"Oh I didn't have you down as a mum of girls"

[OohMavis]

So this has been said to me a couple of times now, and I am confused. I promise that the next time someone says it I'll ask what they mean, but for now, mumsnet thread!

AIBU in thinking that there's no sort of marker for a mother of boys or girls? What does a mother of girls act/dress/speak like? How am I falling so short as to be unbelievable?!

Maybe it's the fact I have a 6yo DS too. Maybe he's polluted my 'mum of girls' vibe

What do they MEAN?

I think it is balanced out by SMOB, who recoil at anything other than toys marketed directly at boys. They also chuckle indulgently as their feral boys wreak havoc breaking other people's possessions and crush younger/smaller children.
"Oh boys. What can you do?"

I am MoB (adults) and this sort of attitude was quite common when they were small. These days what I get is "You must be a vegetarian".
Me - "No, why?"
Them - "You just look like a vegetarian"
Me - "What does a vegetarian look like?"
Them - "Well, you know..."
No, I don't know .

And where are the acronyms for men who pull faces at boys running around their little princesses?

Oh we don't have them do we, because we're not in the business of encouraging men to backbite each other in the area of childcare.

FWIW I get judged by both types. Lego/swords/climbing/engineering very active girls here. They also draw and role play games. The MoG don't understand why they aren't sitting nicely and the MoB don't like them joining in with the "boys" games.

Agreed Harlot One of my (ex) mum friends had four boys. She made it very clear she expected severe reprimands if my DD reacted back to her DS of a similar age, but frequently would laugh fondly while reciting that exact same behaviour in one of her boys. She openly told me she thought it was 'strange' I had the same rules for DS2 and DD - They're twins! That was when i cracked and cut her off.

Mums Of Boys Or Girls - Like everything else in life, some are just cunts.

I totally agree with your last sentence SpecialAgentFreyPie.

Children are children. If you constantly train them to sit down and play nicely regardless of biological sex, giving them stereotypical toy types - that's what they do. If you let them break things, run about in places where it is inappropriate and run roughshod over other children, eewing at any toy that is aimed at girls, that's how they will behave.

I am a full face of makeup, heels and dresses mum. When I found out I was pregnant with DD everyone said oh good, wouldn't have been any good if you had a boy!

Because obviously I would have been an awful parent to a boy .

I first encountered the term 'Smug Mother of Girls' in Slummy Mummy in the Times, over a decade ago, along with Alpha Mum, Sexy Stay at Home Dad, Husband on a Short Fuse etc.

I admit I have mentally applied these titles where they fit (especially the last one...). I'm a bad person.

I have one of each and they're both bloody feral despite everything I try. I don't look like a Mum of any sort, I look like an escapee from Devil's Island.

I keep being told girls are more high maintenance, surely the rule would be then if you had boys you'd look more styled? Tbh I dont bother anymore as dd is focus of everyone attention, I am just the one who pushes pram etc

at WhatTheHellNow's post

I think some people suit certain genders of children. IYSWIM
I know someone who is totally boy orientated as is her dh, but they have
girl.boy girl. I still can't get my head around the fact that they've got a higher ratio of girls that boys,as. They just don't suit being the parents of girls

I wonder how those people think the sex of a baby is determined. If outdoorsy women only had sons and girly women only had daughters, then there wouldn't be so many people desperately trying to finally have a child of the other sex by timing intercourse exactly right - all that would be needed would be a change in lifestyle.

Seems to be a relict of the days when women were blamed for not giving their husband sons.

I tought that nowadays we knew it is the sperm that determines the sex, not the egg.

I wonder if men ever hear that kind of shit ...

I know someone who is totally boy orientated as is her dh, but they have
girl.boy girl.

You mean they neglect the girls and prioritize the boy? That's ... worrying.

Not at all. They love all their children, but they just don't suit being parents to girls.

How do you mean, they don't "suit" being parents to a girl?

To that particular girl, or to girls in general?

What on earth does that mean?

And MeAnd's post shows precisely why those sort of bullshit phrases are harmful. It's just yet another mum vs mum thing

I agree with you there really. Until today I had never heard of a "SMOG". My next door neighbour is a mum of girls and she adores my boys and I equally adore her girls, and I also have friends who are mums of girls. They are the opposite of being a SMOG.

I don't doubt there are people out there who aren't used to the opposite sex of their children and therefore feel a bit awkward around them and even dislike them, but I think they are the exception and not the rule. Most people are normal.

I hope that's not me being naive either ^^

Tell them 'no! My name is khaleesi, an I am the mother of dragons!!!' Because that is a silly as the original comment!!!

mums of girls like facebook, cupcakes and have a cheeky tattoo.
they FUSS over their kids friendships and make it worse.

ANd when their daughters interrupt you they fawn all over them and don't tell them to piss off and play (POAP)

I have met a couple mothers I'd call SMOGs now I know the term. The ones I've met have also had boys but clearly favour the girls. They're also the ones keen to tell you "A daughter's a daughter for all of her life, a son's a son until he marries his wife", or whatever the saying is. Also, the maternal grandmother will be the favoured grandmother. I've had these two things said to me a few times now in a smug way so SMOG really suits two of the women that have said it to me.

People are very odd, I've never heard that one!!!
When I'm at work all my patients love to pass rude comments about my age and weight and I really have to bite my tongue.

I hadn't heard the term SMoG until today. I am not sure it's a thing, or its just women who were only children/only had sister(s) and now have girls- they are scared of boys because they have never had close contact with them.

I have, however, met a lot of parents who think their children should only play with children of the same sex. Girl/boy friendships are either frowned upon or labelled as "boyfriend/girlfriend".

Burntheblacksuit, they must have had some close contact with at least one boy!

What's the S in SMOG?