Husband can go Eff himself - P***k

[Tatteredlace]

Asked my Husband to pick up my prescription yesterday when he finishes work. He comes home in a jolly old mood having finished work early and buggered off to the driving range to fuck about and drink beer.

Me: Did you get my prescription?
Him: Oh no, I forgot
Me: Didn't think you did

Later that night...

Me: I'm off to bed, would you mind grabbing my pills while I wee?
Him: Oh, eurgh you haven't got any more of the ones I was supposed to get...

Ok, so within 24 hours of me not taking my pills I get nasty withdrawal... Nausea, brain zaps (google it), head ache, shaking and flu type stuff. So he has been at work all day, comes home with my prescription and then proceeds to act like a tosser because I have been unwell all day and despite looking after 3 yr old and 1 yr old and doing the housework and running my home business, I should have cooked the dinner to.

AIBU to have fucked him off and shut myself in the bedroom for him to deal with them... and also sending him a shitty whatsapp telling him he is a knob?

[RosieWithTheGoodHair]

OP I moved from sertraline to citalopram recently mostly due to the fact that the erratic behaviour caused by the anxiety it was meant to treat meant I missed taking it too often and then felt I was going insane, brain zaps are the most horrific thing and I wouldn't wish them on anyone.

Your husband is being a dick. YANBU.

[harshbuttrue1980]

Pineapple, you're wearing judgypants too. Oh, but that's OK because its mumsnet and you're judging the OP's HUSBAND, not her. Judging men is fine, as all men are knobs and all women are saints :-/

The OP said that she went away for the weekend, and then the pharmacy was shut because it was a bank holiday. She mucked up her organisation, and then relied on someone else to sort it, and he also mucked up. Six of one and half a dozen of the other in terms of being badly organised. However, I do think that the ultimate burden of responsibility falls on the adult who needs the meds.

[AtSea1979]

YANBU your DH sounds like a petulant child but whatsapping him from another room to tell him he's a knob just lost you the moral high ground. I agree you should know when you take your last tablet not rely on your DH to tell you you have run out.
I could not be isolated in a village, I'd have to get a car or taxi.

[Naicehamshop]

harsh you obviously haven't read the full thread.
OP went to the pharmacy on Thursday to pick them up but they had fucked up and didn't have them ready.

[StopMakingMeLogOn]

harsh learn to read.

The OP did not 'muck up her organisation'. She went on on Thursday to collect them when they should have been ready but weren't. Monday was a bank holiday. The only thing she did 'wrong' was rely on her life partner to remember something vitally important.

[NotMe321]

How on earth is it "mucking up her organisation" to arrange to have the prescription ready for collection five days before it is needed, harshbuttrue?

[YoungGirlGrowingOld]

The NHS bog cleaner of 25 years is completely wrong. I take venlafaxine and the brain zaps are the worst of a whole shitshow of withdrawal if I miss a dose.

I don't have any issues with getting repeats from my GP - I just pick them up every month from Tesco. My previous GP surgery was a shower of shite though so I sympathize with anyone struggling.

[Chwaraeteg]

"Brain zaps? Cba to Google, I worked in the nhs for 25 yrs and never heard if them."

I think this is a function of the weird institutional silence about the side effects and habit-forming nature of SSRIs. Patients know all this stuff, HCPs often don't.

THIS ^^

I've met Dr's who don't understand how quickly withdrawel from an SSRI can occur. And it's absolute, pure hell. YANBU OP.

[PGPsabitch]

Yanbu. He forgot and that does happen but for him then to be a prick the day after makes him a complete shit. I would be horrified and so guilty if I was in your dhs shoes, I may not have realised how bad you'd be until the day after bu

[PGPsabitch]

Urgh to continue...

But once I did then I'd be doing anything to stop you feeling ill or trying to help you.

If your gp and pharmacy are shit is there any way your consultant can help? So you do have a few tide over day? I'd hope your husband wouldn't forget after seeing you so poorly but it doesn't sound like he will remember.

[Chwaraeteg]

Do yourself a favour in future. Call the Dr, tell them that you've lost your medication / left it on the train / dropped it down the loo etc, get another prescription issued and keep it for spares (I once actually did leave my medicine in another part of the country and did this).

[Stormtreader]

Brain zaps are such a well known symptom of coming off sertraline that im actually a bit shocked the NHS person above doesnt know them.
Then again, the recommended schedule of coming off them I was given by my GP was "do one day on, one day off, or halve the dose, whichever you prefer." A small amount of googling will show that one day on one day off is the WORST way of doing it, due to an effective life of the dose being 24 hours. So doing that just means you get the awful cold turkey side effects every other day to no gain at all.... You really have to be on the ball with your own drugs and conditions now to get the best treatment.

[WiddlinDiddlin]

OP your husband is an epic twat, kick him in the nadgers and wee on his cornflakes.

Same to judgeypants Mumsnetters who clearly haven't grasped that what SHOULD be a simple and fool proof process 'order meds ahead of time, go to collect meds, have meds available when necessary' is not remotely foolproof once you add in things like:

Pharmacy hasnt GOT the meds at all - yes, waiting a week for Ondansetron, result, week fucked as I've been too spewy to do anything
Pharmacy hasn't prepared the prescription - even though I put the repeat in four days ago now
Drs has randomly REMOVED something from the repeat without obvious reason - speak to specialist nurse and also receptionist, no one has a clue why - leave note for Dr who claims system did it automatically, fixes it.. this time..
NEW Dr has removed a repeat - hasn't read my notes, has randomly decided without reading notes that I don't need tramadol or oramorph. Must have assumed those were on repeat for shits and giggles? Further evidence to non-reading of notes, has put Cyclazine on repeat and removed ondansetron... (Cyclazine gives me hallucinations and spasms, dangerous, not allowed it. As per notes).
Pharmacy will hand over giant bottle of oramorph to OH but NOT the mega-pack of tramadol.. I have to be there. Never have before. Wut?

This is the same pharmacy I use every month and have for 5 years and this shit happens every other month pretty much.

They also cannot prepackage stuff into blisterpacks for me (where you get each days sorted out for you rather tahn sorting your own dosset box). They will not let me order ahead of time, I have to be two days off running out before I can get more. It takes at least three days to sort the prescription out if im LUCKY.
No WAY can they deliver, they only do that for OAPs.

So no its not always simple and yes sometimes we have to ask someone to pick up a prescription and its not like 'ooh pick me up a choccy bar' or 'grab me a sandwich on your way home' its actually serious and its really NOT unreasonable to expect ones partner to remember this!

[Beelzebop]

Thank you for writing this post! I am really sorry for your arsey dp but it's so reassuring to heat someone else mention the infamous "Brain Zaps" and also their rapid onset. I have specifically mentioned these to several GPs and they all pretend they don't exist!