To detest FAMILY day out, FAMILY meal, FAMILY fun!

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Why do some people use the word "Family" to describe everyday activities?

I come across it on MN, Facebook and often irl.

I mean, the kind of families who do everything together anyway.

"Oh, we had a great family holiday". You never go on holiday separately and haven't for fifteen years.

"I made a really tasty pasta bake. #familymealtimes." As opposed to any other type of meal you ever have.

"We enjoy family day outs at the local arboretum."

Etc, etc.

Don't get me started on "Quality time".

I'm going to have some quality family time now, mumsnetting.

I have suffered from panic attacks and yes if somebody who post on Facebook the examples you have give it can cause a panic attack.

That's the thing you don't know if your 'friends' on Facebook post here and if they have panic attacks.

I understand the glow of contentment and the happiness in sometimes ordinary everyday moments. I don't understand when someone is supposed to be blissfully happy and really in the moment with their family, they suddenly think - quick my phone I need to put this on FB and use cringy hashtags. Why?

So, you're the sort of person who does this, Eve? Well then, read the thread, don't shoot the messenger and concentrate on your family, not promoting life desperately trying to control how you're viewed by others. They're not buying it.

I am not missing the point . It isn't about me, I don't use hashtags or most if not all of the sayings on this thread. I just don't see the need to belittle others.

I think the internet is unsuitable for someone suffering panic attacks when reading a mild pisstake of #soblessed.

Well then, read the thread, don't shoot the messenger and concentrate on your family, not promoting life desperately trying to control how you're viewed by others. They're not buying it.

That is uncalled for and mean. How do you know how much attention she gives her family?

Agreed, paxillin. Of all the things going on in the world, it's incredible to consider this thread as panic-inducing.

I really think (and this is said with concern) that if this thread has given you a panic attack then MN probably isn't the best place for you. This was supposed to be a lighthearted commentary- I'm sure the OP is still friends with many # ers. It's not a criminal offence just a discussion over something.
For example, MN blazes people for wearing tunics and leggings - which I do. Do I care ? Not really. Did it make me smarten up for other events? Yep.
I also suffer ever panic attacks from a serious assault. If I find something likely to trigger them I avoid it.

The obsession with self promotion and constantly presenting the perfect image of family life on FB causes panic attacks and anxiety - not a lighthearted thread about the madness of it all.

Well said faraway

I skipped to the last page to agree that FB brings out the cringiest shite in people, only to find that the thread has evolved into a debate about something else.
#wandersofftowatchahorrorfilm

I think the reason it winds some of us up so much is that it's so frustrating that as a PP said people have this need to construct and "promote" their own life and it makes interactions so much more fake. I don't like that, it makes me uncomfortable and it's why I'm not on FB.

I don't have a problem with people having a nice time with their family at all – just the constant framing and presentation of it and the hashtags that all sound like they're living life not for its own sake but for the sake of broadcasting it and bigging it up.

I guess if you can't understand why that makes me shudder, then you just can't. But I don't think us discussing it is meant to hurt people's feelings. It's just discussing the phenomenon and why we find it annoying. You can't tell people not to discuss what they find annoying surely. The thread title is pretty clear so no one who is into that stuff has to read it.

#threadsturningsillynow

##timeforbed

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Those four lines that you've posted are haunting and heartbreaking.
I hope I don't sound melodramatic but what an abortion of the word "family".

It's funny how some people think everything is about them. #youresovainibetyouthinkthishashtagisaboutyoudontyou

I've just spent nearly and hour reading this thread - it's made me laugh so much. The great thing about hashtag usage on Facebook is that's it's a brilliant heads-up on who to avoid in the playground!

Wow, just wow!
Chill people, it's words on an Internet page, and breattttthe!
#takeachillpill #hashtagsarecringereagardless
Be happy with you and yours, post about it/don't post about it, whatever suits you! Just be prepared for opinions if you lay your shit bare for all to read! #pourmeanotherglassofvino

Vickla #amen

#gentlefunpoke #mnfunmoan #nobigdeal

I only use family to refer to occasions involving all of my ridiculous amount of cousins, their spouses and offspring. I agree that if it's just me, dh and dd that does not warrant a hashtag when we eat together. Some people are just desperate to be smug on FB.

And there is the shift that has become so common in MN. An otherwise fun thread gets trampled to death by the professionally offended. Why even bother?

some he older kids at my school (12/13 year olds) have gone one step further than this and use the word hashtag in conversation:
"It was sooo bad. Like, totally hashtag awks!" - it's, er ... annoying.

Wow, manicinsomniac I assume you're in the kind of role that forbids you from answering this with a cheerful #fuckoff?

Has taking selfies with a daisy chain around yr head been discussed yet? #putyourphonedownandlookafteryourfamalamalam

sadly, yes, paxillin