She's a GIRL

[Cashewnutts]

I'm fed up with my 4month old being labelled as a boy. Near enough every time I'm out with her, someone will remain to her as a he: how old is he? Isn't he cute! Oh look at him etc.

AIBU to be increasingly rude to these people when correcting them? Of course it's always random strangers and never the same ones, I'm just hugely fed up with correcting people, especially when she is clearly wearing girls clothes. (Or at the very least, something that identifies her as a girl such as a girls sun hat or cardigan)

Just to illustrate, here are some of the outfits she's been wearing when people have assumed she's a boy. We also have a Cosatto pram with blue and orange pattern but IMO it's very non gender specific.

I've got 2 DD's and both were assumed as boys because I never dressed them in glaring pink! It's a little annoying but I blame shops and society in general rather than individuals.

Flogging I'd say I've had 30+ people call my son a girl although it doesn't bother me at all.

I dress him in quite typically boyish clothes but people aren't looking at that they still call him a girl!

Get her some of those 'I'm mummy's little princess' pink baby grows?

My DD wore nothing but pink dresses and hats/coats etc ... Always got
Called he when it was patently obvious she was in pink ---- some babies just look a bit boy like .... She's nearly 8 now and very girly - can't mistake her
For a boy anymore!!

AIBU to be increasingly rude to these people when correcting them? Of course it's always random strangers and never the same ones, I'm just hugely fed up with correcting people, especially when she is clearly wearing girls clothes

YABVU, no need to be a dick to complete strangers. What could it possibly matter if randomers think your girl is a boy? Do you feel somehow diminished, that there is something wrong or bad about having a boy?

Someone says your baby is cute and your response is to be rude because they guessed the sex wrong? Get the fuck over yourself.

People constantly think DS is a girl. I've even been told he's "too cute to be a boy". (I promise that's not a stealth boast, though he is pretty cute) Do I care? No. He's a baby. I did briefly flirt with the idea of getting a jacket I saw in Zara which said "little boy" on the front, but didn't get it in the end.

Ds 14 is always mistaken for a girl. He thinks it is hilarious. He is always dressed in sweatpants and hoodies and his voice has broken so when they refer to him as a girl, in a really deep voice he replies
'I'm a boy"

My LB has long curly hair and it happens to us all the time no matter whathe I dress him in. I usually don't worry too much unless I'm going to be withome that person but then I usually correct them with a laugh and a joke about how pretty he is.

the first outfit (the rainbow kite one) is like they used to dress baby boys in. Are the strangers older? The second one is fairly gender neutral, especially from a distance.

Really though they are probably looking at your baby's face and not really at the clothes at all. I agree though, why does it matter a jot that a stranger thinks your baby is the wrong gender.

I can't understand why strange, random people just don't say 'What a lovely baby!' Or just smile.

Obviously YANBU. The outfits are gorgeous, as I'm sure your baby is.

One one occasion I made a random comment regarding a small girl in the playground who wanted to play with my DCs - she was clearly a girl but wearing boys' clothes. Her mum stormed up to me and was furious that I had identified her daughter as a girl, as she was wearing boys' clothes. Clearly the mum had an issue.

I could only get a blue cosy toes when my daughter was born. Everyone assumed she was a boy whatever she was wearing. I used to do first shoes and it was tough having to guess gender for shoes. We'd ask if there was a particular pair or ask the child's name. Anything and Sam as answers meant we usually brought out something neutral to be told it was too boyish or girly. Don't worry about it, just say thank you, her name is...so they realise their mistake.

Just today a lady said 'he's' sleeping lovely isn't he? To which I replied 'yes she is' but she kept referring to him as 'he' several other times even with several polite corrections.

She looks like a girl. She has hair at 5 months, long luscious lashes, was wearing pink, had a pink blanket on her and a dolly hanging from her pushchair.

Sometimes even using the obvious colour does not help !!!

Take it as a compliment that they think your baby is lovely.

My gp once commented that it was such a shame that my son was a boy as he had such lovely eyelashes .

My daughter had hardly any hair until she was past 3 years old and often got mistaken for a boy. It didn't bother me and I couldn't be bothered correcting everyone.

She's 18 now and clearly a female, but ironically as most ot the teenagers I know now 'feel that gender is merely a construct forced upon them by us oldies!' and as this opinion will probably become even more so by the time your daughter is a teen, on that basis yes, you are probably being unreasonable and wasting an awful lot of energy caring 😃

I don't get this
No-one ever looked in my pram
No-one ever commented

I used to get this all the time with my DD. Strangers used to remark what a lovely little boy she was (maybe because she hardly had any hair at that age I don't know). Even when she was dressed in very feminine clothes, or in bright pink it still happened, made no difference at all. It did used to wind me up.

Oooh can we post baby pictures and guess? Lowers tone....
I'll start in gender neutral white and a teething flush

It happened to my 7 year old DD about a month ago. My children dress and play how they want (as long as they are safe and decent). She has long hair but was in football clothes and had a baseball cap on. She was a bit surprised but didn't bother us.

They look like boys clothes How else are ppl going to know what sex your baby is yadbu babies are notoriously difficult to tell what gender they are by just looking duh!

My son is 11 months and had blonde curly hair. Therefor he is a girl. A very cute one. I don't bother correcting. He has time enough to be a boy

Yanbu I get this all the time with my cat and it drives me crackers.

My DD has had a full head of blonde curls since she was very young, with big blue eyes and imho looks very much like a girl even at 8 months. Hasn't stopped people saying what a beautiful little boy when she was wearing a pink tshirt and covered with a pink blanket. I just think it's kind of them to think she's gorgeous (and totally correct obviously!)

DD was quite bald until about a year, people always thought she was a boy, even when wearing a floral garden, pink leggings and sat in a pink pushchair! I would gently correct people 'how old is he?' 'She's 6 months' but honestly don't let it get to you, your DD won't care, just be glad they're saying she's cute!