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To think all mums are tee total ?

112 replies

Horsegirl1 · 26/08/2016 21:55

Just that ! According to a certain friend a set of parents who do not drink are far superior than a pair who share a bottle of wine over dinner twice a week.

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SparklyShinyThings · 27/08/2016 09:51

I don't drink, having children didn't change that. I can relax and have fun without the need for alcohol. Millions of parents drink so it's not a set group.

So many seem to need it on a weekly/nightly basis that it's consumption is seen as the norm and the health implications, delayed reactions, dependency are ignored. Those that don't are seen as weird now not the other way round.

DropYourSword · 27/08/2016 09:51

...did you just answer your own OP?!

RaspberryOverload · 27/08/2016 09:52

I have one maybe two drinks a week on average. But only because I quite often forget about the stuff I have in the cupboard.

I don't believe being teetotal is any mark of a superior parent. I know couples who claim they are teetotal but who appear to be shit parents.

I do, however, believe that any parent who claims that being teetotal makes them superior to other parents is, in fact, likely to be an arsehole.

dowhatnow · 27/08/2016 10:00

There is nothing better than sitting round with a few girlfriends having a girly gossip and a couple of several drinks. It's quite nice sharing a glass with DH too and wine on the table with guests is a definite yes and enhances the occasion.

Can you tell I like wine?

SlimCheesy2 · 27/08/2016 10:00

I don't drink because I'm a recovering alcoholic too.

But I certainly don't think I am superior to other parents!!! I think only about myself and my parenting.

JoandMax · 27/08/2016 10:01

I drink more post DC than before!!!

DH and I and lots of friends are having a resurgence of our youth in our 30s. We go out at least twice a month, dinner, drinks, dancing, comedy nights etc.

Both DH and I were pretty drunk last night but got up with kids this morning and went to the pool then out for lunch (we're not UK).

I think it makes me a better mum, it's great to go out and have fun! I don't always drink and certainly don't need it to have fun but I like it!

Sgtmajormummy · 27/08/2016 10:05

So consuming socially acceptable mild stimulants makes you a bad parent?
Add chocolate, tea, coffee and energy drinks to the list and see how ridiculous that line of thought is.

TheDowagerCuntess · 27/08/2016 10:06

I don't know a single teetotal mum. And practically every female friend I have these days is also a Mum.

Pretty much all evening socialising involves wine, but that doesn't necessarily mean getting rat arsed. Actually, that is true - hangovers these days are intolerable.

mycatwantstokillme1 · 27/08/2016 10:06

Am teetotal because I've never found an alcoholic drink I like the taste of and what I have tried has always made me sick. But I can't believe that some people think that if you do drink alcohol (occasionally) it makes you a bad parent. wtf is all that about??

Porcupinetree · 27/08/2016 10:09

I actually am tee-total.

Mummyoflittledragon · 27/08/2016 10:09

Friend and I joke about "whine o'clock" being wine o'clock. So let's not get started on "acid hour" (which many littlies go through at around 3/4pm shortly after giving up daytime nap).

But on a serious note, I hardly drink as I have a medical condition. Used to pre child. Many parents drink to excess and yes, as a pp said, it's an issue prevalent in middle class middle aged women, of whom a fair proportion will have young children.

Mummyoflittledragon · 27/08/2016 10:10

Posted too soon. That doesn't necessarily make them had parents though.

hyperhypermum · 27/08/2016 10:16

I enjoy my weekend wine, it's my reward for surviving the week! I also drink on the rare occasions I go out, on holiday, special occasions etc. Most people I know drink to some degree, and I know a lot of mums. The few I know that don't are either Muslim or ex alcoholics. I do know one person that doesn't (she's not a mum) because she simply hates the taste of alcohol but she's a rarity I feel!

Darcychu · 27/08/2016 10:18

ill have a glass of something every few months (normally malibu, cocktail or Kopperburg), but i go months without, im not a drinker ^^

AStreetcarNamedBob · 27/08/2016 10:18

Husband and I both tee total and both parents. The two are not connected

Fallstar · 27/08/2016 10:23

I don't drink alcohol because I don't like the taste or the effects.

I don't think it's any of my business what other parents choose to do wrt drinking alcohol (assuming their kids are safe).

It pisses me off that people who don't drink alcohol are considered to be boring by some people who do drink alcohol.

And yes, you are being unreasonable to think that all mums (did you mean parents?) are teetotal as that makes no sense at all!

whywonthedgehogssharethehedge · 27/08/2016 10:27

I'm Teetotal. It has nothing to do with being a mum. I've never really drunk as I hate the taste of most alcohol. I also tip from happy to suicidal far too easily when drunk and won't take that risk. It's just not worth it.

harrypotternerd · 27/08/2016 10:34

I drink but not too often... come to think of it I can't remember the last time i had a drink. January maybe. I generally only drink if I go out or a special occasion. Next weekend is my birthday and my kids are being babysat and my partner and I are going to see a musical. I will be having a few cocktails while out but that's about it. I do not really care what other parents do. It's not my place to judge them on how much they drink

reallyanotherone · 27/08/2016 10:36

Nothing mon - thurs then Fri night comes and I sit at home with a bottle of wine and then do same sat and Sunday

I can't think of anything worse than sitting at home with a bottle of wine.

There is nothing better than sitting round with a few girlfriends having a girly gossip and a couple of several drinks. It's quite nice sharing a glass with DH too and wine on the table with guests is a definite yes and enhances the occasion

Again, disagree :). There's plenty better and no it doesn't enhance the occasion, for me...especially when the drinkers decide I'm boring for not drinking, and piss off to the pub.

Each to her own.

I don't drink for many reasons. Don't like the taste, son't like how it makes me feel, don't like how I feel the next day. Don't like looking after kids when I feel crap form drinking, it makes me snappy and impatient. Plus I can't afford the £15 a week it would cost me for 3 average price bottles- that's our holiday budget for the year.

TheLaundryLady · 27/08/2016 10:38

Lmao I drink because I'm a mum GrinGrinGrin

Ninasimoneinthemorning · 27/08/2016 10:41

pingu post is me to a tee, although I'm pregnant at the moment and fucking misrable

But long for the day I can have a nice cold corona with lime or a procecco .......

TheDowagerCuntess · 27/08/2016 10:44

There is nothing better than sitting round with a few girlfriends having a girly gossip and a couple of several drinks. It's quite nice sharing a glass with DH too and wine on the table with guests is a definite yes and enhances the occasion

Yes, yes and yes!

UmbongoUnchained · 27/08/2016 10:45

I don't drink when my daughter is in the house.

VioletBam · 27/08/2016 10:48

I barely drink anything. Maybe once every 3 months I'll have a bottle of champagne if there's a birthday among my friends...but nothing regularly.

Ketchuponpizza · 27/08/2016 10:50

I live amongst vineyards and wine is very much a way of life. We are all very happy. (Hic)