To say that being height-ist is really mean

[GeorgiePeachie]

I've talked to a lot of guys on Tinder.
Often they bring up: Oh also I'm 5'5"/5'6" in case that bothers you.

I think it is AWFUL that there are women who make men feel this way about something they can't help.

Also It is really unattractive to have a guy come to you with their insecurity. like: If I said to a guy, oh by the way one of my boobs is bigger than the other in case that's a problem. and he said, oh thanks for telling me, I'm looking for someone more symmetrical.

That would be awful.

It's SO mean and its women that are making this happen. Love the short guys too.

[KatieScarlettReregged2]

I don't fancy tall men. I've tried but it just doesn't work. Feels all wrong.
I'm 5'1"

[WhooooAmI24601]

I don't find shorter men attractive. Course, there are exceptions, but I've never had a relationship with a short man. I think it's fine to judge on height; no different than judging on looks and, lets be honest, you need to fancy someone to have a relationship with him.

A friend of mine is the same height as me and married a guy last summer who is shorter. They're a fabulous couple and his height never bothered her. Horses for courses and all that.

[Oopsiedaiseyy]

I think Tinder is full of short men
When I was on it, I went on two dates and both were short..after that, I had to ask the height quite early on in convo. IMO there's no point in wasting each other's time. I prefer tall men as am quite tall myself (when I wear heels, if that's counts).

[SweetChickadee]

I'm tall and feel very butch when standing next to a man shorter than me. Not something I can change.

[FullTimeYummy]

Short is beautiful, just like big is beautiful.

So generally not considered beautiful then

[SleepyRoo]

In my brief experience doing internet dating, the men often exaggerated height. I'd arrive on the date and no way were they 6ft etc, as claimed. Silly really

[Ifailed]

How would people react to men specifying a minimum band and cup size?

[Ireallydontseewhy]

What is strange is that this only seems to be the case for men - obviously some men don't find short women attractive of course, but by and large they don't seem to care, or to 'rule women out' categorically on that basis. In fact tall women seem to think it can be a disadvantage to them in the dating stakes- whether this is true i don't know.
i suppose men may focus on other physical features (figure, prettiness being obvious ones) but if there were an evolutionary reason to prefer height you would think it would apply to both sexes. And i don't think it's because height is an indicator of strength in men, because that is not necessarily the case!

[VeryBitchyRestingFace]

Are Sophie Dahl and whassisface still together?

[TheViceOfReason]

I'm not attracted to short men. Nothing wrong with that.

Lots of men aren't attracted to someone my size. Nothing wrong with that either. When I was OLD I would make my size clear very early - no point wasting either of our time.

[VeryBitchyRestingFace]

How would people react to men specifying a minimum band and cup size?

They don't do that already on Tinder/PoF?

[SquidgeyMidgey]

I'm almost 6 feet tall and went out with a bloke the same height when I was 18. When I had heels on I had to bend down to kiss him and I don't care if it's not PC but I didn't like it, I felt weird. My DH is a man mountain and towers over me, I like that.

His writing comes over a bit bitter and tbh I'd be more concerned about that than his insufficient (or not) height.

[SomedayBaby]

Short men just don't do it for me and never have.

I would never outwardly come out and tell a man I wasn't interested because of his height because i'm not that rude...but you can't force people to be attracted to someone. And personally, i've never met a short man i'm attracted to. I'm 5'5 so can easily shoot up to 5'9 in a pair of heels or wedges and I want a man to be taller than me at my tallest.

[LastGirlOnTheLeft]

I don't think you can say it is women who 'make' men feel insecure with their height. As far as I can see it is other men who make an issue of it - tall men tend to earn more and be more successful because it is other MEN who appreciate their height. I have also heard men make jokes about 'short man syndrome' but have never heard women make the same jokes. I remember one man I used to work with say that he had never met a short man he liked.

So I think it is extremely unfair if you to blame women for how men feel!!

[ratbag]

I'm a 6ft tall woman and I don't find shorter men attractive, I also know from experience that plenty of men prefer to date shorter women.

We all have our personal preferences, nothing wrong with that

[MumOnTheRunCatchingUp]

I'm 5ft 11... You are welcome to the short men.

But then, they would look at me and think I'm too tall for them anyway, so not a problem

I dont care what you think of that op!

[Ireallydontseewhy]

I agree men are heightist as well about men, lastgirl but 'Short men syndrome jokes' appear on mn quite often - of course the pp may really be men rather than women, but they don't generally seem to be!
I think a short man reading this thread would also not be buoyed with confidence! So both men and women have their part to play...

[Curlgurl]

I'm 5ft6 and I also do not like short men. My three exs and current OH are all over 6ft.
My OH doesn't like tall women. Doesn't make either of us shallow, it's personal preference.

[Careforadrink]

I don't find short men attractive. I'm sorry but I don't. In fact 6ft is on the short side in my book.

I think it is hard wired. Into me at least.

But some men like small boobs. Some like green eyes. It is what it is.

I would never ridicule anyone for their height but you can't force sexual attraction.

[allthecarbs]

As far as I'm aware most men do have a preferred cup size.

[redlittlesquirrel]

I'm very "petite" and back in the days when I met a couple of guys online, I did pre-warn them about my height. I don't know why, I felt I had to - almost like it would be an ambush if I didn't. Though I think I probably had if easier than if it was the other way round as men are "expected" to be taller, I was always a bit worried it would be a deal breaker so thought it better to make them aware so neither of us were wasting our time.

It isn't nice to think that people would be so judge-y, but I think it's just a fact of life. I've had plenty of insults or stupid comments about my height, and yes, it sucks, but...well, people aren't the nicest of species.

[ivykaty44]

Op how tall or short are you?

[ivykaty44]

Are you 5f5 or 5f6? And how much shorter has your shortest bf been? Than you?

[Laiste]

How would people react to men specifying a minimum band and cup size?

Firstly I think you'd have to be very naive to think there are many men out there who have no preference one way or the other when it comes to boobs even if they don't articulate it. Secondly, if that preference is something they feel strongly enough about then ... why not specify? Wouldn't offend me dating sites are basically a cattle market for both sides after all.

[Lockheart]

I'm 5'10" and I don't really give a crap about height - as long as they don't. I have harboured some serious crushes on shorter guys, and I have dated shorter guys who couldn't see past the fact I was taller than them. One memorably took me to a family wedding (we'd been on 4 or 5 dates at this point) and then proceeded to try and get me to stay seated at the table all night, refused to dance, and then got huffy when his (married) brother danced with me, because he could see I was getting bored. It didn't last.

In short (sorry ), if it's going to be a problem for them, then it's a problem for me. No problem? No problem!