. Spending time with loved ones is good for you.

My life doesn't grind to a halt just because I'm recovering from an illness.

OP

Those texts are barking!
Unfriend!

OP, you say that the tone of the texts is threatening, but what do you think the threat actually is? She can't do anything to you regarding this as far as I can see.

It's quite intimidating getting a flurry of firmly worded texts at that hour

I think they're trying to do you a favour and advise you not to post stuff as people from work may be watching you. That's how I read it anyway

I suspect good intentions mixed with a bottle of wine have led to her sounding like a loon!

I also think she might have had too much to drink but I would have thought anyone would find half a dozen escalating texts intimidating especially at that time of night.

I love the rotting meat cure! I can see that that could work on something like heart ache, but I'm not sure a verruca will respond to suggestion.

Another here that thinks there was alcohol involved. I would change settings on Facebook so that your photos are only visible to friends and family. All the best with your recovery.

Thanks, she was/is a Facebook friend!

If people had the ability to have a private life rather than putting everything on Facebook this wouldn't be an issue

Text 7 : fuck off!!!

It's literally none of her business and she's definitely pissed.

Pseudonym

I don't "put everything on Facebook?"

You've obviously put something on Facebook that has caused you problems. Facebook and work do not mix, unless you're happy to deal with the consequences, which obviously you're not. So its your own fault for putting it on Facebook in the first place, rather than someone else's fault for having an issue.

Perhaps its just me for growing up in an era before the Internet existed when these problems just didn't exist. But it is plain for me to see you wouldn't be having a problem if you didn't have Facebook.

Hi, I'm not really having problems thanks. Just one isolated incident of a (rather odd) person sending a flurry of texts. Have been on Facebook for nearly a decade and haven't had anything like this before so I'm not going to close it down because of this

So its your own fault for putting it on Facebook in the first place, rather than someone else's fault for having an issue.

What are you talking about??

If I put having a nice day as my status and someone else thinks, that BITCH! How DARE she have a nice day??, then it would be my fault they had an issue??