to think his standards are too high

[hollyonthegreendoor]

Just bought a house with DH.

He's constantly moaning about cleaning and saying it's messy. I went to the beach with friends yesterday and he went mad because there was sand in the car. After eating washing up has to be done now, that second. It's annoying me and making me feel like I have to be tidying constantly. AIBU?

OP, I think that different standards in cleanliness/tidiness can be an issue for a lot of couples. I'm a bit of a slob whereas DH is ultra tidy and finds it hard to relax if the house is a mess. We had a long discussion about it and I finally understood that he genuinely does find it quite uncomfortable if the house is messy or the dishes haven't been washed and he finally got that I was equally irritated by him constantly rushing around cleaning everything rather than sit and talk to me.We both made a real effort to meet in the middle - I tried to be tidier and he tried not to be so uptight about a bit of mess. It isn't a question of whose standards are 'right' - it's just one of the many things you have to negotiate when you live with someone. i know that DH found the clutter that comes with babies/children quite difficult but he just sucked it up because he recognised that he was BU to expect an immaculate or even tidy house when there are young children.
I think telling you to leave is a bit OTT - it is possible that he doesn't realise how his behaviour is affecting you so you need to really spell it out to him.OTOH, it could be that this is an escalation in controlling behaviour which, as PPs have pointed out, often starts or escalates in pregnancy.
You are working full time and you are pregnant. Most decent men take on the bulk of the housework in this situation and certainly don't berate their OH about domestic chores.