To have felt a bit scared for this newborn

[StripeyDogs]

Was in busy supermarket this afternoon.
Lots of kids/trolleys/shelf stackers etc.
There was a couple walking about, mum with trolley & dad with the teeniest of newborns I have seen in a while, all cute and floppy. But just being held in his arms.
I saw them a few times in the space of half an hr, and everytime all I could think was don't drop him/her!

AIBU for thinking it was a bit daft of them?

It is strange to see such a small thing. When they are in a buggy or a seat or a cot they take up more space. But in arms you can see how tiny and fragile they are.

But then you see the parent holding them and realise they are even safer there in arms.

But then again I got told off for walking around the maternity ward carrying ds in case I dropped him so clearly not just you who thinks they are at risk

If that's now neglect or harmful parenting, you are setting the bar very high. Your kids must get unbelievably brilliant care.

i carried ds 1 everywhere before baby wearing was invented in 1989 because if I put him in the pram dh and I would scrap on pushing him. In our defence we were young parents.

Good grief op don't be a knob. And I mean that nicely

Perhaps you should go round and check if they live in a bungalow. Can't have them carrying the baby upstairs.

Are you serious op? You are objecting to parents carrying their own baby?

I think you should wrap up about sling libraries and seek some help for your inappropriate anxiety.

I never put my dc in the trolleys or carseats around the supermarket so understand why they wouldn't want to do that.
The difference to being at home is there aren't other people about not knowing there is a newborn in arms, and not concentrating as they're shopping.
Also, you can sit down at home whenever your arms get tired

Not everyone likes slings you know?

Some parents don't like it, some babies don't even like it.

If I can make myself a cup of tea and hold a new born, I'm sure a man can handle shopping

They should have put him in a bag for life, keeps your other hand free and they are a bit stronger than the other bags.

yorkie I was carried in a sling and born in 1984

motherfuckers

that made me chuckle!

Bonkers. You could trip over while wearing a sling and crush the baby, if we're going down this mad what if route.

All the babies in the world being abused or neglected, and you're worrying about a loving dad, carrying his baby?

I can (and often do) make a bed whilst holding a newborn. :)

They're supposed to be portable!

Seriously? I've used wrap slings with all of mine, and DP doesn't like them. We don't have a pram so he has always just carried them in his arms until they're big enough for the ergo.

All three of them have survived unscathed.

That newborn sounds pretty safe - had one adult's full attention - can't see why that would spark worry unless he looked unsteady on his feet or something.

A friend of mine posted a pic on facebook recently of her 5 year old holding her friend's newborn almost by its legs, staring at the camera with the baby's head unsupported off the edhe of her lap and looking as if it was in the process of falling to the floor ... I had a millisecond of reflexive panic at that, but obviously it was a photo so too late to worry! The caption was something like "enjoying cuddles with baby Jack" not anything about the precarious position of the baby...

Reminded me why I never let other people's small kids hold my kids as newborns though!

You were scared for a newborn....because it was in its fathers arms and he had some milk and there were other people around?

Really? I can not believe you are serious.

I did all sorts of stuff holding Ds (who hated being put down and slings). Housework, cooked, made a cuppa, ate meals, are meals in restaurants etc.

Yabvu

Think its not your baby so not your business? It would be different if you had witnessed something concerning but you didnt you saw a dad holding his baby i wouldnt worry yourself

This would make me feel uneasy too. No matter how careful you are holding the baby you can't predict what other people around you are doing and it only takes one knock from a trolley or another child running around to do a lot of harm. I avoided supermarkets when mine were tiny and shopped online instead.

A lot of you seem to have much more physical shopping experiences than I do. I'm incredibly clumsy. I can't think of the last time someone bumped into me so heavily that I would have dropped my baby had I been carrying him.

What a stupid thing to say.
What do you think families in less fortunate countries do?

You have your arms free in a sling so if you do trip you can catch yourself.

Yes I'm fully aware that any harm was unlikely to happen to that baby but I still made me feel nervous seeing it in the busy supermarket.

I'm not overly precious normally, I too have carried my own dc whilst doing other jobs.

It was probably just the size of it and unusual occurance that made me notice and feel nervous.

Still, not something I would do personally.

But it's obvious that I am the daft one

Parents carrying a baby is unusual?

Shop in morrisons dearmr?

Yes in a supermarket nor That's the 1st time I've ever seen it so unusual to me