If DD doesn't stop fucking BREATHING SO LOUDLY I'm going to hit something.

[LumpyMcBentface]

She has a bit of a cold. Her response to this is to huff and puff and breathe heavily. I'm pretty sure at this point she's doing it on purpose. I got up and left the room and she followed me. I actually want to cry.

This is horrible. I've asked her to try and breathe normally and she's lost her shit with me and screamed 'oh so I'm not even allowed to BREATHE now'. So now we're both ragey.

I would call SS if I knew you irl, you can actually banish your child to the furthest chair

Is this the worst over reaction ever?

Omg a 12 year old is banished to a chair the furthest away from her mum and all of a sudden it's SS worthy

As I type this OH is in the other bedroom doing something on his computer with headphones on. For some reason this necessitates these weird infuriating groaning / grunting noises which he does all the time when he's concentrating. And then flatly denies it, I'm making it up apparently. Bit like when he's asleep and snoring and then when I wake him up says that there is no way he could have been snoring as he wasn't asleep. Grrrr.

Get your phone out and record him. Can't deny it then

I LOVE the overreactions.

My poor, ill DD, suffering by being sent to the other chair. The handwringing is fabulous.

Well obviously Lumpy

You should be ashamed of yourself! Ashamed!!

I would love to hear that convo:

SS: She does what to her poor child

Over-reactor:She...sobs......she....she......she made the child go to the furthest chair! And then forced Vicks upon her.

SS: Ummmm

What's happening to MN?! We used to be able to lightheartedly joke about things. The kid has the fucking sniffles and her mother is irritated by sniffing. It's not like she has Ebola and is being ignored.

Well, I read the beginning of this thread yesterday and don't expect it to go this way
I have been ready to commit an assault on the commute at the sniffer next to me on the train

'didn't' not 'don't' ^^

I would call SS if I knew you irl, you can actually banish your child to the furthest chair? I leave the room if my 8yo eats an apple, it's either that or an apple free house.

I have misophonia too, breathing, eating, clicking fingers and joints drive me to a rage.

I was sat on a train once and had a breather next to me, I snapped at him "can you breath quieter please" I then instantly apologised and explained my overreaction he retorted "you sound like my wife" and moved away

the furthest chair

In my house it would be diagonally across the dining table. I should think Social Services will be fine with that.

Where some of you think people live? Blenheim palace?

Can DH take her out or distract her? Give you some peace?

I feel for you. Im laid back about alot of things and even when angry iv been told i dont seem angry but some noseie actually make me see red and i get a rage inside.it allmost a physical pain. I have to take myself out the room. Sometimes it makes me want to repeat the noise, which i do in my head.

Lumpy - not sure if someone else has mentioned this, but my daughter is having Sequent Repatterning therapy for her misophonia and is has really helped reduce the rages.

I suffer as well and are pretty sure my Dad had it. it is common for it to be passed between parents and children as you learn as you grow up to avoid making noise - tot he point you worry about other's making the same noises. What happens is the pathways get messed up as you grow and you start associating certain noises and certain people and movements with feeling anxiety and it leads to rages.

Anyway there are just a few people in the UK that do this repatterning which effectively resets the pathways. There is a guy that does it online - but we saw a woman for our daughter. Her level went from a 9 down to about a 4 after about 5 weeks. its no quick fix and won't work for everyone - but it is considered to be the most effective treatment at the moment.

I am lucky that my misophonia sits at about a 3-4 most days - but just before my period it shoots up to at least an 8. My daughter is really badly affected and really feel for her. She eats in her room and spends all of her time away from other people. I find I can just walk away before the rage starts or distract myself. But she can't - i hope it improves as she gets older.

I do feel some guilt associated with me passing this on to her.

That's really interesting. My mum also has it.

I'll have a look into the therapy.