Husband can go Eff himself - P***k

[Tatteredlace]

Asked my Husband to pick up my prescription yesterday when he finishes work. He comes home in a jolly old mood having finished work early and buggered off to the driving range to fuck about and drink beer.

Me: Did you get my prescription?
Him: Oh no, I forgot
Me: Didn't think you did

Later that night...

Me: I'm off to bed, would you mind grabbing my pills while I wee?
Him: Oh, eurgh you haven't got any more of the ones I was supposed to get...

Ok, so within 24 hours of me not taking my pills I get nasty withdrawal... Nausea, brain zaps (google it), head ache, shaking and flu type stuff. So he has been at work all day, comes home with my prescription and then proceeds to act like a tosser because I have been unwell all day and despite looking after 3 yr old and 1 yr old and doing the housework and running my home business, I should have cooked the dinner to.

AIBU to have fucked him off and shut myself in the bedroom for him to deal with them... and also sending him a shitty whatsapp telling him he is a knob?

[smarterthanhim]

I'm rural, can't get to the pharmacy, which is really awful, get meds inc sertraline, in small amounts and need dh to collect. He always does, ad without I can't function. Yadnbu op. Best wishes to you .

[bakeoffcake]

Yes, it may well be Anchor. I hate having to go and get mine every month.

[iminshock]

He forgot.
You are being horrible

[harshbuttrue1980]

I used to take sertraline too, and missing it is horrible. To the poster on page 1, yes sertraline has a very short half life, and you will feel the withdrawal within a day.
You should speak to the doctor to see if you can get them prescribed before your current lot run out - couldn't you "lose" one of the sheets of pills, ask for more and keep the "lost" ones for an emergency?
About your DH, hmmm. YOU forgot about the bank holiday, and then HE forgot today. Seems like neither of you are particularly organised. However, as you are a grown up and its your medication, I think its ultimately your responsibility. I was single when I was on sertraline, and just had to be extra organised. You just can't afford to forget that its a bank holiday when your health is at stake. Plenty of single people can organise their own meds.

[NotMe321]

Your husband's a knob. He made you ill because he prioritised pratting about and drinking beer over your health. He doesn't get to sulk about his supper, in fact he should have brought home a take away without being asked.

[NotMe321]

harshbuttrue, where do you get the suggestion that OP forgot the Bank Holiday? She ordered the stuff so that it could and should have been ready for last Thursday. She had what should have been a perfectly sensible back-up option, namely her husband collecting it for her. Most husbands would make bloody sure they didn't forget something so important. The fact that neither worked is not her fault.

[daisychain01]

Tatteredlace would it be viable to change your GP and pharmacy as it seems a really bad arrangement to be at the point of running out of your mess before they'll do your repeat. It's hardly like you can stroll down the road and sort it out quickly.

FYI I live in the Forest of Dean which is like living in a time warp, and our GP doesn't have any problem in issuing repeats which are supplied in the Pharmacy in the surgery reception. So we ring our order thru and 24 hrs later we can collect.

I think you need a GP who is prepared to be flexible because of being in a rural location. I expect you have limited choice (like us) but maybe worth considering?

[Catanddogmake6]

Yet another person agreeing that getting controlled drugs is a nightmare. Have been on the same painkiller for years prescribed by consultants but am only allowed one months supply. It is supposed to be on repeat but the number of times the surgery or Boots manage to cock the process up is amazing. I end up counting the pills out trying to work out how long I can cope. Never mind the unbearable pain - the withdrawal symptom allegedly could include heart failure so it's not a minor issue. Once in a blue moon I do end up with a few spare in case - then there is another cock up and I lose them again. I agree it would be much easier to give me three months - even if we went through the stress of getting a replacement only every three months it would improve my life. To make it worse my daughter is also on monthly controlled drug prescriptions so there is a double chance of it going wrong.

[Wayfarersonbaby]

Brain zaps? Cba to Google, I worked in the nhs for 25 yrs and never heard if them.

They're a standard side-effect of withdrawal for some newer antidepressants and detailed in all the drug leaflets. Why not google? You might find things have moved on a bit.

[Catanddogmake6]

BTW I am Surrey too so maybe it's countywide here. It does seem to be area specific.

[whywonthedgehogssharethehedge]

He forgot, it happens. To me the main issue here is not that he forgot necessarily but how he reacted to it. He should have been apologetic and then done all he could to make the next day easier for you since he knows how shit you would be feeling.

If I forgot my DHs meds I would be doing all I could to make a day without them as bearable as possible for him as he would with me.

His reaction is shit and tbh if all he got was no tea he should be bloody grateful.

[PickAChew]

Is he a prick about other things, too? Was ending up living in the arse end of nowhere with no transport his idyll or yours?

I completely get the hassles with repeat prescriptions. Both DS1 and I have multiple prescriptions on repeat and I'm overjoyed in a month where there's no SNAFU somewhere or other. We stopped using the local pharmacy for DS1's years ago and DH takes his to ASDA, near where he works, as they're fairly good at keeping stock in for regular customers - it's an expensive drug, so local family pharmacy can't do that and we we ended up running out, despite ordering the repeat prescription a week in advance, far too often to tolerate because it took ages for them to get any in - if the surgery hadn't fucked up the prescription in the first place.

[UnderseaPineapple]

iminshock

No she's not.

harshbuttrue

And plenty of single people cannot. You don't even know how her illness is affecting her so who do you think you are to have your judgey pants hitched up so high?

And as for the twat (I can't be arsed to scroll back for her name) who claims to have been working in the NHS for 25 years, here's a link for you.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Antidepressant_discontinuation_syndrome

[Mynestisfullofempty]

"brain zaps are very real and fucking awful"

Agreed. That a PP has "worked in the nhs for 25 yrs and never heard if them." doesn't mean they aren't a known side-effect of withdrawal from some medications.

[mycatwantstokillme1]

Undersea Pineapple, you took the words right out of my mouth. OP, hope you're ok.

[seasidesally]

Yet another person agreeing that getting controlled drugs is a nightmare

well they are tightly controlled for a very good reason and nobody should be having months worth in their possession

[MaudlinNamechange]

"Brain zaps? Cba to Google, I worked in the nhs for 25 yrs and never heard if them."

I think this is a function of the weird institutional silence about the side effects and habit-forming nature of SSRIs. Patients know all this stuff, HCPs often don't.

[Pilgit]

He was a dick. My DH did this once - he had been back up plan number 3 and because he forgot I would not have had enough for the weekend. I was heavily pregnant and I didn't know if I would cope. The difference was he rang NHS direct, explained the situation, they had a quick chat with me and sent an emergency prescription to our local supermarket pharmacy that was open till 11. He even rang them to make sure they had some (very common for pharmacies not to have them). And then drove down to get them. OPs DH was being a knob

[Nanny0gg]

Brain zaps? Cba to Google, I worked in the nhs for 25 yrs and never heard if them.

Oh well. They can't be real then.

[Zippydoodah]

She probably cleans the bogs

[Astoria797]

Most of our local pharmacies deliver for chronic illnesses. Is it possible to arrange that? It's awful that your husband is so irresponsible.

[Broken1Girl]

YANBU. I would know it if I didn't have my meds for even one day. If you would have to trek but he can grab it on the way home, he's been a dick tbh.
Brain zaps are hell, I remember withdrawal from Venlafaxine.

[MyWineTime]

People make mistakes OP. And sometimes you get a wee bit of a high from rebelling. He must have to do a lot for you from what you've described.
Let's hope you never have to care for anyone or rely on anyone else to provide care or support for you.
He must have to do a lot? That's what loving couples do.

OP, you husband was a dick, this is obviously very important for you and he should have taken care to remember it.
Hope you're ok.

[DisneyMillie]

He's being completely unreasonable - if you have a long term illness he should know better and be understanding and really shouldn't forget.

Don't understand why gps / pharmacies seem to make things so difficult - my baby is currently on prescribed milk for allergies - I get 3 tubs a time which lasts 7 days - it's a nightmare getting the next lot in time even though it's her only food source - they won't prescribe more at once!

[steff13]

I hope it's ok for me to ask a general question; I don't quite get how pharmacies there work.

I, too, am on sertraline. Typically I order my refills in the pharmacy's app, then go get them a couple of hours later. The pharmacy I use is in my grocery store, so if I'm going grocery shopping when I need a refill, I go to the pharmacy and tell them, and it's ready in 20-30 minutes.

So, to my question - do pharmacies there not keep quantities of drugs on hand? If it takes a couple of days to get a prescription filled, are they ordering them from someplace else?