She's a GIRL

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I'm fed up with my 4month old being labelled as a boy. Near enough every time I'm out with her, someone will remain to her as a he: how old is he? Isn't he cute! Oh look at him etc.

AIBU to be increasingly rude to these people when correcting them? Of course it's always random strangers and never the same ones, I'm just hugely fed up with correcting people, especially when she is clearly wearing girls clothes. (Or at the very least, something that identifies her as a girl such as a girls sun hat or cardigan)

Just to illustrate, here are some of the outfits she's been wearing when people have assumed she's a boy. We also have a Cosatto pram with blue and orange pattern but IMO it's very non gender specific.

YABU to be rude to strangers about this. As a baby/toddler my DS had long blond curls and was quite 'pretty' and was often mistaken for a girl even when wearing very boyish clothes. I rarely corrected people because, well, why would I? They're strangers, why would it matter?

Both my DS's were very pretty babies and were both mistaken for girls, even when dressed head to toe in blue. Sometimes I corrected, sometimes not. I found it funny.

It's really not a big deal in the grand scheme of things!

Everyone thinks my DD is a boy unless I dress her in pink! I don't mind, I can never tell with babies either!! Just correct them but not rudely :)

People thought my DS was a girl until he was about 2 and a half. He has longish hair and has quite delicate features, people think he's "pretty".
It used to bother me but then I didn't care as it was mainly strangers making a comment like "She's so beautiful"

I had a cream pram but DD could have a pink hat on, pink romper suit and pink blanket with a pink comforter and people would still say "is it a boy?"

Last year I was making small talk with a mum at DS's playgroup and I mistook a 11 month old baby girl for a baby boy. The mum didn't look very impressed.
Yeah... it was a bit awkward.

*a baby girl should say her baby girl.

I really need to start proof reading before I press Post!

I have a red Pram and when my son was born he was often mistaken for a girl (despite the blue blanket). He had little hair but big blue eyes and long eye lashes.

I have daughter now and we're using the same red Pram. SHE gets frequently mistaken for a boy.

It has never bothered me for either child and I usually just roll with it. It only becomes awkward when I'm asked the name. Although, admittedly, I often considered just changing the name e.g. Telling people my son was Josephine instead of Joe if they got the sex wrong. Alas I could never bring myself to go quite that far!

It really doesn't matter.

I doubt there's a baby out there that hasn't been assumed to be the other sex. Colour/type of outfit seems to make absolutely no difference. My DD was often referred to as HE when she was wearing a pink dress and had quite a lot of hair. Don't take it personally.
I love that stripey outfit with the kite motif btw - v cute!

Look on the bright side, if she consistently gets mistaken for a boy her whole life, she's likely to be paid more in her career and unlikely to be catcalled.

Not likely to happen. But perhaps she can profit a tiny bit from male socialisation if she manages to be mistaken for a boy well into her toddler years.

Anyway, you're being unreasonable if you expect random strangers to be able to tell what sex your 4 month old baby is.

Put her in a shirt that says "girl", or perhaps this hilarious "When I am grown up I want to be a princess on a unicorn" baby shirt I saw somewhere.
Pink doesn't really mean much, you could be a parent who doesn't gender babies and just likes the colour pink, strangers cannot know that.

My mum always says that baby boys are prettier than baby girls, and have more hair. Admittedly she's no scientist, but I wonder ...

I once got told off by a waitress for not "putting holes in her ears, how are people meant to know" (I assume she meant earrings) . DD was 4 days old.
Since then I just don't bother correcting strangers, doesn't matter to me anyway and I prefer non super girly clothes.

My dd is always mistaken for a boy. I couldn't care less. Apart from the clothes (and the genitals) how would anyone know a baby boy from a girl? They're usually saying 'what a cute/ lovely/ beautiful boy' anyway. Change the word 'boy' to 'girl', whatever, they think she's lovely.

Not likely to happen.

Yes Vestal, it's what we on earth call a joke.

Not a great joke, but hey

It happens, it happened to my DM when my baby DS was dressed head to toe in pink... It happened when my DD was 12 - she has her hair cut in a bob and was wearing a baseball cap and is entirely allergic to pink but still!! DD was rather underwhelmed though too polite to correct the lady (a tour guide at a NT property) when she referred to DD, DS and their male friend as 'you boys'!!!

^^ my baby DS means my baby SISTER

Odd. I was next to someone at a shop today and the shop assistant called their baby a boy, and the dad corrected him to say she was a girl and was 4 months old...she had ginger hair. Was it you?

I've got b/g twins. My little girl was dressed in a lot of pink when I was on Mat leave and twins attract a lot of attention. I was probably asked "two boys?" 10 times a week, usually the second thing people say after double trouble. Smile and nod. Maybe even make up an alter ego for her, "this is my baby boy snake eyes, named after his daddy"

People can be rude. I have a nearly two year old and she is absolutely gorgeous. Whilst wearing a all I'm one pink suit, little sandles a elderly women came up and said oh look at him, I correct her and said she a girl. The women said ooh she got boyish looks then don't worry she grow out off it!! I was gob smacked. Ha some people .

My 3yr old is mistaken for a boy lots. She has long hair but mainly wears clothes that aren't pink.

My dd has been dressed in pink /purple and referred to as "he" quite a few times, and I think she's got a girly face!

Why does it bother you so much? YWBU to be aggressive to strangers who make such an easy mistake. My DD always gets confused for a boy, even when we have her in a dress or pink. She has so little hair that it's easy to confuse her and people don't always look at clothes. They apologise when we are in a situation to correct them but don't go out of our way with strangers. There's no point. Just brush it off.

Why does it bother you?

People still call my ds a girl at 14 months even when he's in blue.

I don't even bother correcting them unless they are asking a specific question about him.

Barely a day goes by without someone asking how old my little girl is or telling me she is cute. I politely corrected a neighbour who said "oh my goodness he really looks like a girl but is beautiful".

It's hard to tell sometimes so ywbu to be rude to people who are only making conversation.

Just how many random strangers comment on your baby, for it to be such an annoyance to you? I'll bet you've had no more than 2/3