AIBU - husband comments on weight loss after birth

[JessieMc123]

AIBU? I've got an 8 week old and I'm currently around a stone heavier than I was before I was pregnant (I was size 8-10 and now more like a 12 - mostly just bigger boobs and bum but definitely not back into all my normal clothes!) - my DH just showed me a picture of his friend's wife who had twins a month ago and is now back in her pre-preg skinny jeans. I feel really upset that he thinks this is reasonable, when my confidence is low... I'm not exercising much but I'm exhausted and breastfeeding constantly! He thinks I'm a cow for telling him he was being a d*ck showing me that. What do you think - AIBU??

He is a big twat!

I would show him this thread let him know how much of an unreasonable twat head he is being, then find yourself a much younger, fitter, generally nicer man!

Yep, he's a dick. Totally unacceptable comparing you to another woman. You really need to tell him so firmly, OP.

He was being pretty tactless and unkind.

Is he usually like that?

I'm assuming he is himself a lithe adonis, of course.

That was a really cuntish thing to say. You wouldn't be unreasonable to tell him to find alternative accommodation for a few nights.

He wouldn't touch the ground

Jesus Christ get a grip everyone, he was tactless and thoughtless.

People are saying 'thoughtless' and 'tactless' but I suspect that's kind to your husband. I think his 'innocent' question about whether you were back in your jeans wasn't tactless, it was nasty.

Another vote for dick.

Correct, no-one doesn't understand that this is not okay.

What an insensitive prick.

If it's any consolation I'm still carrying 10 lbs of baby weight. The 'baby' is 27.

You just love yourself and your baby. Maybe you should find a picture of Johnny Wadd and show your DH and tell him 'when you look like that, I'll look like her'.

I think his 'innocent' question about whether you were back in your jeans wasn't tactless, it was nasty.

This

Just tell him that she may be in her pre-pregnancy jeans but after twins she probably has a saggy mummy tummy too

I've an 8 week old DD and I'd be a bit gutted and pissed off if DP did that to me (am currently 2 1/2 stone heavier and can't seem to shift a single lb so far )

WTF. I would have decked him. YANBU.

He's being a knob.
I was upset that my dp made a comment when bottle refusing, nocturnal dd was 10months & I had still have a bit to go.
I'll never be back to my pre preg size because I'm a whole new shape, even if I am almost back to pre preg weight

I was super skinny after DS1; the reason being I had a horrendous pregnancy and couldn't keep much food down at all. So while I looked 'good' it wasn't exactly a healthy way to lose weight.

Didn't happen after Ds2.....

A personal trainer I know advises caution exercising too much post-partum, especially before those stomach muscles have knitted back together properly, you can do some serious damage.

If it makes you feel better, his friend's wife probably photo shopped the hell out of her FB photo and ripped the skinnies off after it was taken because she couldn't actually breathe.

What an insensitive piece of crap!

DICK. that is all :)

Wow. Just wow. He's a prize isn't he? Ignore him, what an utter misogynistic superficial berk.

YANBU. He's a dick. It can take months / years to get back if ever, to pre pregnancy weight.

Tell him to fuck right off!

Total dick , how nasty of him

So because DP is a man, his comment HAD to be misogynistic, nasty and superficial.

How very sexist

He's brave

Yes, violence would have ensued if DH did similar 8 weeks after birth. DS is 5.5 months now and I'm basically resigned that my belly will never be the same again!

He was massively insensitive, but only you know if this was stupidity or malice