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AIBU?

OH has unilaterally found us a new house

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Natsku · 25/08/2016 08:24

Apparently we're moving in October. I haven't even seen the house. He's BU right?!

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Mynestisfullofempty · 26/08/2016 19:09

Were you hoping for lots of "He's abusive! LTB" type posts, OP?

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dowhatnow · 26/08/2016 19:11

I know someone whose Dh did that. She wasn't happy but had no choice in the matter. Their whole relationship sounds crap but I've said as much as I can.

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SoItGoesSophieTrout · 26/08/2016 19:15

I'm not sure he was BU - I mean are you the indecisive type? Wouldn't want to miss out on a great deal because of your dilly-dallying.

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CatNip2 · 26/08/2016 19:19

What a waste of a thread, it really isn't an issue. He saw a house to rent, not buy, half the rent of what you pay now, you were moving anyway, you can move in October, you are viewing next week.

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Natsku · 26/08/2016 19:47

Now I saw the pictures I decided he wasn't unreasonable as the house looks really nice although the kitchen cabinets are bright blue.

Maybe I am a bit less sure of making decisions so he didn't want to miss a good deal.

LTB posts would have made me giggle mynest.

And sorry catnip, when he called me saying "I got us a house, I'm the fucking man" (well that was the gist of it) I thought at first he had actually got us a house without wanting my opinion or anything.

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Natsku · 26/08/2016 19:49

Bloody hell HoneyDragon, no wonder you don't get to go shopping by yourself any more!

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HoneyDragon · 26/08/2016 20:48

Grin. It's a dead nice house

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Natsku · 26/08/2016 21:01

It better be a fabulous house!

The house OH found is a proper traditional little wooden house that they built for all the soldiers after world war II when they came back from the war complete with the obligatory sauna.

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AnnieOnnieMouse · 27/08/2016 00:45

Meh, it's a rental.
Dh used to be sent to a new site, stay in B&B while looking for a rental, then I'd move down without seeing it.
Changed a bit once we bought a house- I came down and spent two and a half hours looking at houses - found one that would do.

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Adnerb95 · 27/08/2016 19:30

What country is this property in? Curious - the wooden thing and the amazing low rental?
If the weather's nice, I might take it myself, if you can't cope with the blue kitchen!

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MolesBreathless · 27/08/2016 20:21

Blimey, it's only a rental! I thought you meant he's bought it...

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kennycat · 27/08/2016 20:46

My husband chose our current house. He saw it and we had to grab it immediately to have any chance of getting it. We had seen so many houses previously so he knew exactly what we were looking for so I totally trusted him with it. I saw it in th flesh about a week before we moved in.
He did well, I love this house.
I wouldn't trust him to buy me any item of clothing successfully though 😝

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Natsku · 27/08/2016 23:11

Finland Adnerb and the weather is fabulous or shite depending on your definition of good weather... going to see it on Monday, will post a picture

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jennn · 28/08/2016 07:33

AIBU (or a total prude?!) to be extremely offended by this?

OH has unilaterally found us a new house
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jennn · 28/08/2016 07:35

Sorry, new to this & posted by mistake, now can't remove it?!

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FeckinCrutches · 28/08/2016 07:47

You will have to report it to get it removed. Or you could leave it and we'll all laugh at you Grin

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Adnerb95 · 28/08/2016 07:53

Natsku - oh no, much too cold for me! Feel free to carry on 😀

Jennn - the mispost is funny, but the bib is anything but - so YANBU. This is foul.

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twirlypoo · 28/08/2016 07:59

That bib is awful - but did daddy rent a house without telling you first?!

OP, I'm glad it looks lovely. I once noticed £20k was missing out our joint savings account. Called my ex in a panic and he told me he'd bought a new build flat in Estonia..... a country we had never been to and had no links with..... he still owns it i think!

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bakeoffcake · 28/08/2016 08:12

My friend's neighbour's H decided to put their house up for sale, without her knowing. He just told her the night before that the agents were coming round the next day to value the house. Yes, he is a controlling arse and my friend has witnessed lots of his nasty behaviour.

My friend is very gently trying to persuade her neighbour to LTB.

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Natsku · 28/08/2016 11:50

Did he ever even go to the flat twirlypoo I wouldn't mind owning a flat in Estonia actually.

Well done jennn that bib is pretty unreasonable

Hope your friend manages to persuade her neighbour bakeoff

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HomeintheSun · 28/08/2016 15:47

We're a forces family, we've lived in 5 houses in 9 years. 2 of the houses neither of us saw until we pulled up outside and had to live there. I saw 1 without dh cause he was away and we've moved twice into houses where only dh had seen them, at the end of the day you're renting and it's not forever. Think of it as an adventure.

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Natsku · 28/08/2016 16:16

I shall think of it as an adventure :) the only readily obvious downside is that its quite far out of town but extra exercise from biking/walking that far every day is probably good.

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A11TheSmallTh1ngs · 28/08/2016 16:28

weird thread. op seems like she is laughing but in a brittle way and probably below the surface is a passive aggressive control freak.

at least her DH isn't in trouble (this time)

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Natsku · 28/08/2016 17:55
Hmm
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A11TheSmallTh1ngs · 30/08/2016 11:14

Well it seemed nicer than saying that the op seems like a passive aggressive bitch and i feel sorry for her husband.

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