To be fed up?

[Amy214]

Every year me, dm and aunty make plans to go out for the day (all dc included) we do different things every year but we always have a picnic (depending on the weather) we always make an effort to invite SIL but in the 4/5 years that we started doing this she hasn't been once but her dc come with us.
Her dc spend every weekday at my house (8am-4pm) and sometimes they stay overnight at the weekend. Her eldest dd also goes to my aunties once a week (after she has spent the day at my house)
I have my own dd (2 years old and is a bit of a handful)
This year I don't want to take her dc if she isn't coming (i've had them for the full summer holidays) i'm fed up of having her dc every weekend and would love to have time so i can just focus on my dd. I don't mind them being here through the week, its hard to keep them entertained with so little on offer but i manage.
I have asked her twice if she is coming with us and both times she has said she doesn't know and will let me know soon (we are going on saturday)
So WIBU to tell her that i don't want her dc to come unless she makes the effort to actually come with us?

I think i caught her on a good day!

Have you had anything from db? Fingers crossed no angry messages yet means it will be a mild grudge at worst x

Any word from db yet?

Fingers crossed silence means it's at worst a mild grudge x

So my first post did work! Damn you Internet!

No word yet, he's had bad time of it at work (his tools got stolen) i don't think he's bothered about it (which is good news)

I'm astonished that they've had you providing free childcare for them for months- you suddenly stop and they 'aren't that bothered'!!

I'm so glad you told her!

rollonthesummer i'm surprised aswell, i imagined all sorts but it was fine. I know they got annoyed with my dds behaviour (pulling Dniece's hair) i didn't let Dniece do it back as it just makes the situation a lot worse but dd does get punished for it (no treats, naughty corner for 2 mins, made to apologise) i thought i was doing ok but they did complain about it a lot. So maybe that was a factor? (they thought i wasn't doing anything about it)
I'm glad that i've stopped because i can focus on trying to improve dds behaviour. She was a lot happier today although she was running around the house this morning calling their names and shouting 'where are you?' i just told her they were at home and she would see them soon (only thing i could think of) i'm not even sure where they were.

Does your SIL read mumsnet during her 'breaks' ? She may have known exactly what you were going to say !

No she doesn't.