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Husband can go Eff himself - P***k

115 replies

Tatteredlace · 31/08/2016 19:05

Asked my Husband to pick up my prescription yesterday when he finishes work. He comes home in a jolly old mood having finished work early and buggered off to the driving range to fuck about and drink beer.

Me: Did you get my prescription?
Him: Oh no, I forgot
Me: Didn't think you did

Later that night...

Me: I'm off to bed, would you mind grabbing my pills while I wee?
Him: Oh, eurgh you haven't got any more of the ones I was supposed to get...

Ok, so within 24 hours of me not taking my pills I get nasty withdrawal... Nausea, brain zaps (google it), head ache, shaking and flu type stuff. So he has been at work all day, comes home with my prescription and then proceeds to act like a tosser because I have been unwell all day and despite looking after 3 yr old and 1 yr old and doing the housework and running my home business, I should have cooked the dinner to.

AIBU to have fucked him off and shut myself in the bedroom for him to deal with them... and also sending him a shitty whatsapp telling him he is a knob?

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MammaTJ · 31/08/2016 19:28

I would have sent him back out again to get it, then it would not have been a problem for anyone but him.

I rely on my DP to go and get my repeat prescriptions. Surely that is a normal part of being a couple?

george1020 · 31/08/2016 19:29

Some health centres and pharmacies will deliver your prescription to you if you have restricted mobility or other problems that mean you can't collect yourself, would your pharmacy do that for you?
Otherwise you may have to try and keep a very small amount on standby for emergencies (maybe after quick call to GP to confirm that's ok)

SaggyNaggy · 31/08/2016 19:30

He's a prick, I'd start forgetting things he expects you to do... I'd start with accidently forgetting to not put rat poison in his Sunday roast.

Oops...

ToastDemon · 31/08/2016 19:30

It's okay to say fuck and prick here. And your husband does sound like a fucking prick.

sleepachu · 31/08/2016 19:31

"Not sure how impressed my dh would be if I asked him to grab my pills while I had a wee"

Not as unimpressed as I'd be if I was ill and he said no, especially after he'd forgotten to do me a necessary favour!

RaspberryOverload · 31/08/2016 19:31

If her dh is unreliable she needs to order via a chemist that deliver.

Which might be possible in most places, but we can't just assume that's the case everywhere.

And some pharmacies won't order your repeats in early to allow for a safety buffer.

So I'd rather focus on a dick of a DH who acts like a tosser because his dinner wasn't on the table.

Nanny0gg · 31/08/2016 19:32

I live in a tiny village with no transport

Just pointing this out for those who've missed it.

So I highly doubt there's a chemist who might deliver. She wasn't able to get the prescription any sooner and she doesn't have an easy-to-get-to pharmacist.

So her husband shouldn't have forgotten and he shouldn't have been an arse about his tea.

mirime · 31/08/2016 19:35

"Otherwise you may have to try and keep a very small amount on standby for emergencies (maybe after quick call to GP to confirm that's ok)"

GP practices can be remarkably unhelpful about this sort of thing. DH needs medication every day to stay alive, he still can't get more than a months supply at a time and as he so.times has to take a double side then has a huge battle if he needs to order his repeat early.

Apparently it's to reduce waste (and cut costs) by not giving out more medicine than people need.

Rubberduck2 · 31/08/2016 19:36

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mirime · 31/08/2016 19:36

Double dose, not side.

Bagina · 31/08/2016 19:37

You had me at "driving range" and "beer": he's a lucky man, that's for sure!

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Tatteredlace · 31/08/2016 19:39

Thanks Nanny0gg our Pharmacy don't deliver and I have tried other services that deliver in the post, Pharmacy 4 U or something like that but this means relying on royal mail, who are about as reliable as my Husband and my meds change quite frequently so this isn't a viable option.

Transport if very limited here if you don't drive or only have one car that DH uses for work and the buses only run something like every 3 hours in the school holidays, so waiting forever for a bus with 2 toddlers and then taking them to the middle of no where to do nothing while waiting for a return bus that is also as reliable as my Husband and the Royal Mail put together is just a bloody nightmare.

And brain zaps are nasty, just really nasty.

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Shinyshoes2 · 31/08/2016 19:40

I agree why did you leave it so late

alexandranarino · 31/08/2016 19:42

It's your husband's fault!!!! Not major but still

NovemberInDailyFailLand · 31/08/2016 19:43

I completely understand, OP. Not having sertraline is a nightmare.

ample · 31/08/2016 19:43

YANBU
Yes forget about his dinner, twice at least. It wouldn't teach mine a thing but it would make me feel a whole lot better.

Shinyshoes2 · 31/08/2016 19:44

Late posting apologies

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Tatteredlace · 31/08/2016 19:56

I'm getting silent treatment and 'looks' like im a complete arsehole.

Such a fucking prick!! Sorry I have been unwell today dear, I forgot I was a Mother and Wife and I have a business to run and so I don't have time to fuck up your day by not doing the dishes and making food!!!!!

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Ballysbabe · 31/08/2016 19:56

What a knob mine would probs do the the same ! Just not wired up the same.

paddypants13 · 31/08/2016 19:59

Your dh is definitely a knob. I also live very rurally and have two toddlers. For a while we only had one car, which dh needed for work. If I asked him to pick up my repeat prescription he damn well did it.

Next sigh and eye roll just laugh in his face.

ArsMamatoria · 31/08/2016 20:04

Poor you. Last thing you need when you're on Sertraline. And brain zaps are really horrible. I get them too - like electric shocks in the head.

Flowers
Czerny88 · 31/08/2016 20:05

I'm on Sertraline and, while I don't have such a severe reaction to missing a dose as you seem to, OP (I just get a bit dizzy), if I realise I've miscalculated and am about to run out then I take half a tablet for two days (or four, if necessary) which is preferable to entirely missing out a day's dosage and buys some time.

My pharmacy seems less draconian than some, but all these people who can't collect until the day their prescription runs out - what do you do if you're on holiday or are unable get to the chemist for some reason?

Ditsy4 · 31/08/2016 20:10

I'm sorry this has happened. I have also experienced DH forgetting to collect. The GP surgery is just along from the pharmacy so I get them delivered there but it shuts at five so if he hasn't picked it up by then I have to suffer. It only happened once( I never ask him now and I had only asked twice) and I had been in an accident so incapacitated.
I live in a small village, no shop and one bus once a week. One in and one out. People that don't live out in the country have no idea what it is like. You have my sympathy two kids, two car seats go to the chemist with two under fives and two car seats buy meds then wait for taxi. Put two car seats and two kids in taxi, go home and some posters think you should have done this instead of asking your husband to collect meds that he knows you need.
I have also been in the situation where they didn't have the meds when I called. It has happened two or three times. Once when I was feeling quite ill I went to GP and then left the prescription at chemist while I went to get milk and bread came back and they didn't have it. I went to 5 more pharmacies before I got it. I felt really dreadful like I might pass out by then. If it hasn't happened to you it doesn't mean it hasn't happened to someone.
You have my full sympathy and he is an arse. He didn't deserve dinner. I hope you feel better soon.

VoldysGoneMouldy · 31/08/2016 20:10

Utter tosser. YANBU. Hope the impact of missing a day has eased off Flowers

Rockmegently · 31/08/2016 20:12

I think a lot of the posters questioning your organisational skills don't understand rurality, or that stockpiling certain controlled meds is impossible as they are dispensed very strictly. Your dh is clearly in the wrong so why people are focusing on you i don't know, except of course this is aibu

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