She's a GIRL

[Cashewnutts]

I'm fed up with my 4month old being labelled as a boy. Near enough every time I'm out with her, someone will remain to her as a he: how old is he? Isn't he cute! Oh look at him etc.

AIBU to be increasingly rude to these people when correcting them? Of course it's always random strangers and never the same ones, I'm just hugely fed up with correcting people, especially when she is clearly wearing girls clothes. (Or at the very least, something that identifies her as a girl such as a girls sun hat or cardigan)

Just to illustrate, here are some of the outfits she's been wearing when people have assumed she's a boy. We also have a Cosatto pram with blue and orange pattern but IMO it's very non gender specific.

All 3 outfits are mostly blue. Why keep putting her in blue clothes if youre annoyed with people thinking shes a boy? The first one looks very boyish tbh :/ dress her in more girly clothes and you might not get people being confused. Its sometimes hard to tell gender of babies so people do look at clothes for a hint, if they see blue they are not being rude when assuming shes a boy x

It's recall bias, you remember people getting the gender wrong not right. And really, who cares? Would you prefer no-one interacts with you and your baby for fear of causing some ill defined "non PC" offence. Just be pleased people want to catch and admire your baby...

Why did you buy a blue and orange pram for a girl and expect people to know its not a little boy inside 😕

allthecarbs

Never mind the blue... I once had someone walk up to me whilst I was holding my infant DD and ask, it's a boy??! Which would have been fine but she was wearing a pink and white candy striped baby gro, wrapped in a soft baby pink blanket with a pink dummy in her mouth! I think people just say what comes in their heads first and there is no point being annoyed !

Babies at 4 months all look the same, no way of knowing what sex they are which is why people often dress them in blue or pink. If you choose to dress the baby in gender neutral outfits people are going to guess, and sometimes guess wrong. If you're easily offended by that the. Something more gender specific to give people a clue would be a good idea

YANBU. My DS gets called a girl all the time even when dressed in blue. And he's 5!

As a baby my DS was often mistaken for a girl, to be fair he had a full head of hair and beautiful chocolate brown eyes so he was a pretty boy.
He was even mistook for a girl while wearing a navy snowsuit covered with a cars and trucks print.

Actually the clothes you posted a pic of really do on first glance look like boys clothes. The first pic when I enlarged it, I was expecting to be dungarees not a dress.

My baby boy was mistaken for a girl at the pool whilst wearing blue and grey octopus shorts :-) I don't mind. He has lots of pink clothes and things that have been handed down too. A friend of mine recoiled in horror when she saw that he had a pink sippy cup!!
My older brother was a very pretty child and was often mistaken for a girl. So much so that I remember my mum taking us shopping for school shoes and the lady bringing out 3 or 4 girls styles for him to try!! She was mortified. He was 15! This was the same year he was forcibly kissed on NYE by a couple of old men after auld lang syne......

Oooooh how exciting according to a PP I'm a "cool parent"!!! I've never been cool.

DD gets dressed in a lot of boy clothes, we have friends with a slightly older boy and therefore lots of boy hand-me-downs. DD, being 21 months old, doesn't give a shit about what she's dressed in. Long may that continue because I am really not looking forward to trying to launder a succession of Elsa princess dresses.

She's a little baldy though and so even when she's wearing a dress people often mistake her for a boy. Doesn't bother me, I either say "she" and they get all huffy and embarrassed, or I just agree that "he" is indeed very big / strong /handsome / wevs.

The only time it's ever got weird is when DD and another little girl were waving at each other and the other child's mum started on "he [ie my DD] is a little heartbreaker! If they were a bit older they'd be taking each others numbers and dating!" I was very tempted to say "I'd be happy for my daughter to date yours when they're older" but wimped out in favour of a strained grin and a non-committal hmmmuurrgghmmmm noise.

We also have a Cosatto pram. It has blue AND pink on. That confuses people.

My dd is 6. I love Blue she wears tons of cute blue things made for girls. Constantly have people assuming blue = boy. I rise above.

My dd is 11 with short hair and strangers give her hard stares all the time as they clearly can't work out her gender. She wouldn't change her hair though and loves the way she looks. Your dd is just very trendy!

Ds1 loved pink. People always called him a girl. Didn't bother him, so didn't bother us.

It was, however, extremely interesting to see how differently people behaved towards him when they thought he was a girl than a boy. The most obvious was when we were skiing, and he switched from a pink helmet to a grey helmet. People started treating him drastically worse, and telling him off for things that they were smiling indulgently only a day earlier. Whereas ds2, who on the same day went from a red helmet to a pink one, was suddenly allowed much more leeway.

I don't have any daughters, so it was a real eye opener to me!

YABU no one is doing it to upset you. They are just making a mistake. It doesn't matter. Lighten up.

My DD had a full head of dark hair and I mostly dressed her in white - everyone thought she was a boy?!
She looked so lovely and new and clean (sometimes) in white

She's 7 now and wears lots of blue, and red, she doesn't actually suit pink

You're going to need to get over this OP. I was still being mistaken for a boy at 19 - I had long hair and everything . You'll be in your grave if you let this get to you for the next 20 years...

I had to hold DD up to the light to see her hair. I dressed her in very obvious girlie pink clothes and still got asked "what's his name?" It did bother me but no matter what you do they'll call her a boy so justhat accept the compliment x

It's so upsetting isn't it MrsDeVere, it really gets me down. Mine even has what I think is a boys name in cat world and I would never think to call a girl cat it.

Your hamster looks gorgeous by the way, what's her name?

I lived in NY for a long time. Hispanic mothers always pierce their daughters ears really young and adorn their little heads with headbands when they have barely any hair. I always found it sad that they needed to stamp their daughters gender so hard...

My DD1 was a very delicate and feminine looking baby, and yet people often referred to her as a boy - no matter what she was wearing. It was much less obvious with my DD2, and yet everyone seemed to know that she was a girl. I never did get why that was! I tried to see the funny side of it though, and mostly didn't bother correcting strangers. And that stage soon passed. I am quite careful to try not to assume with other people's babies now.

My DS has long hair and very long eyelashes (not fair!) so is always mistaken for a girl. If I let it upset me, id be constantly upset. Literally every time we go out i get various 'she' comments.

Who cares? He certainly doesnt.

It is really frustrating. I had my daughter called a boy because she had blue socks on. She still gets it occasionally and she's three. Short hair.

She has delicate features. Sometimes she had gender neutral things on. Othertimes boy in a white dress with a flowery hat. Or even a pink dress.

Blue dress and leggings, definitely boy. Just don't let it get to you.