to think the man you love at 18 is rarely the man you'd love at 32

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Just that really!

Met my DH when I was 18 and he was 26. I'm 28 now and we're still in love and best friends.

Sometimes, but not always.
The man I loved at 18, wasn't even the man I loved at 20.

My mum met my dad when she was 18 and he was 23. They've been married for 52 years.

I met my husband at 16, loved him from 18, I'm 42 now and we're still together.

All will be different but, I think men change in their mid 30's & start to get their heads around what they actually want, so YANBU.

YANBU.

Guy I loved at 18 is a dick, guy I loved at 19 is the guy I still love now at 34

In my case it is.

Met at 16 in sixth form. Been together ever since. Now 43y. Happy as ever.

Met husband at 18 both 42 now and still very much in love. Are we the same people no we grew up together! No one should stay the same but we grew closer..

Depends on the people. Life experiences can be so different even by 18. I think that has an effect

I divorced the man I met at 20, when I was 32!

OTOH, the guy I knew who annoyed the hell out of me when I was 25 is sat on the sofa, beside me, 22 years later. You could say he grew on me (and grew up, himself)

The grow together or grow apart thing rules true for most people I know. Some of us are with the men we met when we were late teens/very early twenties and still going strong. Yet I found 29/30 a common age for long term relationships to break down as they realised that it was get married and have a family or split up, even after years of living together. Hopefully we're sticking in the grow together camp!

I hope the man I loved at 18 is still the man I love at 32 (and beyond). So far we have grown up together but we are only 6 years. I can only hope it stays this good!

Not always.
Few of my friends are still with the guys they met at 17 and we are older than 32!

Yanbu. Of course it goes that way sometimes, but not that often.

At 18 I loved a man and moved in with him. It was all over by 22 and I had all sorts of adventures between 22 and 29 when I met dh.

Am I the only person who can see the 'rarely' in the thread title?

For what it's worth I agree with you OP - I am very pleased no longer to be with my boyfriend from when I was 18! I think it depends on how much your wider life changes, though. Absolutely no one I know who went off to university and then settled somewhere else (mostly London) after is with their teenage partner. The few people I do know who are all also still live in our home town.

Met DP when I was 17 and he was 27, now 46 and (nearly) 56, still love him, but neither of us are the people we were then. We've grown up/changed/learnt stuff and thankfully we have both adapted well to the changes in each other/our relationship.

I loved him at 17 and I love him now at 31 but there were 4 years in the middle when we stayed friends but weren't together. My parents met at 15/19 and still seem very happy together at 53/57. It obviously isn't the same in all circumstances but it does work for lots of couples.

We've been together since I was 17 and still love him just as much. We've been through a lot and grown so much, but in other ways we are exactly the same as we were.

The boychild man I loved at 18 was a total prick.
I think I knew it even then, but didn't want to see it.

The gorgeous man I love now, some years after 32 is the one for me I think. I really don't deserve him.

i met dh when i was 18.
21 years and 5dc and we are still together

The man I loved at 18 is still very much the man I love 19 years later. There's a little bit more of each of us to love these days....

Met DH at 18 and still happily married nearly 21 years later There's been the odd bump but not enough to derail us.

This thread and no wine at all has made my search old boyfriends on FB.