AIBU to think you don't need a boy and a girl to complete a family?

[TheSconeOfStone]

I've got two DDs aged 8 and 5. I have to admit I had assumed that DD2 would be a boy as the majority of friends and family have this combination. I was surprised and a little disappointed a girl. Loved her at first sight with all my heart but felt regret that there would never be a boy (DH was determined to stop at 2 and that was the right decision for our family).

Had to put up with stupid comments about missing out on a son because 'boys love their mums' and 'DH must be disappointed' (no, he totally content with his girls). Family were very 'meh' on announcement of her birth.

Now my little brother and SIL are expecting B/G twins and everyone is delighted of course. My dad has said it's great that they are getting 'a complete family'. WTF are his darling grand daughters then? They are so different to each other. Each family and combination of children is unique.

I know part of the reason I am upset is little brother has always been the golden boy. He is very close to my mum and has more in common with my parents than me. He's even managed to have the correct configuration of offspring on the first attempt!

Really just ignore any comments. My DD passed away at 2... fell pregnant with DS and so many people said "wouldn't it be lovely if it was a girl" I found out through prenatal testing it was a he. Third pregnancy... twins. Again everyone hoped it would be boy/girl or girls. It was boy/girl (again through prenatal tests) but I lost the boy at 17 weeks. If I had pound from the people (some who even knew) that I have a gentleman's family I would be on holiday permanently. DS is the cuddliest 9 year old ever even though he's autistic and DD at 7 is much more independent.

None of it makes any sense, every pregnancy and every child is different and don't conform. So just ignore.

ColintheCrow sorry to hear about your losses. My DD1 is nearly 9 and has ASD. She is bright and chatty and cuddly but school is very hard for her. Love her to bits.

I never heard the term gentleman's family before coming on MN. Maybe my friends and family are too common to use it.

formerbabe yes I felt so strongly that I didn't want one boy and one girl that I insisted we have at least three.

Love the same sex friendships you get.

One each families miss out on that.

Oh Lordy be... I have a "pigeon pair" (wtf?) and I can say whilst there have been advantages and disadvantages with both, they are both lovely on the whole... But but but... There are times when it would be soooo much easier to have 2 the same... Obviously hand me downs is easier, more overlap with toys, hopefully more common interests so want to do the same sort of days out/hobbies etc but hey DD wore her brother's hand me downs and they are pretty easy going with each other in comparison with some mixed siblings they biggest headache is holidays... You can't expect a 16 year old boy to happily share a room never mind a double bed with his 12 year old sister... Cue 3 room accommodation and more expense! So enjoy your 2 DDs!loved our DS the moment he was born but we originally wanted 2 girls but don't tell my boy obsessed MIL🙄

Thanks Scone. I didn't mean to ask for sympathy just to say how little people think about what they say and everyone has a background story.

Ha about being common. So many types of people. South East to Ireland. It must be a fall back expression to the heir and spare or something.

DS sounds like your DD... he's moving up to the middle mainstream school here with so much work socially but runs rings around people! He's fab though.