If DD doesn't stop fucking BREATHING SO LOUDLY I'm going to hit something.

[LumpyMcBentface]

She has a bit of a cold. Her response to this is to huff and puff and breathe heavily. I'm pretty sure at this point she's doing it on purpose. I got up and left the room and she followed me. I actually want to cry.

This is horrible. I've asked her to try and breathe normally and she's lost her shit with me and screamed 'oh so I'm not even allowed to BREATHE now'. So now we're both ragey.

[Horsegirl1]

Some women would give anything to hear there kids breathe . YABU and darn right cruel

[queenofthemountains]

Lumpy, that's an awful thing to say, my daughter can't breathe through her nose, due to having a very large cleft palate which has taken 4 operations to finally seal.

You're the sort of person I dread her meeting, she can't help breathing noisily.

[LumpyMcBentface]

Oh come on, I was clearly joking about public transport.

And Horsegirl, that's a bit of a fucking stretch to find offense. Ik actually impressed.

[madamginger]

The reason my DS mouth breathes is because he can't blow his nose and his sinuses are always blocked he's 8 and it drives me bat shit crazy. And he snores as well
I love him but that doesn't mean I like everything he does

[TheForeignOffice]

I'm doing this now with really bad flu. Driving myself nuts and even earplugs can't stop the sound because I can hear it inside me . It's hideous and there's no escape.

[PersianCatLady]

Is it just me feeling sorry for your DD?
No, I am feeling sorry for her as well.

[PersianCatLady]

She's not actually ill! She's just got the slight sniffles
I don't understand how you expect your DD to be sympathetic to your condition but you aren't really that sympathetic towards her.

[HeartsTrumpDiamonds]

My niece is a mouth breather and drives me batty and I don't have misophonia at all.

[Broken1Girl]

Due to actual medical issues that went undiagnosed because my bitch mother didn't care. Like you don't. I would call SS if I knew you irl, you can actually banish your child to the furthest chair? Hope you're saving for therapy.

[Evilstepmum01]

Misophobia?

Crap. I never knew this was a thing. DH just says I'm a grumpy cow! I cannot be in the same room as DSD when shes eating. DS I can tolerate-he's well-mannered, but the spectacle and racket made as DSD troughs with her hands (WTF?), I cannot cope. Mentally, I freak. Disney Dad says Im picking on her but we all have to live together and I just get panicky and break out in a cold sweat because I dread it so. Mealtimes are a nigthmare and constantly stress me. Dinner, I either dont eat or eat so fast I'm sick just so I can get away and not be trapped next to her.

Working on it-have taught her 'manners' but I still avoid breakfast and lunch. 'Family' meals I am guilt tripped by my husband into sitting at, are so hard to cope with cos of course I am anxious and he gets annoyed with me: 'please close your mouth' every 2 mins.

Likely she's pushing my buttons for attention, I realise this and try to be kind and tolerant but I feel your pain OP! I just thought I was grumpy!

Also tv on and radio on drives me potty too-cant deal with overwhelming noise!

How does one get diagnosed with this and what if any treatments are available?

[PirateFairy45]

Ear plugs

[neonrainbow]

Fuck off brokengirl its not a made up condition. It's no picnic to suffer from either. Having misophonia doesnt automatically make someone abusive.

[neonrainbow]

Evil stepmum unfortunately there isn't really any treatment. White noise, ear plugs and avoiding triggers. Although it Sounds like for dsds sake you need to sort out her table manners if her dad won't or she won't ever learn.

[VeryBitchyRestingFace]

I feel sorry for misophonics.

But I feel sorry for the kids too. They didn't choose to be born, whereas the parents chose to have them, knowing they couldn't abide noise.

[neonrainbow]

So people with misophonia shouldn't have kids? What about people with ocd who can't bear mess? Are they allowed children?

[VeryBitchyRestingFace]

So people with misophonia shouldn't have kids? What about people with ocd who can't bear mess? Are they allowed children?

I didn't say they shouldn't have them. But if ordinary noise drives you to the point that you try to micro manage another person's breathing, I'd personally think twice about it. Or at least buy an industrial size pair of headphones.

Each to their own though.

[SkydivingFerret]

verybitchy I think the problem can be that for me at least, not everyone triggers it. For example I can happily eat a meal with my sister without being triggered but not with my mum or dad. The person two chairs away from me typing at work doesn't bother me in the slightest but the person behind me drives me crazy. So it's difficult to know really, I've never had an issue with anyone breathing either.

brokengirl I might have had sympathy for you but nobody is being "shamed" what a bloody ridiculous thing to say

[DameFanny]

Checking in as another misophonic - worse when I'm extra-tired, and can't hear conversation if there's too much background noise.

Headphones and music is my salvation - mostly classical, stuff I know so well it's a safe space for my head to go to.

And in extremis, if I'm somewhere I can't put on headphones, I concentrate on playing through a piece of music in my head, as "loudly" as possible.

Time to introduce your kids to classical music OP? Elgar's brilliant for this - cello concerto, enigma variations? Bit of Dvorak too?

[SanityClause]

I have mild misophonia, so I do sympathise.

I never thought of my hatred of the television being just background noise as misophonia, Navy, but I guess you are right.

Apart from that, I especially hate slurpy eating, and squelchy chewing. I am actually very sensitive to my own eating noises, as I am worried they will be upsetting others.

But I do think you need to take a step back and focus on your DD, Lumpy. I'm sure she's not doing it to push your buttons. She just feels like shit, and wants her mum.

Instead of asking her to breathe normally, why don't you acknowledge that it is you with the problem, and that she is doing nothing wrong. Do everything practically that you can to help her, but just explain that sometimes her breathing noises (which you know she can't help) get too much for you, and you need to go out for a while, and ask her to respect that, and just give you some time to pull yourself together.

Also, Vicks does start work to clear the sinuses instantly. It doesn't take 20 minutes. Your breathing keeps improving for a while, but it does start getting better right away.

[Evilstepmum01]

Neonrainbow, training in table manners has been ongoing for the last 2 years. But she forgets. I dont, hence avoiding stressful situations.
It is a type of anxiety, one I feel is overlooked. Am already on anti-depresants, so they help but I still get the tight chest and panic and sometimes just sit and cry.

I have ear plugs tho......

meanwhile.....

[Evilstepmum01]

Dammit. trying to copy over a meme but it didnt work.

Off to find huge headphones. Oddly, I work at a refuse centre where JCB's reversing with huge noisy bangy skips dont seem to bother me.