Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

To be offended about the plug-in comment?

229 replies

lavenderlooselips · 30/08/2016 16:29

Last night I was forced to invited out with some people from work and it transpires one of my distant colleagues knows one of my good mum friends. When I was explaining how I knew this friend she said;
"Oh you're the one with hundreds of plug ins that give x the almighty headaches....hahahaha" Hmm

She spoke like it was some in joke but this is all new to me! I'm livid. I know it's not crime of the century to have plug ins but I'm angered at the fact she's obviously talking about me to others. Should I let on I know or secretly seethe or get rid of plug ins?? more plug ins and turn them up when she comes Angry

OP posts:
ParanoidGynodroid · 31/08/2016 22:13

Indeed Sophie . Most of them have this on the back!

To be offended about the plug-in comment?
Justalittlelemondrizzle · 31/08/2016 22:28

I'd get rid of the plug ins. DM uses them and they give me a headache too. I don't know why she uses them.
I think they're only necessary if you have pets. I think they're dangerous and they just smell of chemicals.
My house smells nice without but if I'm expecting people round for the evening for example. I wash a large towel in some lovely smelling washing powder and put it on the radiator in the hall behind the radiator cover. The smell lasts days and is better than any plug in Smile

CarefullyAirbrushedPotato · 31/08/2016 22:32

Be generous to humankind, ditch plug-ins.
Asthmatics everywhere will breathe a sigh of relief

Knackerednursey · 31/08/2016 23:29

Google Scentsy warmers - they're popular it seems.

LucyintheskywithRainbows · 01/09/2016 01:36

Aww I love my ambipur 3volution. I have the sleep serenity in my bedroom. They are gorgeous. I'd be so hurt if a "friend" felt she couldn't come to me but was talking behind my back. Hugs op xx

Flum · 01/09/2016 01:49

Clicked on this thinking it was a sex toy.. Like a butt plug or something. Never heard of these smelly ones though.

Helloitsme88 · 01/09/2016 01:57

Perhaps friend had to cancel on work colleague friend because of a migraine caused by your plug ins and that was why she mentioned it to work colleague friend rather than bitching about you. It's not like she said I don't like lavender and her 100s of plug ins

EachandEveryone · 01/09/2016 02:02

www.ashleigh-burwood.co.uk

Treat yourself to one of these lamps. They really work. Also the reed diffusers are very good and chesper.

NovemberInDailyFailLand · 01/09/2016 02:27

I don't like them at all.

Even worse, though, is stuff like vanilla and apple air spray used after visiting the toilet. Vanilla, apple and poo smell is not good.

Brightredpencil · 01/09/2016 03:07

That's a really shit stirry thing to say. She's probably trying to 'Wendy' you... and I wouldn't hesitate in telling the mutual friend about this incident to let her know how indiscrete she is rather than to start a bun fight about who said what about what.

Brightredpencil · 01/09/2016 03:09

I also want to know what you said to when she made this remark?! I hope you were quick enough to say something along the lines of "ahhh and you must be the socially embarassing hanger-on that she moans about".

oobedobe · 01/09/2016 03:34

I don't think you are supposed to heat essential oils so all those burners are not good. I have a diffuser/vapouriser that uses ultra sonic waves to create cold steam you add blends of essential oils. Safer too as no candles burning. I love the lemony scents for daytime/freshness, lavender for the evening and piney scents at Christmas. Mine is from Sage Wellness, not sure what they have in the uk?
saje.ca/healthy-enviro/nebulizers/aromaom-222568.html

kali110 · 01/09/2016 04:11

My god i expected semi to have said something really horrendous, but they really didn't Confused
I agree with them.
It doesn't matter if a load of you don't like plug in, some do.
Does not mean others can slag of people's homes ( or that they are dirty).
I used to love my lavender one ( till i could no longer get the refill) my home doesn't smell i just really liked that smell.

CarefullyAirbrushedPotato again, not all asthmatics and migraine suffers are affected by plug ins...

McSmith · 01/09/2016 05:43

Unfortunately, after a few minutes in a house with even one plug-in in the vicinity, my eyes and nose are streaming, my head pounds and my chest feels wheezy so I really dislike the bloody things. But we're not talking about my house, or your friend's house, just yours. And if plug-ins work for you (as they clearly do for many thousands of people) then shrug it off and carry on 😀.

But I'd be carefully considering that 'friendship' if I was in your position...

nooka · 01/09/2016 07:10

My ILs are keen users of plug ins, fragranced potpourri and other sources of artificial scent. I find it overwhelming and when I visit I feel sick and headachy very quickly. If I'm having a related conversation with someone I might bring up my ILs house as an example, I don't think that's a particularly rude thing to do. They are very houseproud, it's not an insult to say that they use tons of scent which I find difficult, it's just true. The colleague on the other hand was rude as she was clearly trying to embarrass the OP.

I find lots of cleaning products difficult too (tumble drier sheets are particularly nasty smelling as are most polishes) and am glad that I work in a scent aware office. Strong smells affect lots of people.

goddessoftheharvest · 01/09/2016 07:17

What about incense? I burn nag champa when the mood takes me, it's lovely. Some incense is cheap and awful, but the stuff I get seems to be the proper type

blitheringbuzzards1234 · 01/09/2016 07:42

I used to be a very headachey person but plug-ins don't seem to affect me. Very strong smelling flowers like lilies or hyacinths can set me off though.

Notmuchtosay1 · 01/09/2016 08:26

I know someone who's husband got quite ill with a bad cough. They have been told not to use spray air freshener a or pug ins. Ever. Must admit they give me a headache too. So do the hanging ones you put in the car. We just stink of dog instead 😜

Notmuchtosay1 · 01/09/2016 08:27

Plus ins that should say!! Obviously!

Thinkingblonde · 01/09/2016 08:43

My neighbor is a fan of plug ins, I am not, they make my lips tingle, give me headaches and a wheezy chest. She has one in every room. Her house stinks of them, she gave me a few cakes she'd made which was very kind of them, I took one bite and gagged on the taste, it tasted of plug in. The cakes had absorbed the smell, had to throw the cakes away.

StrattersHasACunningPlan · 01/09/2016 08:52

Awful, awful things, bad for the environment, and being a special snowflake they set off my asthma. Open windows, change your hoover bag if it has one, clean your carpet/rugs, and get a reed diffuser if you really must.

Rishaar · 01/09/2016 12:33

As someone who puts their foot in it ALL the time, it may be that your colleague "said it a bit wrong". I've blurted out stuff that I think is nice conversationy banter and then thought shit, it sounds like we've been bitching about her when it was just an offhand comment. Stuff gets brought up for loads of reasons... I doubt that your friend thought "OMG I must tell someone about lavenders plug ins". It probably just came up in conversation and your work colleague didn't think it through before saying it to you. Trust me, if it had been a mean conversation, she wouldn't have said anything.

Btw, plugins are the devil Grin

falange · 01/09/2016 14:02

If you want plug ins, have them. Ignore everyone else. It's your home. But please please make sure you have lots of them and other air freshener type things whenever the nasty person who was talking about you next visits. In fact say to her 'I hear you don't like some plug ins, but have you had a sniff of this one, or this one' and so on until she has sniffed about 30.

SooBee61 · 01/09/2016 14:37

Plug ins are an abomination and very bad for pets as they're right at their level.

Xmasbaby11 · 01/09/2016 14:40

Plus ins are lovely and i really like the smell. Noone in the house gets a headache from them. We don't keep them on all the time though.

I have a 2 year old who's still in nappies so there's the poo smell to get rid of. The lounge has an enormous bay window that doesn't open. I've tried various things including reed diffuser but nothing else has worked.