Husband can go Eff himself - P***k

[Tatteredlace]

Asked my Husband to pick up my prescription yesterday when he finishes work. He comes home in a jolly old mood having finished work early and buggered off to the driving range to fuck about and drink beer.

Me: Did you get my prescription?
Him: Oh no, I forgot
Me: Didn't think you did

Later that night...

Me: I'm off to bed, would you mind grabbing my pills while I wee?
Him: Oh, eurgh you haven't got any more of the ones I was supposed to get...

Ok, so within 24 hours of me not taking my pills I get nasty withdrawal... Nausea, brain zaps (google it), head ache, shaking and flu type stuff. So he has been at work all day, comes home with my prescription and then proceeds to act like a tosser because I have been unwell all day and despite looking after 3 yr old and 1 yr old and doing the housework and running my home business, I should have cooked the dinner to.

AIBU to have fucked him off and shut myself in the bedroom for him to deal with them... and also sending him a shitty whatsapp telling him he is a knob?

[Tatteredlace]

ArsMamatoria that is exactly what they are like, nasty and just really weird

Czerny88 Rural Surrey, where everyone comes from and remains in the 1940's

[Creatureofthenight]

YANBU. And since it is his fault you had no pills, it would have been considerate of him to check in with you this afternoon, see how you were feeling and see if he should pick up something for dinner.

[raviolidreaming]

Not sure how impressed my dh would be if I asked him to grab my pills while I had a wee

Huh? I don't see why this would be an issue.

[Dontyoulovecalpol]

People make mistakes OP. And sometimes you get a wee bit of a high from rebelling. He must have to do a lot for you from what you've described.

[LumpyMcBentface]

Dh has to dispense my pills as a safety measure. So there's be no issue with me asking him to grab them while I had a wee or whatever.

Honestly, some of the replies on here are WEIRD and antagonistic.

[Dontyoulovecalpol]

Oh and completely don't see the problem with your forgetting to get the prescription in time. It happens, that's life. I realised I was out of my AD on a bank holiday once. I was withdrawing as I begged a nurse to re prescribe them (she did! God knows how I managed to persuade
Her to sort that out

[lalalalyra]

My pharmacy seems less draconian than some, but all these people who can't collect until the day their prescription runs out - what do you do if you're on holiday or are unable get to the chemist for some reason?

When we plan any holidays we either have to plan them around DD2's prescription or 8-10 weeks beforehand I have to hand in a note to the GP requesting an early prescription as per instructions when I phone. Then I have to go back in twice to follow it up. Then we get told she needs an appointment, which we go too and end up with a pissed off GP who doesn't get why we didn't just phone. Then I have to speak to her consultant's secretary because at some point someone will decide that, actually the consultant has to ok it. Usually about 10 days before we go away we get a prescription.

Not getting to the chemist on the day simply isn't an option. I have in the past paid people to go to the chemist for us. There is also a point blank refusal to precribe anything other than weekly because 'people' sell the pills or overdose.

[ihatethecold]

My ds is only allowed 2 days worth of his meds at a time.
You have my sympathy op.
He gets in a right state if he misses his meds.
Last time he developed psychosis and had to be admitted.

[microferret]

I take sertraline too, withdrawal is nightmarish. Your DH needs a slap. YANBU.

Hot tip - if you ever take holidays in Turkey, you can buy it there over the counter, no questions asked. As much as you need. I know it's not the most attractive holiday destination at the moment but just in case you booked a package deal to go to Istanbul pre-coup

[FontSnob]

Your husband sounds like he has to do a lot for you??? What, pick up a prescription and pass a tablet. You've got to have particularly low expectations for a DH or DP if you think that's doing a lot. My DH makes dinner for us when he gets home from work on some days as he recognises that I have busy days with the kids too and am not there to service him. We are a team. OP you are not being unreasonable and your DH is being a knobber.

[ArtichokeHeartsAppleCarts]

Your husband is being a wazzock

[Sunshineonacloudyday]

Boots can deliver medication to your door all you have to do is organise it.

[Mycatsabastard]

I agree that he's been thoughtless and uncaring and has prioritised his day over your needs. If he got off work early, knowing you are unwell, why not come and look after the kids for an hour to give you a break anyway?

Regardless, with the issues you have with getting to pick up your meds. Do you have any local friends? Or a local community group? Any facebook groups? In other words, can you find someone who you can call or message to pick up your meds and deliver them once a month in return for a homecooked meal or a cup of tea and some cake or something?

[MaudlinNamechange]

"you shouldn't ever be getting to a situation where you are picking up a repeat prescription the day the run out."

This sounds very reasonable but they really dick you about with prescriptions.

Mine are very mundane and have no street value. Despite this, my repeated attempts to get a small supply in hand, for this kind of reason, have just been met with an unexplained "no".

At the moment I am very ill because an ordinary virus has interacted with an underlying condition that wasn't properly managed because my meds ran out. I got the meds yesterday, having requested them in good time, but there was a fuck up between the surgery and the pharmacy. There is always a fuck up between the surgery and the pharmacy. It's ridiculous. I have to have a fight about this every 25 days and it is completely doing my nut in.

It's completely unrealistic because we have a very protective system based on an idea that only doctors can authorise dishing out drugs, in suitable amounts. But this is a hangover from a time when it was actually possible to see doctors, and they made decisions on your care. nowadays nearly all decisions are actually, realistically, made by patients (asking for things), admin staff and pharmacists. the system of how you then get your drugs doesn't reflect this and is based on some idea that some nice neighbourhood physician is going to take a look at you and decide what to do.

[BringMeTea]

YADNBU. He sounds quite cruel. I hope you feel better soon. Brain zaps are really horrible.

[MaudlinNamechange]

PS irrelevant bone of contention: part of my problem is that there are only two days a week I can access the pharmacy in open hours. If my prescription misses the second one (Saturday) I can't go there till next Friday. ExP works in our town and could easily pick it up any day. He has only ever offered to do this once, and of course then forgot - so has never actually done it.

Quite often when I am explaining to the surgery AGAIN why I need the prescription TODAY they say "is there no one that can pick it up for you?" and at my lowest that used to make me a bit tearful because the tragic answer used to be "No, I live with a man who is supposed to love me, but he won't do this". Now he's an ex, it's oddly less painful because the answer is just "no".

[Sunshineonacloudyday]

This is completely unacceptable for the doctors and pharmacy to treat you like that. When I ask for 3 month supply of the pill so I can pick it up from the pharmacy there is 6 months worth. Some one who truly needs their medication and they mess you around.

[bakeoffcake]

YANBU.

You're H acted like a dick, as have several people in this thread.

[bakeoffcake]

Drs will only give one month at a time of ADs, unless you're off on holiday or something.

[Ohb0llocks]

I take imipramine and have missed a dose before, felt fucking Horrendous the next day.

If you contact a pharmacy they should give you an emergency run on, I have done this before and just needed proof of he medication/dose (ie medicine box with name and address etc on)

[TheoriginalLEM]

brain zaps are very real and fucking awful

[TheoriginalLEM]

bakeoff - my dr gives me 2 months script plus one repeat so thats 4 months ADs

[fastdaytears]

Ugh I remember this. Brain zaps are horrible, plus all the rest.

I had a really short window to get my repeat prescription too and it was always a nightmare. Also once they gave me the complete wrong prescription (something to do with lowering blood pressure I think) and I didn't find out until I was a couple of hundred miles away and no pharmacists would help.

[bakeoffcake]

Gosh Lem mine won't do that. I thought they had to only give them out a month at a time.

[AnchorDownDeepBreath]

I wonder if there is some kind of risk analysis?

I get antidepressants four months at a time; I get morphine for two months at a time but don't have to have run out before they'll prescribe more, and I collect both around three weeks before I'm due to run out when I do need a repeat.

It seems really bizarre and unhelpful to wait until there's not long left. It leads to situations like this, where OP forgot to account for the bank holiday and her DH forgot to collect the meds. It's a recipe for disaster.

I hope the meds kick in and you feel better soon OP.